Do you have a favorite DD or DS?

[WIcruizer]

One of those taboo topics. Very few people with more than one child would admit they have a favorite. Yet I look at my parents now, and it's pretty clear to the 6 of us who the favorite child is for each parent. We joke about it to each other, and in our case I don't think anyone is hurt by it in any way.

So it's only natural to ask myself the same question. Do I have a favorite out of our 3 DDs and DS. I don't think so. I tend to spend more time with my DS, because of his age and I coach some of his sports teams. But I really feel I love them all equally.

How about you? What if you were forced to choose?

 

[Aidensmom]

I only have one child, so I can't speak for myself (though both DS and DH have accused me of loving my pets the best ). I can say one of my siblings was definately my mom's favorite, but I don't think she loved him more or anything, just that their personalities were similar, so I understand that. I don't neccessarily think that is a bad thing.

 

[Chip126]

I have three sons ages 16, 13 and 1. I can't say that any one of them is my favorite, but I do have different relationships with each of them. Their personalities are sooo different that my relationships with them are different. I love them all equally, but my 16 year old is very "challenging". My 13 year old is very "easy", and my one year old...well......I will have to wait and see.

 

[inaminute]

I love my kids equally, but I like them for different reasons. One is very independent, carefree, and impulsive. The other is thoughtful, down to earth, and caring.

Now, if you ask any of my family who my favorite kid is they would tell you my grandson! I admit it--he is my favorite!

 

[the kabuki]

I honestly can't say that I have a favorite.
With DD12, she has the same sense of humor I do, so we can laugh a lot together. And with her being the oldest I enjoy a more adult type of conversation.

With DS8, he's my only boy and I can enjoy doing "boy" things like playing football, baseball with him. Plus he's much less moody and more easygoing than my DD

With DD4, well knowing that she's my last, I'm just loving everything about her toddler years, her learning new things everyday.

I guess I'd say that with each child it's an entirely different relationship, so I can't compare one over the other and say this one is my favorite.

 

[Beth76]

Well, I couldn't pick a favorite, but I will admit that I think my younger son is cuter. I thought my first son was a cutie and would grow up to be a heartbreaker. He still is, but my younger son has those big, bright, blue eyes that could melt anyone's heart.

 

[JVL1018]

I have a son and a daughter and I don't have a favorite-I love them both more than anything..however I do think my daughter is easier, so I find it easier to do things with her because she doesn't act up, act defiant, run around like a loon, like a certain little man that I know.. LOL
But even so I don't choose to take her places over my son, it's just easier when I do happen to be out and about with her. But that's okay-he's worth it.

 

[Gupsmom]

hmmm...I think I love different "parts" of each of my 3 children the best. I guess that goes along with the post that says I have a different relationship with each of my children. I feel that I love all 3 kids equally. I just get a kick out of different aspects of their personalities. My son is smart and funny. He's fun to explore with and he eats up the personal attention. It's also fun to watch him charm other adults. My middle DD is easy going and open to new experiences. She's athletic and artistic and she's my joiner. I love watching her try new things and her willingness to do so often gets me to try new things. My youngest is my baby. She let's me nuture/coddle her more than the other 2. She's also a deep thinker and wonderfully verbal. I have great conversations with her. 3 kids, born w/i 33 months of eachother...all raised by the same parents at basically the same time and they are SO different. It's amazing!!

Jess

 

[megan4777]

I'm the favorite b/c I'm married and have 2 beautiful DD's. My brothers haven't reached that point in their lives yet. When they have kids, they'll be the favorite
Right now I couldn't choose between my 2 DD's. My oldest is 2.5 yrs and my youngest is 4 months. I know when I was pregnant I was slightly afraid that I'd be worried about how "time-consuming" DD#2 would be but that's so not the case. Each child is unique, special, lovable and entertaining in their own way. I felt SOOO guilty for feeling this way about DD#2 but then I talked with friends and family and found that they all felt the same way when they were expecting their second b/c all of their attention was so focused on the first.
I do wish the first would potty train, though....

