do you allow sleepovers ?

[gator75]

do you allow sleepovers on a school night? i went to them a few time when i was younger , i still don't know why the parents had them or why mine let me go. i have a ds , and while he has never asked i still don't know if i'd allow it. have you or your child ever done this?

 

[aprilgail2]

The mother of my daughters friend works some sundays until 1am so when I am watching her daughter that day she sleeps over and I just make sure they both go to bed by 11.

 

[golfgal]

Our kids have been doing sleepovers since they were 4 or so. I don't understand everyone's hang up about them. If you are concerned something can "happen" at a sleepover remember that same thing can happen during the day too.

 

[Ohiodislover]

Yes, I do. Usually it is because of a commitment that I or the other parents have. They have to be in bed by normal school night time. Only had an issue once and made them split up into different rooms. Never had a problem again.

 

[kacaju]

Sleepovers on a school night. Never unless it was an emergency. Same with their friends.. in an emergency of course I would allow them to sleepover, but not *just because*

Sleepovers on weekends or over the summer, I have no problem with except my dd14 who is a bear the next day after a sleepover so I do limit hers.

 

[Ohiodislover]

Our kids have been doing sleepovers since they were 4 or so. I don't understand everyone's hang up about them. If you are concerned something can "happen" at a sleepover remember that same thing can happen during the day too.

I think the OP was just asking about sleepovers on school nights, not sleepovers in general. Or at least that is how I took the question

 

[mickeyboat]

Not unless it was an emergency. My kids never go to sleep early enough and don't sleep well on sleepovers, so I would not do one on a school night.

 

[golfgal]

I think the OP was just asking about sleepovers on school nights, not sleepovers in general. Or at least that is how I took the question

OOPS, missed that.

Sleepovers on a school night, normally no-never "just because" but we have had them a few times, like last night-Monday night. DD's best friend is staying with us while her parents are out of town. They were fast asleep by 10:00, they know they have to sleep on school nights. DS had a friend sleep over last week so he had a ride to school in the morning. The seniors had 2 days where they didn't have to report to school until 10:30 because the rest of the classes were taking state tests. His friend lives out in the country and would have had to take the bus to school and sit in study hall from 7:30-10:30 so we let him spend the night here.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

No-I would never have a sleepover on a school night.

 

[mom2travel]

Don't think we would have a "just for fun" sleepover on a school night. But if someone was out of town or had an emergency of some sort, that would be fine.

 

[powellrj]

Don't think we would have a "just for fun" sleepover on a school night. But if someone was out of town or had an emergency of some sort, that would be fine.

 

[RadioNate]

For an emergency or other situation like that I'd be ok with it. I think I would make them sleep in separate rooms though. Never a just for fun sleepover.

I admit, I'm not a sleepover fan. My "hangup" is that my DS comes home and is a complete nightmare to deal with. There is always some sort of argument, they never go to bed early enough, the get up too early in the am after going to bed late and I'm left to deal with the consequences. My DS never has enough "fun" for me to deal with his behavior the next day.

If he didn't constantly come home with a gripe and wasn't a complete bear, I might feel differently.

 

[klacey1]

Unless it was some kind of emergency-- no. However, I do recall senior year, I stayed over my friend's house the night before Halloween with another friend so we could put our costumes together (us and three other girls went as the Legends of the Hidden Temple kids!). This was a special occasion, though-- and we were seniors. Old enough to exercise self control to go to bed when we're tired, you know? My mom was very cool about letting my friends and I make the most of our last year together.

 

[sunlver]

For an emergency or other situation like that I'd be ok with it. I think I would make them sleep in separate rooms though. Never a just for fun sleepover.

I admit, I'm not a sleepover fan. My "hangup" is that my DS comes home and is a complete nightmare to deal with. There is always some sort of argument, they never go to bed early enough, the get up too early in the am after going to bed late and I'm left to deal with the consequences. My DS never has enough "fun" for me to deal with his behavior the next day.

If he didn't constantly come home with a gripe and wasn't a complete bear, I might feel differently.

I feel the same way. My 10 1/2 yr old daughter is the same way. She loves to sleep over, but it so darn nasty/miserable the next day. For example, she cant sleep with the tv on. Her one friend who she does sleepovers with, likes the tv on, so she stays awake much longer until the tv is turned off before going to sleep..then that leads to not a full nights sleep and is up by the same time...thene she eventually comes home, and its like we all stay out her way and go tell her to take a nap....which makes her really mad

 

[design_mom]

Don't think we would have a "just for fun" sleepover on a school night. But if someone was out of town or had an emergency of some sort, that would be fine.

I agree with this poster. In the case of an out-of-town/emergency school-day sleepover, the kids would have to go to bed at a normal time. I'm much more lenient about bedtimes during "just for fun" sleepovers.

 

[DeniseinNS]

No sleepovers on school nights for my kids.

 

[Pigeon]

Weekends, yes, school nights, no.

 

[golfgal]

For an emergency or other situation like that I'd be ok with it. I think I would make them sleep in separate rooms though. Never a just for fun sleepover.

I admit, I'm not a sleepover fan. My "hangup" is that my DS comes home and is a complete nightmare to deal with. There is always some sort of argument, they never go to bed early enough, the get up too early in the am after going to bed late and I'm left to deal with the consequences. My DS never has enough "fun" for me to deal with his behavior the next day.

If he didn't constantly come home with a gripe and wasn't a complete bear, I might feel differently.

We have just told the kids that if they are crabby the next day, no more sleepovers. If they feel crabby and need to, they can hang out in their rooms the next day. We haven't had any real problems with them after sleepovers because of that.

 

[MichelleVW]

In elementary school no, but my oldest had many sleepovers in high school on school nights. It was usually after a late basketball game (she was a cheerleader) and some of the girls would stay at the same house. I thought it was really weird at first, but it was common at the two of the three high schools that DD went too.

 

[lillygator]

no sleepover's on school nights unless an emergency.

My girls are still young and my 4 year old has been on one sleepover but it was a special bday with just three girls and parents we are very comfortable with. I am not a fan of sleepovers and as they get older will probably not allow them on too many.