Do you know someone who never says thank you?

[Evil Genius]

I have someone in my life right now that never utters those two words. It doesn't matter what you do for them or offer to do for them. It's starting to make me a little crazy. I guess I was just raised better than that.

 

[momsgoofy]

I feel for ya!

My youngest nephew's wife is like that and it really annoys me! They were married back in 2002 and I've yet to receive any kind of thank you (formal or informal) for the bridal shower or wedding gifts. Nor have I ever received a thanks for either of the kids (born 2003 and 2005) baby gift, birthday or Christmas gifts. Of course, it's not just her because my nephew could utter the words himself before he married her, but alas I don't hear it anymore. The only time they have ever even said thanks to me has been after I've babysat the kids, which still surprises me when I hear it.

Early on I thought I'd cut them off with the gift giving, but since I only give to their kids anymore I figured they shouldn't be penalized for their parents shortcomings. Now, I just hope that the kids figure out how to show gratitude and appreciation on their own.

Now, the oldest nephew's wife is awesome! She's taught their kids to always say thank you even for the smallest gesture. For example, I'd ordered something from their oldest son's school fundraiser and when they delivered the item, there was a note from the son (in kindergarten), which he'd written himself..."Thank you for buying pizza from me." I'm sentimental so I've kept it to show him when he's older.

Hope ya get some appreciation from this friend soon or figure out a way to let them know that it's upseting to you.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

My fil used to be like this. I know it wasnt just me, when my mil was alive I never once heard him utter a thank you to her for anything. Not for a meal, clean clothes, nicely kept house etc. My mom would have fil over for thanksgiving, christmas meal etc. Never once did he say thank you etc. If he got a gift from our ds, the grandkids, never heard him say thank you. I have always taught our ds to say thank you. I think its really important.

 

[Sinderelli]

Yep, my SIL...it goes with her whole entitlement attitude. I was really PO'd, though, when her youngest DD was born. My 82 year old grandmother, who has macular degeneration and can hardly see, made her a homemade pillow for the baby. I know it took her weeks, because she could only sew when it was very sunny outside (she would sit by her front window). Well, my SIL NEVER acknowledged the gift- no thank you note, nothing.

I still regret not forging a thank you note to my grandmother.

 

[willis37862]

I know too many people who seem to not know what Thank you means or when they should say it I was taught to say Thank you and Please and not to feel entitled to things but it seems others were not. Dh and I send gifts to our nephew several times a year and not once has my SIL or BIL acknowledged them or said thank you with a phone call or a note

 

[AKL_Megs]

My old boss.

Thank God he is gone. My life is 100% better without him. My new boss is a dream.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i had a girl who was like that when i was in college. we were sort of friends. we talked on the phone a few times and i gave her a ride to and from class and some of the lab places we had to go to. and i never got a "thank you" from her. luckily we never got that close in the end. and i think she lives in California or someplace like that, now.

 

[WooHoo2U]

Most of the people we saw at WDW getting served their food!

 

[DISUNC]

I have someone in my life right now that never utters those two words. It doesn't matter what you do for them or offer to do for them. It's starting to make me a little crazy. I guess I was just raised better than that.

YES, and it drives me crazy!

THANK YOU for posting this subject Evil Genius!

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

My DH, and it drives me nuts. I always say Thank you for everything and it gets on my nerves for him not to do it.

Suzanne

 

[AprilShowers]

Some of my kids friends. Most of them are great kids and we love them! But there are a select few, that no matter what you do, it's just not enough.

 

[DMickey28]

Yes!!! My MIL, drives me nuts!

I admit that i am horrible w/ Thank You cards! I am getting a lot better at it, but I am pretty bad. I always do say Thank you verbally either when I see the person or over the phone.

 

[princessdaisy]

Alot of people don't know how to say "thank you" or "please"...it is so sad. I lost count how many times I have heard people bark orders to employes at stores, restaurants, etc. -"Give me the red shirt" and doesn't even say thank you when the employee climbs up the ladder to get the very last red shirt on the shelf...ugggh, I hate bad manners

 

[Chattyaholic]

Yes, I know people like that.

