Do I have a right to be worried?

[tracynicole21]

I am a planner and I would be freaking out, but DH doesn't tell me what to do we discuss it and then we make a decision together (even though he is the only one that works outside the house). I am an adult I don't need someone telling me what to do. I would calmly sit down and talk to her how important it is to you, specially if you have the money for it.

She is the financial minded one in the relationship, so I respect that aspect of wanting to make sure we have the money we need for things we actually NEED (rent, food, etc) but when we actually have the money available and I'm told that we need to wait for some other extenuating circumstance, I am not happy.

 

[LiveYourLife]

Is this your Honeymoon trip? If so, I feel like this is not starting your marriage off on the right foot. Did she want to go to WDW for the Honeymoon?

Is there anyone you can borrow money from for the tickets and then pay them back?

 

[tracynicole21]

Agree. Although I wouldn't personally use money reserved for rent to buy tickets (even if it was going to be replenished by this gift). The money was a gift to you both: you need to be adults and mutually decide how and when to spend it.

You're very right, And normally we don't have a problem with this. I think, in this circumstance, my Disney-crazy side is making me irrational.

 

[tracynicole21]

Is this your Honeymoon trip?

Is there anyone you can borrow money from for the tickets and then pay them back?

It is our honeymoon, yes. And unfortunately, there's no one to borrow from. I think I'll be okay once I calm down, but that may take a little while.

 

[gorjus121]

There are plenty of rides you can get onto without a FP, and you can always setup Fp+ the day of. However, if there are certain attractions that you both want to experience like Peter Pan, or Mine Train you will need a FP or face very long wait times. Those you would need to make in advance. Good luck

 

[tracynicole21]

There are plenty of rides you can get onto without a FP, and you can always setup Fp+ the day of. However, if there are certain attractions that you both want to experience like Peter Pan, or Mine Train you will need a FP or face very long wait times. Those you would need to make in advance.

I guess, in my case, I'm lucky in that sense that I haven't been in so long that I won't know what I'm missing if we don't get to ride some of the newer attractions, but… I literally dream about riding some of my favorites and if it doesn't happen I'll be really disappointed.

 

[limabeanmom2003]

Go and have fun. Don't worry about getting fast passes if it's that big of a deal between the two of you. You can get fast passes when you go to the park and do whatever is available. Have fun!

 

[Minniesgal]

Does she actually want to go? Maybe she isn't totally onboard with going there?

I disagree that you need to plan. You can go to WDW and have a blast without planning. I have done it presidents day week. We booked ADRs the day before and FP+ the morning of and did fine.

But part of the fun should be planning a trip together. She doesn't sound very invested in this trip

 

[LiveYourLife]

It is our honeymoon, yes. And unfortunately, there's no one to borrow from. I think I'll be okay once I calm down, but that may take a little while.

Yes, try and calm down just a tad! I know you want the trip to be perfect for your Fiancée's first trip. It will be! You don't have to miss your favorites if you don't have a FP+. Just use rope drop and EMH to your advantage.

Have a great trip and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

 

[ellie05]

She is the financial minded one in the relationship, so I respect that aspect of wanting to make sure we have the money we need for things we actually NEED (rent, food, etc) but when we actually have the money available and I'm told that we need to wait for some other extenuating circumstance, I am not happy.

Did you explain to her you will have to pay more for tickets comes tomorrow? Are you staying on site? Why would you pay extra to stay onsite and not take advantage of the FP window. I am the financial minded of the situation, but I don't tell DH what to do and he doesn't tell me what to do. We sit once or twice a month come up with the budget. We both know where we stand and the extra money we have and if we get any unexpected expenses we just take away form that money and adjust. When we do trips we sit down and figure out before hand that way we are in the same page.

 

[tracynicole21]

Does she actually want to go? Maybe she isn't totally onboard with going there?

I disagree that you need to plan. You can go to WDW and have a blast without planning. I have done it presidents day week. We booked ADRs the day before and FP+ the morning of and did fine.

But part of the fun should be planning a trip together. She doesn't sound very invested in this trip

I don't know, maybe it's not fair to compare us, since she's never been to DW and I went several times as a child and was always ready to go back. I totally agree that part of the fun is planning together, but she's satisfied with being at home and playing on her computer while I'm more interested in seeking out new places to go and new things to do. I know she'll have fun once she's there, but when I get passionate or excited about something (like our upcoming trip) I want to talk about it and plan it all the time, while she's more interested in taking life day by day, and kind of just seeing how things go. Last night she told me she felt like she didn't need to worry about the trip at all cause I had everything covered, so I guess it's just a personality difference. But we generally complement each other pretty well.

