Do you ever stop and wonder where your life...

[Kitty 34]

Yes I do a lot lately!!! I think it's a menopausal thing for me!!

 

[Feralpeg]

PinWizard, everyone has times in their lives when they wonder if they would be happier doing something else. It is a healthy exercise as long as you don't let it beat you down. Sure, look at the possibilites, but don't dwell on the negative. It sounds like you have some really good things going for you.

If you want to do something different, think about what you do for fun and try to figure if there is a way you could do something along those lines as a career. I know it isn't easy. Change never is.

Try not to get trapped into thinking that your life is incomplete because you are not attached to someone. I've been there and it was a sad time in my life. I finally realized that I can be happy single (especially with DD). If I ever meet someone and fall in love, that would be great. If not, okay. My life is good.

Hang in there!

 

[caitycaity]

i think about this a lot. i am not where i wanted to be at my age.

I'm a firm believer in not waiting for things to happen. If you want change, take command and change something you're unhappy about. Not saying it can be changed overnight. But take the first step... or the first two steps... then three.

to get to where i wanted to be, i took the first step: going to get my master's. a lot of my freinds moan and groan that they need a master's to get to where they want to be, but the never actually apply to any programs. one of my friends has been talking about it for almost 3 years!

eventhough the work to get to where you want might be hard, it's worth it. i definitely feel like i have a "plan" now that i'm in school again.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Kitty...Augh! Don't say that!

True, Feralpeg. Hmmmmmmmmmmm...when I figure out what I like to do, maybe it will help. LOL!

caitycaity...Schooling certainly is a lot of work, but it does pay off.

 

[Serena]

I've thought about this a lot, and I really had to stop for the most part. I spent too much time dwelling on the what if's.

I hope you find your answers PW.

 

[*Fantasia*]

Since my husband passed away, I have always often wondered if I am going the right direction, if I am making the right decision. I know I am missing something. I want to feel complete again. I know God has plans for me and he will direct me to the right path, whatever that may be. Just trust in HIM. and you'll be fine.


Telly

 

[Keli]

Sometimes I think about those types of things but for years I knew my main job was raising Ashli and I was so focused on doing a good job there that I didn't often look at what direction my life might be taking. Now that Ashli is older I am starting to wonder where I should go from here. I have an optimistic outlook on my future though and I'm pretty sure whatever route I take I'm gonna have fun.

 

[Jungle Skipper]

I have the same self examination every day Pin Wizard. It's strange, I used to be a completly different person...I guess with age my dreams and ambitions have changed...because Im certainly not fired up about my old plans like I used to be, but my new dreams are still being formed...Unfortunately money, or lack there of, rears its ugly head against my wishes and once again
keeps them at bay....it's depressing sometimes.

But Im just to easy going of a guy to let it get to me. I think abotu it and try to figure it out, but try not to let it own me.

Jungle Josh

 

[Dan Murphy]

When I read posts like this, I always wish I could wave the wand and make it all right for everyone. Obviously, no wand.

's Sandy.

 

[Pete's Mom]

Originally posted by Bob Slydell
Sure, all the time.

Just yesterday, DW and I talked about the possibility of me being a SAHD if she becomes a partner in her firm.

I think you'd make a great "trophy" husband Bob!

 

[Pete's Mom]

Originally posted by Pin Wizard
is going? Or where it should be?

Of course, I think we all do. I also think about what my life would be like if I had made different decisions. But as hard as my life has been at times, if I were to change one thing, then I wouldn't have Pete and I couldn't imagine not having that wonderful little boy in my life.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Serena...Thanks! No what ifs here. Yea!

Fantasia...Exactly! That's when it all changed. Been too long. Wish I had the obvious faith that you do. Keep it!!

Keli...You've done GREAT with Ashli!!! And it sounds like you have the right attitude. Can you rub off on me?

Josh...Sounds familiar! Most days are good. Just get a doozie of a day like today once in a while.

Dan...Thanks for the hugs! How about I get the wand, give it to you, and you wave it for everyone?!

Pete's Mom...True. I wouldn't trade DS for the world. But I'd like to change things with him along. LOL! Where's that wand?!

 

[Bob Slydell]

Originally posted by Pete's Mom
I think you'd make a great "trophy" husband Bob!

I always thought I was a catch!

 

[C.Ann]

Sure - I think we ALL wonder about that from time to time.. I don't know why my life has evolved the way it has, but the one thing I DO know is that I can't go back and change any of it.. I've made some mistakes - some doozies - but life is not a video tape and we can't erase it, so we just go on from where we are..

I've been in counseling lately and have learned a LOT about life - negative people - why bad things happen no matter how hard you try to lead a good life - how NOT to give up hope - and why it is that some people just "don't get it" and find the need to criticize others when they don't have a clue what they're talking about..

It might help if you write down all of the things that you are dissatisfied with in your life and then in the next column, write down what you can do about it.. There may be some things that you can't "change", but you can always change your "attitude" and the way you respond to those issues..

If school is something you're considering, gather as much info as you can - write down the pro's and cons - and then decide if it's something you really want to do.. I don't know your age, but I do know that it's NEVER "too late".. The "time" will pass by anyhow, so why not do something constructive with it if that is what you truly want?

Hugs and best of luck to you!
C.Ann

 

[Tinks]

I heard once in a sermon that if you are ever truly comfortable and happy and satisfied with this life then look out, because something's wrong! You aren't supposed to find bliss here. Everything is temporal here. You're supposed to want to go *home.*

Here's hoping we all make it *home*!

 

[dumboiu]

Originally posted by C.Ann
There may be some things that you can't "change", but you can always change your "attitude" and the way you respond to those issues..

Very good advice, C.Ann.

 

[Kay7979]

"Where your life is going" has little to do with what you do for a living. Not that work isn't important, and it does bring a sense of fulfillment if you enjoy it, but when you get near retirement age and look back at your life, I seriously doubt you will be remembering your best days at work! When you look back and realize what gave your life meaning, it will be the lives you touched and those who touched yours, the great experiences you had that made life special: long talks with friends, great vacations, backyard barbecues, hobbies, moments with your children that seemed ordinary at the time, those great family get-togethers at holidays. We spend so much of our days working, but in the big scheme of things I think it is one of the lesser components of a fulfilling and memorable life.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

Pin Wizard,
I think that you are doing great! You took a chance and made a big decision to move. I'm proud of you. Keep up the good work.

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by Kay7979
"Where your life is going" has little to do with what you do for a living. Not that work isn't important, and it does bring a sense of fulfillment if you enjoy it, but when you get near retirement age and look back at your life, I seriously doubt you will be remembering your best days at work! When you look back and realize what gave your life meaning, it will be the lives you touched and those who touched yours, the great experiences you had that made life special: long talks with friends, great vacations, backyard barbecues, hobbies, moments with your children that seemed ordinary at the time, those great family get-togethers at holidays. We spend so much of our days working, but in the big scheme of things I think it is one of the lesser components of a fulfilling and memorable life.

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This reminds me of something that I'm always telling my son-in-law..

"When you're lying on your death bed dying, you will NOT be saying, 'I sure wish I had worked more..' If anything, you will be wishing you spent more time with your family and friends.."

 

[MeanLaureen]

Sandy.. I've been thinking the same thing for the past month. Especially last night. It was weird to come here and see this thread.

I just wish that I had one ounce of control over what's going on right now.