Do you call your siblings names?

[ZachnElli]

I mean, as an adult, if you get into an argument or heated discussion do you call them names? Like "stop being such a witch/jerk"? Of course, I also mean using dis-inappropriate names too. I was talking to my sis-in-law (married to my dh's brother) that I got into an argument with our other sis-in-law (our husbands' sister) on facebook about something she said to my teenage son. I was telling her that I've heard dh's sister call my dh names over the years and I wasn't going to let her start doing it to my son. My sil said, but they're siblings and siblings call each other names. She said she and her sister call each other names all the time. I do not call my brother names. I've gotten into one real fight with my brother as adults and maybe I called him a jerk, but we don't really fight, we tend to not talk to each other for a while when we get mad at each other. So anyway, I want to know is it normal for adult siblings to call each other names?

 

[themilesfamily]

I don't think it's normal, as an adult, to call anyone names. That seems like a really immature and bullying way to interact with others.

 

[jx3smom]

Not to their face. I mean I might vent to my DH and call them a name but at my age I think I'm beyond calling them names.

 

[bgirldeb]

Does pookie count?

No, we have never called each other names as far as I remember. I'm sure there was some name calling when we were really little.

 

[NMAmy]

Depends on how irritated I am. My younger sister knows exactly how to push my buttons and we aren't that close. I have been known to call her a name from time to time. If you knew my sister, I think you'd understand how frustrating she can be.

My older sister is my best friend and I don't call her any names except for "Sissy."

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

No I don't.

I don't even like it when people pull a Paris Hilton and use a bad name affectionately. I don't get that one at all.

 

[Jennasis]

We have cute nicknames for each other (I am NERD, my little sister is BRAT, and my older sister is for some reason, also NERD).

We rarely fight, but have been known to tell eachother to stop being stupid, and my older sister did call me a "mensch" for complaining about her awful driving.

 

[monkeybug]

Not when we are mad at each other. (which is really rare now that we are adults) We do call each other names all the time though, but we are a teasing type family. It's all in good fun.

 

[Becky2005]

Hmm...I think the most I've called them is weird/crazy/nuts but that's about it.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Not to their face. I mean I might vent to my DH and call them a name but at my age I think I'm beyond calling them names.

Not to their faces, but my DH occasionally gets a BIG earful.

 

[pearlieq]

Siblings tend to be a bit more informal with each other. When my brother is acting like a jerk, it seems much more natural to say "You're acting like a jerk" instead of "I feel your behavior is inappropriate in this situation". Bizarrely, I think the latter would be more offensive than the former.

However, actual playground-style "name calling" or hurling obscenities is never justified.

 

[dalt01]

we feel free to say anything to each other....................sometimes it is the only way to get the truth...................about yourself.

 

[HM]

Obviously their parents never taught them that it was bad behavior to call each other names. It was never allowed in our home and I don't allow my kids to call each other (or other people) names either.

 

[Carly_Roach]

Not when we are mad at each other. (which is really rare now that we are adults) We do call each other names all the time though, but we are a teasing type family. It's all in good fun.

Same here. Some of the names we call each other has others doing double-takes at us, but what can I say? It's our way of showing affection. The relationship Dottie Henson had with her kid sister in the movie A League of Their Own is the kind of relationship I share with my sister.

Mule!

NAG!



Now if we're angry or having a fight, then my saying she's being unreasonable would be WAAAAAY more of a button-pusher than using a name. But that's just how we roll. YMMV.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I think that each family has a different dynamic. Just because your family choses to not talk to each other when mad and one family has screaming matches doesn't make one better than the other. In my family (sibling, parents) if we are mad we say so. Do we call each other names? Um, well I don't call my sister and say she is a poopyhead but I would tell her that I think she is acting like a fill in the blank and she would do the same to me. I am not offended nor is she. For us it lays it on the line and lets us know what the problem is. Do we act this way with others? No. Our parents taught us extremely well but our family is very honest with each other. This works for us and we have no hard feelings.

 

[ZachnElli]

Let me clarify, his whole family doesn't call names. Just this sister, he has 2 other siblings and the only one I've heard call names is this one sister. My dh has never retaliated and called her a name back and his brother never even raises his voice. I know my mil called her kids horrible names while growing up, things I can't post here, things I found shocking a mother would call her own kids. But that doesn't make it a "family dynamic". I know I'm starting to get defensive, I feel it in me, lol. But, my sil was using that to defend the other sil, "siblings call each other names". But I refuse to let her start in on my son. I've never said anything when she makes her digs at my dh (her brother), but I'll be damned if I'll let her start in on my child, she wasn't even in the conversation or part of the conversation, she just butted in. She's an adult and responded like an adolescent.

 

[Crystal0608]

I'm 30 and my sister is 18 and I can't think of any "adult" arguments we've ever had. I've even got props on her fb page for always listening and not being a b****, so I guess the opposite of name calling, lol. I have called her a brat before, nothing bad.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

Let me clarify, his whole family doesn't call names. Just this sister, he has 2 other siblings and the only one I've heard call names is this one sister. My dh has never retaliated and called her a name back and his brother never even raises his voice. I know my mil called her kids horrible names while growing up, things I can't post here, things I found shocking a mother would call her own kids. But that doesn't make it a "family dynamic". I know I'm starting to get defensive, I feel it in me, lol. But, my sil was using that to defend the other sil, "siblings call each other names". But I refuse to let her start in on my son. I've never said anything when she makes her digs at my dh (her brother), but I'll be damned if I'll let her start in on my child, she wasn't even in the conversation or part of the conversation, she just butted in. She's an adult and responded like an adolescent.

I believe your question is not whether or not siblings still pick on each into adulthood, but is it acceptable for an aunt to call her nephew names. IMO, absolutely not! You stated yourself that you never step in when she calls your DH names even though you don't care for it. It's a whole other ballgame when she starts picking on minor children (16 or 6, it's not right).

 

[BeenHereB4]

Nope, I don't call them names anymore - we did for a LONG time though.

And, kinda OT, but I HATE Facebook for stuff like this. Bunch of adults acting like children!

 

[Disney Doll]

I have never called DB any kind of derogatory name as an adult...I am sure we did a few times as kids. DB & I don't get into any kind of screaming fights though. We get along fine.

DH's sisters can go at it sometimes...interesting to watch...