Divorced Moms - Did You keep Your Wedding Rings?

[sunnyday123]

Heck no-I sold mine and his and used it as spending money at Disney!!

 

[NMAmy]

I kept the engagement ring, wedding ring, anniversary ring, and tennis bracelet that were from my ex. When dd turned 18, I bought her a pretty jewelry box, had everything cleaned, and then gave it all to her. She wears them all occasionally and was very happy to get them since she used to play with them when she was young.

 

[PigletsMommy]

My mom kept her wedding set when my parents divorced. She gave them to my brother when he got engaged. They had the gold melted down & diamonds reset, designed a new ring out of it. It was really pretty.

Unfortunately that marriage never happened, his fiance kept the ring and used it when she actually married someone else. Yep, real nice girl.

 

[Shmily1]

I kept mine to give them to DS20 or DD19. Last year, I mentioned to them that I had them for one of them. They looked at me like I had 6 heads!! DD said, "Ummm... not to hurt your feelings here, but we don't WANT those!"

 

[castleview]

I kept mine to give them to DS20 or DD19. Last year, I mentioned to them that I had them for one of them. They looked at me like I had 6 heads!! DD said, "Ummm... not to hurt your feelings here, but we don't WANT those!"

I'm sorry but that is hysterical. My parents are divorced and I like to pretend they were never married.

I'm not sentimental over rings either. I'm still married but lost my engagement diamond - doing laundry when I noticed it fell out of the prongs - and I haven't replaced it. DH said it's fine if I do, but I'm like "we've got a mortgage and three kids. We could do so much more with that."

 

[pixiewings71]

Nope, gave them back. No clue what happened to them but I did not want them.

 

[bumbershoot]

The engagment ring is sorta a contract. By getting married you fufill the contract. Therefore you should get to keep your ring. I'm not divorced but if I was I would keep my ring.

Check the laws of the state. Each one has different laws about the contract of the eng ring and who gets to keep it.

My mom's BFF wore her wedding band on her big toe so she could walk all over the reminders of him. She did take it off when she got remarried.

Ha! Bet my mom would have loved to do that. But she was always quite saint-like about complaining about my dad (his actions that we saw and knew about spoke for themselves, she didn't need to spell it out for us) so I doubt she would have actually done it, since she did get us out of their marriage.

Thanks for all the responses, all! I saved mine from my ex just because I didn't know what else to do with them. Now, I was thinking about selling them for the money, but I don't know if it's something my son might want one day...

IMO it's doubtful that he would want them.

My mom kept her wedding set from her second husband (I'm not even sure that she and my dad had rings, they were VERY young when they married and had very little money for the 12 years of their marriage) and her third husband had his ring from his first marriage (his first wife left him, as my mom's second husband had done to her). While most of the time when you're making new jewelry "from" old gold rings, the ACTUAL gold isn't being used (it's not pure enough, so they use new gold, and send the old gold off to be purified), in this case, their Miami jeweler made some bizarre free-form necklace pendant blob (VERY Miami Vice, VERY 80s) with the little diamonds from my mom's ring and they gave it to me for my 18th birthday. At the time I appreciated it (it was still the 80s, LOL), but I sold the gold a few years ago.

Ultimately it's just weird to wear stuff from failed marriages, and it felt like bad luck to me.

The money was wasted (this was before DH and I got a financial clue), but it *could* have been used towards something great...maybe you should just sell the gold, keep the stones (stones feel different than gold, in terms of luck or bad feelings, at least for me, and I do still have the stones), and keep that money safe for him. First car, some college, wedding...something nice like that.

 

[CowboyCO]

This thread makes me want to get a metal detector and head down to one of those romantic spots at the lake...

 

[J/T Gramdma]

Six-month sham of a marriage here = tossing my wedding ring off the end of a pier into Lake Michigan. It felt GREAT to get rid of it, LOL

My Daughter did the same thing with her rings from her ex-husband.

 

[padams]

SIL wears my MIL's wedding ring from her marriage to FIL. When MIL divorced a second time, she had the ring redesigned into a "divorce ring", apparently a fad among her 60-ish age friends.

 

[graygables]

SIL wears my MIL's wedding ring from her marriage to FIL. When MIL divorced a second time, she had the ring redesigned into a "divorce ring", apparently a fad among her 60-ish age friends.

I've heard this one, too. I forgot to mention that I had a guy friend after my divorce buy me a beautiful ring which he called my "Not All Men Are Jerks" ring for my right hand, but told me I could put it on my left if I ever was in a situation where I felt I needed to look married/engaged (creepers, etc). He was awesome. I have it on my right hand even now, some 20 years later.