 

[tracynicole21]

Did you explain to her you will have to pay more for tickets comes tomorrow? Are you staying on site? Why would you pay extra to stay onsite and not take advantage of the FP window. I am the financial minded of the situation, but I don't tell DH what to do and he doesn't tell me what to do. We sit once or twice a month come up with the budget. We both know where we stand and the extra money we have and if we get any unexpected expenses we just take away form that money and adjust. When we do trips we sit down and figure out before hand that way we are in the same page.

I did tell her tickets cost more tomorrow, but because she delayed transferring the money we intended to use to get our tickets, it hasn't yet been deposited into her account and the funds aren't available.

 

[tracynicole21]

Yes, try and calm down just a tad! I know you want the trip to be perfect for your Fiancée's first trip. It will be! You don't have to miss your favorites if you don't have a FP+. Just use rope drop and EMH to your advantage.

Have a great trip and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Thank you! I feel better now that I've vented a little and I'm much calmer.

 

[AliceinMaryland]

You know what, you kind of put yourself down a few posts back saying something about your crazy Disney side was making you irrational. Most people here have a crazy Disney side and that's why we get along LOL!!! You go ahead and be yourself and don't make any excuses for wanting to be prepared. My husband leaves all the planning to me and let's me do whatever I want, thankfully. I consult him on certain things but mostly I do what I want because I'm more knowledgeable and Disney is my baby. Also he doesn't have as much time on his hands to plan as I do but he is always happy with my planning.

Anyway, tell her to hurry up and get the money situation figured out so you can make your fastpass selection faster. I think you will be much happier with making the plans ahead of time versus buying the tickets when you get there and making last minute fastpasses. She doesn't have to understand why but she should trust your judgement. After all, you are doing it for both of your best interests.

Have Fun!

 

[tracynicole21]

You know what, you kind of put yourself down a few posts back saying something about your crazy Disney side was making you irrational. Most people here have a crazy Disney side and that's why we get along LOL!!! You go ahead and be yourself and don't make any excuses for wanting to be prepared. My husband leaves all the planning to me and let's me do whatever I want, thankfully. I consult him on certain things but mostly I do what I want because I'm more knowledgeable and Disney is my baby. Also he doesn't have as much time on his hands to plan as I do but he is always happy with my planning.

Anyway, tell her to hurry up and get the money situation figured out so you can make your fastpass selection faster. I think you will be much happier with making the plans ahead of time versus buying the tickets when you get there and making last minute fastpasses. She doesn't have to understand why but she should trust your judgement. After all, you are doing it for both of your best interests.

Have Fun!

Thank you!! I really appreciate it!

 

[ldo]

the important part is the honeymoon, not the rides---but, if you can get your tickets as soon as you get there, and then make FP for the rest of the days that night, you'll be OK. Maybe not for Mine train, but there will still be times for most everything else. Making FP the day of is where you are much more limited, as all the day visitor come in and make FP for the day. Even midnight the night prior is a big leg up.

 

[A State Of Autumn]

I'm a super planner so I would be bothered by this but I know lots of people that go on trips, do minimal research and buy a day ticket at the gate...it's just a different way of doing disney I guess.

 

[Ensusieasm]

My trip is the second to last week of May, we have our plane tickets, our hotel is booked, but… no Disney tickets. My fiancée won't let me buy them yet and I'm worried about being able to actually ride anything if we don't have time to book the FPs+. Fiancée doesn't understand this because she has never been to DW. She keeps saying not to worry because she just figured we would get our tickets once we got there but I've told her repeatedly we need to make FP+ in advance but she doesn't seem to care. Do I have a right to be worried or should I just calm down and chill out?

You can't choose fast Pass+ until mid March. You have two weeks to wait till your honeymoon gift money is really in place. So why all the fuss now. Don't pay with your rent money for goodness sake! Sounds like your fiancé is the financial wizard of the family. Really, as long as you can choose your fast passes before mid April when they go out to the general public you are going to be fine. Chill!

 

[tracynicole21]

You can't choose fast Pass+ until mid March. You have two weeks to wait till your honeymoon gift money is really in place. So why all the fuss now. Don't pay with your rent money for goodness sake! Sounds like your fiancé is the financial wizard of the family. Really, as long as you can choose your fast passes before mid April when they go out to the general public you are going to be fine. Chill!

That's actually GREAT news! Thanks!

 

[MeganMango]

I scheduled my Fast Passes three weeks before my trip (which is next week) and even some last night. All rides were still available three weeks out, some were picked over last night. But my trip is a week away. You definitely still have time. I got mine through Park Savers.