Do You Have Any Regrets?

[Tigger&Belle]

I've found that having regrets is more detrimental to my happiness than having made the decisions that perhaps I "should" regret.

Hmmm, I think I know what you're saying (I haven't had my first cup of coffee, though, so I can't be sure ). Too much dwelling on what a person could or should have done differently is not good and I agree. Thinking through some of our decisions is a natural thing to do. I wonder if men and women have different perspectives on this.

WDWMom, I think this is the saddest regret that I've read here yet.

AllyandJack, too bad there isn't a simple test that can tell people their likelyhood of conceiving when they are younger. I've heard of so many people waiting until the right time to find that they then have problems. I wish you the best!

I also have the "didn't finish college regret". I think that I had a bit adult ADD going on because I've always struggled with finishing things that I've started. You should see these projects that need to be finished at my house. I've thought about going back to school and finishing (my oldest just started college), but then what? My DH is fine with me going back, however, he would not be fine taking time off from work when the kids are sick (my youngest just started kindergarten, so no little ones to take care of), etc. So I don't know if it's the best family decision. But in 20 years will I regret not going back now? Hard question to answer.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I regret not finishing college. I left college because I was "in love". Wrong, wrong thing to do! Now I want to go back and he is giving some resistance to this. Now I tell both kids that they ARE going to college and will get good jobs and that no education is worth giving up for a man or woman. Life is too short and uncertain to not attain the goals you want in life.

I'm so trying to get my kids to understand the importance of finishing their education. Problem is, they have to make their own decisions (and sometimes mistakes), as much as it pains me.

 

[scanne]

I don't know if it's regret or longing.

I've always wanted to be a performer at WDW. I've auditioned three times. Unfortunately, being 5'0" and NOT 100 pounds (much more than that) I was not cast because I didn't have the "look." I was auditioning for singing/dancing roles like Belle or when they used have shows in the MK with these 5'10" 100 pound dancer/singers. Even when you audition they give you descriptions of each character. Belle has to be 5'4" - 5'6" and (implied) thin. So each time I see a show at WDW, my heart longs to be up on that stage singing!!! I told my DH that someday I will sing at WDW - I want to audition for Voices of Liberty or American Vybe. Those don't seem quite as type-cast as the others I went for when I was in my late teens/early 20's. Now, being a mom of 2 and having parental responsibilities, it would be very irresponsible of me to go Orlando and audition. Maybe someday....

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

I think we all have regrets, if we didn't our life would be perfect and who has that.

I regret not being a better mother. I think sometimes I expect way too much of DS and wish I had more patience and understanding, plus spent more quality time with him.

I regret selling our house in our other neighborhood and moving to this HORRIBLE house in the country. Its been for sale for over 6 months now and I sometimes think, they are going to bury me here.

I regret not standing up to DH sooner to move completely out of PA. I can't stand it here, and nonchalantly over the years brought up moving, but always gave in when he said no, he didn't want to. Now, it eats away at me , to stay here. He'll never leave now, since he's been working at his company for 17 years, and jobs are hard to come by for his profession. The majority of our family is here, but it may be horrible to say, but sometimes being nearby isn't as great as you think it may be.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I The majority of our family is here, but it may be horrible to say, but sometimes being nearby isn't as great as you think it may be.

Oh, I never wanted to live in the same town as our families. I wish that we were close enough to drive to our families for a weekend trip, which would have meant living in Northern California. Yes, too close can be bad, depending on the family. My MIL would have been very meddling had we moved close to her. Would not have been good!

 

[SillyMe]

My theory is that if you have no regrets then you really never took any chances. So yes I have regrets, but I wouldn't change any of them for the world.

I guess I lived on the edge then. Sadly, I have a lot of regrets. I made alot of stupid decisions when I was younger that I regret, but on the positive side, it has made me the person I am today...more responsible, wiser and stronger.

 

[jrydberg]

Nope. No regrets. Everything I have done/chosen adds up to make me who I am today. I'm very happy with who I am

 

[antmaril]

I regret not speaking at my father's funeral. I have a HUGE fear of speaking in public and could not find the courage to do it. However, I will regret it for the rest of my life

 

[RadioNate]

I regret nearly all of the dating choices I made as a teen and in my early 20's. Boy I dated some real losers and it has left some serious scars.

I don't regret moving away from family. As my mom gets older, if she really needs my help she will move to me. Luckly we've got 10-15 years before we really need to think about that.

 

[Keli]

We moved far away from friends and family when my dd was two. After four years we realized she was growing up without a real connection to family and we just couldn't leave things that way. We moved back and I've been very thankful ever since. And Ashli grew up very close to her grandparents and aunts, uncles, and cousins. Was a good decision.