Do You Ever Get Frustrated By Certain Posts?

[Disney Doll]

Do you ever get frustrated by certain posts, where the person asks advice, and then basically tells you why your advice is all wrong, and basically tells you they have already decided to do what they asked advice about?

My question...so why ask advice? You have made your decision.

Or posters who posts about the same problem a million times, but yet do nothing to change their situation? They tolerate their cheating abusive spouse, or their rotten obnoxious adult child, or their nasty boss, complain about them, but do nothing to rectify their situation.

Or am I the only one who gets aggravated by these posts?

And I know, don't read them...once I realize what they are about (and sometimes who they have been posted by again ) I do stop reading them. But by that time I am already aggravated!!!

 

[ely3857]

Hello

The only time I have been annoyed by a post was someone criticising me for wanting to go to the new Irish bar at DTD.

It annoyed me alot as I have never disrespected anybody elses holiday plans. When I pointed this out I was once again subject to more criticism. I didnt respond after that as it was their problem not mine. I have never been on a thread by that person though.



Jodie

 

[Serena]

I may get frustrated, but sometimes they do need the support, maybe it will be put into another way that they get, maybe it will change their thinking, maybe they need to hear it again, or maybe they just need to vent. Some situations can not be changed as soon as we like.

 

[barbeml]

I get kind of peeved when someone asks for help with a practical situation (as opposed to an emotional support kind of thing) and I take time to answer in detail and they don't even say thanks. I always try to acknowledge people who take the time to try to help me.

 

[Saphire]

I get kind of peeved when someone asks for help with a practical situation (as opposed to an emotional support kind of thing) and I take time to answer in detail and they don't even say thanks. I always try to acknowledge people who take the time to try to help me.

I completely agree with you, barbeml. While I do understand your complaint, DD, it bothers me more when I have taken time to write about something, and it is overlooked completely. On a bulletin board, we don't even get the advantage of someone looking at you and shaking their head as you speak or whatever, which is all the more reason why replies should be acknowledged.

 

[vettechick99]

They tolerate their cheating abusive spouse, or their rotten obnoxious adult child, or their nasty boss, complain about them, but do nothing to rectify their situation.

Yes and I've ignored a poster because of it!

I think people like this have a defeatist attitude and like whining even though they are in complete control to change the situation. I very much dislike people like that...

 

[mudnuri]

Yes and I've ignored a poster because of it!

I think people like this have a defeatist attitude and like whining even though they are in complete control to change the situation. I very much dislike people like that...

I am in 100% agreement with this vettechick! Put very well!

Brandy

 

[Missy1961]

I know what you mean.....I know that the posters don't have to take my advice, but I can't help feeling used. And then I end up feeling silly, because how many time in real life do people take advice??? These people don't know me, probably will never see me, and so why should they take my advice?

I've been on the other side once or twice. I posted once to vent about some rudeness I experienced, and ended up getting attacked for what I wrote! I gave up explaining myself, and stopped posting to my own thread. Besides, I had support from people I really know, LOL!

 

[Michie]

Am I the only one who thinks some posters make stuff up just to get attention? I just read this part of the board in bits and spurts, in all honestly for entertainment puposes for the most part I wonder about these posters who post about cheating/abusive spouses but yet have pictures of themselves and their kids in their signature. Just don't think that is very smart.

 

[va32h]

Well, I think there are a number of factors at play in that situation.

I think some people are really looking for validation, not advice. They already know what they are going to do, or want to do, but they also know that it won't be the "right" or popular choice, so they'll go looking for someone to make them feel better about their decision.

Other people may just want attention - the same reason my friend has been seeing a therapist for the last 17 years - she loves to talk about herself and now must pay someone to listen!

There are also some people (and sadly, I am related to some of them) who are just "sympathy junkies". These folks are simultaneously happy and miserable, because they are only happy if they have something to complain about. My sister for example, is always complaining about her husband, by other sympathy junkies get more creative and have a variety of crises in their lives. The ordinary ups and downs of life; weather, traffic, a broken air conditioner - are all part of a vast conspiracy to make them miserable. Nothing ever goes right for them.

The common factor is that it's always about them. You have a problem? They have the same problem, only worse! Current events, politics, movies - they will always find something in any topic to make the conversation All About Them.

I don't think there is a cure for a Sympathy Junkie - the best you can do is manage the situation by ignoring them.

 

[Disney Doll]

I guess I have to start remembering their names, so I know to skip their threads!

 

[grlpwrd]

Yes, after being online for years and after hearing the same old thing I tend to stay away from perpetual whiners. Some folks are like emotional vampires. I am even more peeved when there are children involved. Kids not only witness what is happening, but they learn by what they live.

If you keep doing what you're doing you'll keep getting what you're getting!

 

[Dan Murphy]

Do you ever get frustrated by certain posts,......

Yes, for various reasons, LOL. But generally learn to ignore certain folks as they are repetitive in their antics.

 

[barbeml]

Am I the only one who thinks some posters make stuff up just to get attention? I just read this part of the board in bits and spurts, in all honestly for entertainment puposes for the most part I wonder about these posters who post about cheating/abusive spouses but yet have pictures of themselves and their kids in their signature. Just don't think that is very smart.

I thought I was the only one with that suspicion! Some people could better use their writing talent on a soap opera.

 

[SherryNC]

so why ask advice?

Boredom, attention, drama, anonimity, perspective, etc. You're gonna get the good, the bad, and the ugly. It's a diverse group around here, that's for sure. But I like it that way.

 

[Tiziminchac]

This may be a bit off topic, but... I can't stand the "Convince me" threads. You know, the ones with titles like "Convince why I should eat at Bomas" or "Convince me why I should ride Soarin". Make up your own mind for once! I could care less if you ride this or that. Or eat here or there. Why waste my time trying to convince you of anything? Ok, I'm done ranting. Sorry. By the way, my wife left me and took my kids. My car isn't starting. My boss hates me. And my hair is getting grey. Any advice?

 

[SherryNC]

Ok, I'm done ranting. Sorry. By the way, my wife left me and took my kids. My car isn't starting. My boss hates me. And my hair is getting grey. Any advice?

Awwww ya got me!! I thought, so that is why they are in a mood.

 

[palmtreegirl]

Am I the only one who thinks some posters make stuff up just to get attention? I just read this part of the board in bits and spurts, in all honestly for entertainment puposes for the most part I wonder about these posters who post about cheating/abusive spouses but yet have pictures of themselves and their kids in their signature. Just don't think that is very smart.

You're not the only one.

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I'm more frustrated by all the religion threads where posters feel free to trash the beliefs of others. As fas as threads asking for advice or talking about their problems for the zillionth time - I don't mind those so much. Sometimes people need to vent. I don't expect anyone to heed my advice, whether it's asked for or not. I'm just happy to put it out there, if you they use it good, if they don't, it's not my business. I'm happy that this is a place where some of us can come to vent, share, laugh, cry and yeah, sometimes get angry or irritated. That's what makes this such a great board.

 

[cati]

My goodness YES

I get tired of the ones where they want everyone to feel so sorry for them and want advice and then when someone gives the advice they dont want to hear then the poster gets all mad ---- or someone else jumps in and acts like Superman or Superwomen going to save the "world".. LOL

I just think some people need to grow up, take life a little less serious, and laugh a little bit more.

Life is so short...live, love, and laugh and enjoy!!