1) There is a co-worker who almost never says thank you when I help her with our clean-up chores at the end of our Friday night shift together. If I'm doing something else and she puts down the chairs in the room I just mopped, I always tell her "thank you" but if I do the same for her she never says it. And the other day when I got to work she was really busy so I wrote up the front board for her (with our buffet menu/specials) and later in the evening I heard her tell the boss she never got time to do the front board, I told her I had done it and she just said "oh." No thanks at all. Makes me really not want to help her out...but I still do...

2) Customers at the restaurant where I work. Some just never say "please" or "thank you" or "could I please have...." or "when you have time would you please get me...." Some of them just ignore you when you refill their glass, or bring them extra napkins, or when you put their food in front of them. And when someone says "give me...." they will be the last one served. I would much rather spend my time on customers who have manners and know how to use them.

 

[LadyShiva]

Yes, I know people like that.

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2) Customers at the restaurant where I work. Some just never say "please" or "thank you" or "could I please have...." or "when you have time would you please get me...." Some of them just ignore you when you refill their glass, or bring them extra napkins, or when you put their food in front of them. And when someone says "give me...." they will be the last one served. I would much rather spend my time on customers who have manners and know how to use them.

I'm so glad to see you say this... I fell in love with my DH on our first date when I saw him also say "please," "Thank you!" and "May I..." to our server. I always wondered if servers cared. It is very important to us.

Thank you!

Brandie

 

[Camicar]

As a child, my uncle married a woman like that. It became a huge bone of contention, but it quickly became apparent that her lack of manners was symptomatic of a greater problem -- the woman was a total witch. My uncle ended up cut off from the rest of his family.

As an adult, another part of our family is like this. I taught them to say thank you by refusing to give them any more gifts until I got a thank you call or note. It was that simple and straightforward. Recently, one of the adult females in that family thanked me for teaching her that lesson because she's watched other people with that flaw have problems as a result.

I also had a boss who refused to say please, thank you, or I'm sorry. No matter what. He has lost almost all of his employees over the years due to his rudeness. A friend of his actually told him point blank one day that he was losing employees due to his rudeness and the guy shrugged and said we were all weak wimps then and should leave if we couldn't handle his 'realness.'

I would never marry a person who lacked basic manners bec I think it comes part and parcel with my aunt's attitude and my boss believing that he was 'real' when he was just rude. Life is too short to spend it with witches of any gender.

 

[Chattyaholic]

I'm so glad to see you say this... I fell in love with my DH on our first date when I saw him also say "please," "Thank you!" and "May I..." to our server. I always wondered if servers cared. It is very important to us.

Thank you!

Brandie

You're welcome!

When my customers look me in the eye and say "please" and "thank you" and smile back at me when I smile at them it goes a long, long way towards the type of service I'm going to give them. I will bend over backwards to please people who are polite to me, and don't treat me like a "servant."

Yes, I am there to serve my customers, but I am a person with feelings and when customers never say "please" or "thank you" or offer a smile it just doesn't make me want to do much for them beyond the minimum.

Oh, and when parents teach their children to say "please" and "thank you" it is even better. Children that have manners are a joy to wait on, along with their parents!

 

[Keli]

I've always been one to say 'thank you' a lot but there is one situation that it seems like I almost always forget initally and have to turn back and say thank you as an afterthought. And that is when I am asking for directions.
I'm always so busy processing the info they've given me (which I am very thankful for, btw) that I catch myself saying a distracted "uh, ok" type of thing and turning away. Then it dawns on me that I haven't thanked the person and I have to turn back to them to say "thank you very much, I really appreciate your help".
You'd think I'd stop doing it since it bugs me so much but I couldn't tell you the number of times I've had to turn back to thank someone for directions. No telling how many I forgot to thank altogether.

 

[htmom]

My husbands family. I never mentioned it too him but while he was in the military and away I would send gifts for all the holidays and cards, but never even got notified that they arrived. (I know they did because I saw the things in their house) I just let it go. Well dh helped me get a gift for his aunt and his mom together a few weeks ago and sent it. They NEVER called to say thanks or even we got it. He is super pissed and says they won't recieve anything else from our family.

 

[LadyShiva]

It always tickles DH and I when DD (2.5, almost 3) says thank you without any prodding. She's good with "thank you" but not so much with "May I" or "please." We're still working on those concepts. *sigh*

*watching her throw something* Along with "no throwing things in the house" and a thousand other things I'm already tired of saying...

Brandie