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I have three children, and I love them equally. However, I have a special bond with my youngest son. He's 3, and I think part of the reason I feel closest to him is due to the fact that he's the only living biological child that's from both me and my dh. Our son Matt is adopted, Hayley is from a previous relationship, and we lost our two other sons. I tend to have more patience with him, but he's also my easiest child. My dd is my princess, and the bond with Matt has taken longer because we adopted him when he was 2, and emotionally I struggled with Matt, because around the same time we got him, I learned I was pregnant and that my baby wasn't going to make it. So the bonding didn't happen as quickly as I would have liked. But I love everyone of my kids, and I'm very careful to not show favoritism, though I'm sure it does come out from time to time.

 

[Buckalew11]

I only have one also (& she, like Aidensmom's DS does his mom, accuses me of loving my dog more but I'm telling you, I love them both the same! )

I am always telling my parents that out of their 3 DDs, I know I was the pick of the litter!!! LOL

 

[lucyanna girl]

I have two DSs and one DD. My DD is our wonderful surprise who came along when her brothers were 17 and 14 so she is everybody's baby!
When there were only the two boys I never had the same favorite all the time, my favorite was always whoever needed it most that day.

 

[Annie68]

I can honestly say that I love both of my children equally! My DD is a beautiful, funny, intelligent girl who I enjoy spending time with. My DS is a very loving, intelligent, all around sweetheart.

I am truly blessed having them in my life.

 

[golfgal]

It all depends on the day !

 

[Marseeya]

I guess you could say I do have a favorite, although I love both of my kids equally. DS has been difficult most of his life, and now that he's a teenager, he breaks my heart on a constant basis. It's like living with a caged tiger. Sometimes he'll be okay, but then WHAM! He'll leap at you and eat out your heart (he's bipolar). It's so hard to live with, and as I said, he breaks my heart into a million pieces. I think only another parent with a bipolar child can understand this. I relate to him pretty well because of his quick wit, intelligence, and sarcastic sense of humor. We're very much alike in so many respects.

My DD, on the other hand, I'm so close with. She's affectionate, loving, sweet, and compliant. She's still at the age where she wants to be with me all the time and I love being with her. On the other hand, I don't relate to her quite as well. She's so totally different from me -- cognitively slow, very girly girl, and way too sweet.

anyway, I know this sounds bad, but I'm being honest.

 

[NMAmy]

I only have one so she's my favorite (although, like Aidensmom, I've been accused of liking the dog better from time to time--well, she NEVER talks back, what can I say?)

One reason I only had one child was because of my mom's blatant favoritism of my younger sister. She's always favored her over the rest of us and, in fact, even though my sister is 39, Mom still thinks the sun doesn't shine till sis gets up. I really didn't want to have the same thing happen in my family because it's caused me so much pain over the years.

 

[poohandwendy]

For me, there is no favorite, they are all so different I really can't compare. But I will say that there are different times where I am closer to one or the other...it changes constantly. It just depends on circumstances, where they are in their lives.

But an actual favorite? No.

 

[crz4mm2]

Yep I do. I love them both, but I do have a favorite.
One visits this site so I won't tell which is the favorite

 

[powellrj]

it depends on what time of day it is!! I have 3 and they are all my favorite but for very different reasons! Sometimes they are all my favorite, and sometimes nobody is my favorite! My oldest was the "Challange" my middle is my "moody/artistic" and my youngest is "blondie". Some days I really don't need the challange, but need a good dose of blond, other days I don't need the moods, but am up to the challange.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Of course I love all my children, but there have been times that I've been closer to one vs another. My 12yo son was such a well behaved, delightful child from 1-11 years old. He truly didn't give us any grief--no terrible twos, talking back, etc. He was know by his older siblings as "the perfect angel". I can't say he's so perfect now and I'm getting his teen attitude, but in many ways he's still easy (does his homework without any prodding or help, etc).

But there are things about each of my children that makes them my favorite in that particular way. My 18yo DD is fun to talk to and now that she's in college it's a different relationship. My 15yo has a wonderful sense of humor and is a bright child, but not in the traditional way (which makes it even more fun sometimes, frustrating other times). My 12yo is so driven--in his schoolwork, sports, playing outside, and really everything he does. My almost 6yo has been the hardest since he has been my most difficult by far. But as he gets older and is better at controlling himself I'm seeing really wonderful things about his personality.

So they are all my favorites, in various ways.