Do you ever wonder what some people are reading here on the board?

[Disney1fan2002]

LOL!

I notice more and more, when an OP posts something, it is usually a big drama with lots of characters, that some people respond, and you know they did not read the OP, because they have the relationships wrong?



When someone posts about a SIL and is clear in the OP that it is her brother's wife, where does someone get that it is her husbands sister? LOL

So this is why they teach reading comprehension in 2nd grade.

 

[CheshireVal]

I'd rather people stop posting such convoluted stories with so many characters.....

 

[froglady]

Some of the stories are so convoluted that you can't keep the players straight without a scorecard. And the terms BIL & SIL cover so much territory. I often refer to my SILs husbands as my BILs, although that's not technically correct. It's just easier to write and say. I ONLY have SILs, as DH only has sisters, and I only have brothers. My children had a hard enough time keeping their "blood" uncles vs "in-law" uncles straight; I can imagine how difficult it would be if I also had sisters!

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Some of the stories are so convoluted that you can't keep the players straight without a scorecard. And the terms BIL & SIL cover so much territory. I often refer to my SILs husbands as my BILs, although that's not technically correct. It's just easier to write and say. I ONLY have SILs, as DH only has sisters, and I only have brothers. My children had a hard enough time keeping their "blood" uncles vs "in-law" uncles straight; I can imagine how difficult it would be if I also had sisters!

Just curious, why would the kids have to seperate blodd vs. in-law? An uncle is an uncle is an uncle.

 

[froglady]

Just curious, why would the kids have to seperate blodd vs. in-law? An uncle is an uncle is an uncle.

Legally, they aren't the same. And no, I don't go around saying so and so is your "blood" uncle, and so and so is your uncle by marriage. But it does become important when you're looking at medical history to know which ones are genetically related, and which aren't. My parents DIDN'T do this when I was growing up, so I had to figure it out myself. My paternal grandfather had three wives, so many of my aunts and uncles were not genetically related to me. My mother was adopted, her adoptive mother died, and her adoptive father remarried, which I didn't learn until I was a teenager. The people I thought were blood relatives (the second wife's brothers and sisters, and their children) had no genetic relationship to me at all. So I wasn't being "incestous" when I had a crush on my "cousin."

And if my children's aunt and "uncle" were to divorce, he wouldn't (legally) be their uncle anymore. Their uncles on their maternal side will be their uncles forever. The fact that I like their "uncles" better than their uncles, and have more contact with them, has no legal bearing.

 

[eyeoreismyhero]

I'd rather people stop posting such convoluted stories with so many characters.....

Well said!

 

[mommaU4]

Oh my gosh, I did not get enough sleep last night to try to make heads or tails of all this!

 

[bicker]

It has gotten to the point where I map how convoluted the story is to how much the teller is trying to mask some of the essential facts of the story from the reader.

 

[Tigger_Magic]

I'd rather people stop posting such convoluted stories with so many characters.....

Save the drama for your momma!

 

[VistaLeigh'smommy]

I can't read the long drama posts... I have too many things to deal with in real life, I don't like to come to the dis and start thinking about other people's friend's daughter's cousin's stepmom's half brother who's cat has the flu.

Somethings are obviously different, and lots of things catch my eye, but for the most part I don't even open the threads that are full of drama

 

[cardaway]

I'd rather people stop posting such convoluted stories with so many characters.....

Pssst... paragraphs people, paragraphs.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I do read the entire OP, but when they have too many characters to keep straight it is the OPs fault for not telling a staight forward story. SIL could be brother's wife or husband's sister. That is easy to get mixed up.