Divorce parties?

[Serena]

What on earth do you do when it's finally over?


Any suggestions???

 

[Laura]

Well, I had a party for my wedding... why not for a divorce, if you want?

 

[Pop Daddy]

just move on, having a party would kind of be like lying to yourself

 

[janette]

My sister had one, it really depends on how you feel. It was a pretty bad situation and by the time the divorce was final she was ready to celebrate. Not everyone feels that way though.

 

[TigerBear]

Several friends celebrated with me the night of my divorce! We went to the new Aquarium Restaurant in downtown Houston. It was fun - and a great way to celebrate my new life!

 

[Floydian]

Well, I went out with a group of friends, had drinks, danced, laughed, and celebrated the fact that I was no longer legally bound to someone who had lied, cheated, lied, lied, cheated, lied, lied, lied, lied, cheated, and lied some more.

There was no kidding myself. For me, it was kind of like celebrating my High School Graduation. I am finally free of something that was difficult, oppressive, and controlling. I am finally able to move on to the next stage of my life, wherein it feels like the possibilities are endless.

For some, it may not make sense, but for me, it made a lot more sense than any old traditional "Bachelor Party".

 

[onecoolmama]

The few that I have been to have been a lot of fun, really liberating for the person. Depending on the age, we went clubbing, or out to a nice restaurant..and the youngest one was 24, so we rent a limo...and um..got crazy.

But I think you have to be truly happy that the divorce happened instead of fooling yourself as PD said. All of the one I went to, were truly happy to be out of their situatuins.

 

[totalia]

That's the weirdest thing I have ever heard of.

I was just happy for it to be finally over. Seeing him for some stupid party would have been like ripping my guts out.

 

[legs22]

Originally posted by onecoolmama

But I think you have to be truly happy that the divorce happened instead of fooling yourself as PD said. All of the one I went to, were truly happy to be out of their situatuins.

I was not happy the divorce happened. No party for me. I remember crying my eyes out on the day my divorce was final It was one of the worst days of my life.

 

[issa]

totalia


the ex isnt actually "there"


Its a party with friends or family to celebrate for several diffrent reasons after a divorce is final. i.e a bunch of girl friends heading out to rejoyce in freedom.

Not a formal party where you send out invites and the 2 divorcee's (?) serve appitizers and wine.

 

[goofy4tink]

Went out with a few close girl friends and had a couple of well-deserved drinks!!!

 

[Serena]

Jason is so right it's scary some times. I had to go and think about what a party would be for.

No I'm not happy all this happened. I think things could have been a lot different if some caring and effort were put into it. But it wasn't, and it's over. And my new life is beginning.

I guess my celebration would be for my new life. The possibilities of the future. And laughing. I need more laughing.

 

[MacGyverTDS]

For me it was total relief that it was over. I had put my heart and soul into that marriage and unfortunately, he didn't. So, a couple of months after it was final I went to WDW with some friends and we had a ball!! I considered the entire weekend my divorce party! It was a great way to just let go and have some fun. I came back home with a new and improved attitude, some great memories and ready to take on whatever came my way!


Judy

 

[Disney Doll]

I think how oyu "memorialize" the day depends on how oyu feel.

Don't do a "divorce party" because everyone thinks you should, unless that feels "right" to you. As osme posters have said, after a long period of unhappiness etc, they were in a "party" mode and that's fine. But if you don't feel lie "partying" because your divorce is final, then don't.

There's nothing that says you have to memorialize a divorce on the day it happens.

I have heard some people say that the "idea" of being divorced didn't sink in until later, sort of like an "aha" moment.