Do you ever wonder....

[Cruise04]

What your life would be like if....

When I have a hard day or have a hard week or month I always tend to lean toward, I know it's bad but what if my life weren't like it is now.

What if I would have married the guy I dated in high school - he has been convicted of several offenses in the past including contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

What if I would have not gotten laid off a job I had been at for 5 1/2 years (I was laid off a little over 12 years ago). I've got a good job with great insurance and if I wouldn't have had that happen, I probably wouldn't be with my current husband (I met him where I work).

What if I would have stayed with my ex....he's been through many jobs since I've known him (over 35 to be exact), he doesn't pay his bills and it was a big struggle when we were married to make ends meet. I always wonder if I would have ever had a chance to own a home or live nicely if I would have stayed with him. And then I wouldn't have had the chance to meet my wonderful current husband and live the life I live now - which would have meant NO DISNEY!!!!

What if my dad and brother wouldn't have gotten into a fight and missed 11 years of not talking (they have begun talking since my mom passed). What would our lives have been like? My dad and my bond got stronger because of this I believe.

So do you ever have those what if moments???? You don't have to reveal. I was just wondering..

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by Cruise04
So do you ever have those what if moments???? You don't have to reveal. I was just wondering..

Well Cruise, I have to many of those moments, but refuise to live in the past

What if she said YEs I will mary you
What if I wasn't running late to work the day of that accident
What if I never take down those christmas lights

 

[tiggersmom2]

Honestly I don't do "what if's". Everything I have done in my life has lead up to the person I am today.

 

[Cindy'sCastle]

When I think about all that I've been through and come out of, I usually think Thank God He's brought me out of this and took me here. I'm so glad He's guided my life and my childrens lives. We live in a peaceful and fun atmosphere now. We can joke and have fun together. We can cry and hug each other. It's such a miracle to see how our lives are now compared to what we've been through. We have a wonderful DH/DDad that is in our lives now. He is always there for us no matter what. I give all the credit to how wonderfully we've been blessed to God.

Cindy

 

[Pin Wizard]

Absolutely! I'm not happy where my life is/has been for a decade. You better believe it!

 

[helenabear]

I sometimes have those moments... and then I realize very quickly those are the very things that make me who I am today, for better or worse. I wouldn't want to change any of that for the world... on thing would have thrown me into a place I may not like to be.

 

[antbritt]

I always say that I would not change not one minute as like the others have said I would not be the person I am today. Like for instance What if I had of left the Creep earlier ....... Humm My DD is in the other room and I cannot for the life of me imagine my life without her!!!

So along with the what if's are those three brother's my friend used to talk about"""" Shoulda
Coulda
Woulda
3 Brothers who never got anyting Done. I think the What IFs must be related to them!

In order to have FLowers the Rain must come also.... So I would not give back not one frop of Rain!

 

[tazz23]

Antbritt- Thats a really sweet way of putting it- In order to get flowers, the rain must also come- Not heard of that I also think "what if?" but in the end, its in the past so you should look to the future and try and learn from the experience.

 

[kilee]

I did marry that guy from high school. However, DH does throw 1 "what if" out there often. 4 yrs ago this July he was crossing a road while at work, when a car came over a blind hill and hit him going 50 mph. Ironically he had every intention of calling in sick that morning. Until I got on his case about not calling in just because you don't feel like going. Turns out another guy called in sick, he got put on a different route, and the accident happened, that forever changed our lives. He does a lot of what if he did call in sick that day, or what if the other guy hadn't called in sick that day.

 

[browneyes]

Yes, I do wonder, what if's.

 

[KimRaye]

Sometimes, when I'm feeling melancholy, I think about "what ifs" but, not in a depressed way. I think Elaine said something very important.....

Originally posted by helenabear
one thing would have thrown me into a place I may not like to be.

ITA

 

[Jungle Skipper]

I do it on occasion...what if I hadnt gone to film school...what if I had stayed in Florida...what if I had just gone to California....

Unfortunatly my biggest crutch is...what will happen if I do this next...what happens next if i do this other thing..I worry to much about the future more than the past...cant seem to make up my mind about much right now...im told thats because of the work situation I have found myself..that life impasse thing.

Your not alont Cruise

Jungle Josh

 

[Beast fan]

Yes, I run the "What if's?" through my mind, especially when DW and I are arguing.

The bottom line is this.... If any of the "What if's?" had happened prior to 1994, I would have never met DW and my 2 WONDERFUL DS's would not be in my life.

Dave

 

[dcentity2000]

The rain can also bring up weeds and quench the thirst of monsters.

Be careful about confining an event to the past when it is still there to bite you and others - if you make a mistake don't be afraid to be held accountable.

If a bad thing is in the past then that's no reason to lock it away - never be afraid to admit to your mistakes. I know I've made a fair share of them. Right now I'm doing a law course that I hate, utterly hate, and all because I considered Oceanography to be not good enough for my father. Stupid.

However, good things do come from bad things - sometimes. My good things from this course include finding Rachel, a wonderful confident, Neeti, a wonderful friend and Prim - a wonderful guide through the choices I face This is without mentioning a host of other friends I would not have met had I not done law - so out of the ashes good things can come. But I would never deny anyone that my taking Law was a big mistake and that I am wholly accountable for that choice.



Rich::