Do people "flip out" when they learn how long you've been married?

[TNCarole]

Dh and I will celebrate our 20th anniversary in December. We got married at fairly young ages, too... I was 24 and he was 27.

Both of our parents had/have long marriages, too; his parents had been married 55 years when they passed away; my folks will celebrate their 57th this month. So I guess it runs in our genes!

 

[skiwee1]

We will be married 18 years in November. I have never had anyone act surprised at that. All of our friends that are married have been married at least that long. I only know one person in our whole group that is divorced.

 

[powellrj]

because of the ages of our children 21, 13, 8 most people think that we have been married several times and these are children of different marriages. Nope we have been married 26 years as of last week. Most of the people that married around the sametime as we did already have grandchildren. I just got all mine in school a few years ago!! For our 25th last year we took the 2 youngest to Disney, because we didn't have a sitter to leave them with! If I had my life to do over again, the one thing I would never change is my husband. He has been the most wonderful man I could have hoped for. I also married young, and people told me I was ruining my life getting married so young, but I feel my life began when got married.

 

[Blondie]

DH and I will be married for 24 years this October, over half of my life now!

Most of the time people think I'm not old enough to be married that long, that's when I tell them I was a child bride!

 

[Serena]

Congratulations to all of you.


I tend to see some shocked expressions. I married at 18, not pregnant, and this september it will be 22 years. However, we are going through a divorce and won't make it that long.
People are suprised about that, and then I guess I don't look 40.

 

[Mackey Mouse]

We will be married 35 years this July and yes people do act surprised when we tell them.. We got married young, had our children young, college is done for all of them, and now it is our time.

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

DH and I are going on 18 years. Our friends are always surprised as we waited a while before we had kids so most people assume we've only been married a year or two longer than the age of our oldest child (11). Time really does fly when you're having fun !!!

 

[crz4mm2]

We've been married 25 years. Yes, people are amazed. More people are amazed that I have a 24 yo son
It has not been easy the whole time But that is what you do for love. Many people complain cause "he does this" or "she does that" I always say "do you remember why you love him/her? If the reasons you fell in love are still there then remember that, not the other stuff".
Congrats to all you long termers and all you new starters too.

 

[DisneyMim]

We get shocked looks all the time. I was still in college when we married and we are celebrating our 30th Anniversary this summer (of course with a trip to WDW!). We waited 10 years to have children, so our oldest is only 20. Keeps us very young and both our kids tell us, as many people do too, that we don't look our age.

 

[Brer_Papa]

Princess Ariel & I celebrated 32 years in February....and like some others....we married young....I was 21 and she was 18....

We are still like 2 kids in love....and she is more beautiful than the day i met her

Sure, there are some that express surprise we've lasted so long.....but we ain't done yet.....still going strong and no end in sight

edited to add: Princess Ariel's Mom & Dad will celebrate 58 years in August....still the cutest couple around too!

 

[onecoolmama]

I have only been married 6 years..so no big deal. However, we have been together since I was 15. So when I am 30, I'll have been with him for half my life.

We both grew up with each others families..(since 15) so some of my cousins dont even remember me without him!LOL!

 

[flaps]

I'm enjoying reading all your stories/responses. Thanks for sharing.

 

[m&m's mom]

Yes, pleople are shocked but for the opposite reason.
My DH and I have been together for 15 years but only married for 4 and we have a 7 YO DD and a 4 YO DD. We basically did everything backward.
All of the people we meet lately assume we have been married for a long time. Some I explain to and some I do not.

 

[jimmytammy]

We have been happily married for 14 years now and we get that reaction all the time. And we live in the Bible belt! I tell them get back to us on our 50th and then we will have something to talk about.

Sorry for the high horse but I gotta say it. God is in our marriage and He is the reason we are still together. Sure it takes all give and very little take but without Him in our lives we are nothing, period. We are Christians but we are not perfect. It still takes a lot of work. And with Him we can succeed.

When I was a little boy going to weddings I listened to those vows and I took those words serious. I still take those words serious today. Most marriages would last if people took those words serious but most unfortunately never hear them and take them to heart.

I will continue to smile as we continue to be laughed at and ridiculed for our marriage being strong. Thats OK. We can take the persecution. No problem. All the while we are teaching our kids to take those vows serious too. Will they be guaranteed a lifelong marriage. No. Will they have a foundation to build upon. Yes. Thats the most we can give.

Sorry for the rant

 

[Dan Murphy]

It will be 33 this 9/11 and we are pretty much the norm amongst our friends, most married a long time.

 

[browneyes]

Flaps, I can see how you and your dh have been married for so long. It's all in the foot massages.

Since my SO and I have never been married, that usually shocks people when I tell them we've been together for 15 years. If I really want to shock and confuse them, I tell them I could very easily become a divorced woman before I ever get married.

 

[LindaG4458]

Yes, we have been married 34 years on 6/24. I am often asked "to the same guy?" I was 21 and DH was 24 when we were married.

 

[flaps]

Originally posted by browneyes
It's all in the foot massages.

 

[tar heel]

We will celebrate our 22nd anniversary next week. It must be the people we hang around with, but virtually all our friends and relatives have been married to each other for a long time. Perhaps, it's the examples we have: My parents will celebrate their 49th anniversary in July and dh's will celebrate their 59th later that month. With all the news coverage about the Reagans' devotion to each other, I couldn't help but think of my inlaws. I've never known a couple who was closer or more devoted to each other. I really can't imagine one without the other.

 

[Divamomto3]

DH and I are married 13 years this August. I was 23 when we got married and he was 24. I get wider eyed looks when I tell people I have an almost 12 year old son. My friends all are just starting to have kids or have 3, 4, or 5 year olds. I also have 2 other sons, ages 9 and 3. Sometimes because I have an 11 year old and a 3 year old, people wonder if they're from the same father.

Both DH's and my parents will be married 40 years this summer.