Do You Ever Get Frustrated By Certain Posts?

[bicker]

I think folks often are looking for justification for a decision they've already made or an action they've already taken. It's got to be as disturbing to them, to not get the ratification they want, as it is for others to get flak for honestly giving the advice or making the recommendation requested.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I try not to be bothered by it. I know certain people are never going to take advice and so stop offering it. But on the other hand, I wonder if these people just have no one in real life they can talk to and I feel kind of sad from them.

I know a girl IRL who keeps going back to a horridly abusive spouse and she has no one really to talk to...because after almost 2 years of their martial problems, I've stopped offering advice to her because there is just no more I can do. I'll listen because I am her friend, but that's where it ends.

I wonder if some of these people just have no one, like my friend. I really think as a previous poster said, some of them really do not want advice but instead just want validation and an ear (or several thousand) to listen.

Also, things are not always what they seem online. You are only getting one half of the story, and often we don't know if the story is true or not.

 

[WDWLVR]

I've learned after reading for years that some people just want attention and that is why they post. Different people do it in different ways.

The ones who ask for advice but never take it.

The ones who post very strange things that you just have to question.

And my all time favorite - the ones who on the resturant and resort boards and don't add anything to the conversation but tell you what they are doing. For example someone asks about a resort and the simple answer is "I'm staying there in (insert month here)" It adds nothing.


Of course the good news is that there is a large majority of people who post here because it is a great place. They share experiences, share support and are a great part of the community. To me they far outweigh the loons.

 

[Planogirl]

I don't like the "trashing" threads personally. They're so negative sometimes and everyone has different views so why sit around and criticize strangers? I did finally learn not to get into most of those threads any more.

 

[Disney01]

What bothers me more, is the people, who in a supposed show of support, offer encouragement, hugs, or pixie dust or whatever to these people. Sometimes, I think people on the community board will support anything as long as they are being "nice". Sometimes, what is really needed is more common sense, straight forward advice, but when that is given, the OP usually gets mad and the poster who is giving the advice is called "mean" or rude, etc.

I'm not sure I'm making sense, but I know what I'm trying to get across.

 

[disykat]

There is a poster on another board I frequent who posts every couple of months about her life. She is an older student (young 20's) who lives at home with her parents and has no friends. Her hs friends are away at college, the people in her young adult group are not in college so she can't possibly fit in, etc. etc. etc. She posts every couple of months with no indication that she has ever posted before - sometimes under a different name. Every time a bunch of new people chime in with good ideas for her. I've done it too - Spent time writing her a heartfelt response with suggestions. She has never shown any indication she listens to our advice. She just wants to whine. It drives me nuts. I try not to read the posts and manage to resist "outing" her to let people know not to bother! It just makes me roll my eyes and think no wonder she doesn't have friends.