@Anniefrances Hi there! I'm sorry you had a disappointing CL experience, but hope you otherwise enjoyed your long WDW stay!
To be honest, I've been struggling with my response here.... these "the way CL is vs the way it should be" type opinions are just so tricky and hard to articulate. Everyone's service expectations are just so subjective - what I think is normal and you think is bad service can be two different things and we can both be right. But since you asked for perspective, I'll try to give you mine on your three situations:
So, there were some things that took me by surprise. When we checked in (around noon), I asked CMs in the lounge about vegetarian offerings for the evening appetizers and was told there would be crackers and cheese and crudites but that the hot options would be non-vegetarian. I didn't think much of this because it was a same day question. But later that night when a CM at the welcome desk saw me carrying in some food and realized it was because I wanted to have something hot to eat with my kids, she told me that the chef could include a vegetarian option. I explained that I had asked earlier. She told me to ask again first thing in the morning. By this time, the kids and I had decided that we wanted one more day to relax before heading home, and I had already booked a second night. So in the morning I again asked the CMs in the lounge about vegetarians offerings. Again I was told that there would be crudites. When I clarified that I was hoping for a hot offering, I was told there was also the option of having room service delivered to the lounge. This experience made a bit of a negative impression, as many other places, including the QS place at AKL, had been very helpful in modifying items to make them vegetarian. So between hoping for something other than what I could grab from a QS package, and the other CM encouraging me to ask, I was disappointed and honestly, a little frustrated.
I have no first hand experience with dining restrictions/certain diets with CL so my opinion here probably isn't worth much. But FWIW, I often read around here about how the CLs are 'generally' accommodating. I occasionally see people given special/individually wrapped items brought from the back during various offerings. I 'assume' in these cases folks have pre-arranged these types of dining accommodations, but I'm not sure?
That definitely stinks with the different responses from CMs, although I'm not terribly surprised. My impression is the best person to talk to is the chef and that the CL CMs only have very basic info (and are likely uninformed/untrained, as you experienced) on alternative diet offerings. I wonder if your experience would have been different with direct contact with a chef and/or Disney dining in advance? I can understand you being frustrated with your responses.
For extending the stay a a second night, at the time I was told there were no more rooms but to book a non-CL and they would extend the lounge privileges. I really appreciated this! But because I didn't want to move rooms unless necessary, I asked them to let me know if a room in opened up. In the meantime I stalked the website and found availability. The next morning I got up early to ask about getting the CL room, and the CM who helped me had no knowledge of my wanting to stay put although they saw the second reservation with the note requesting that we be granted lounge privileges. Again, it made a bit of a negative impression that I was the one spending time trying to secure a room instead of one of the CMs checking periodically to see if the availability changed.
I want to make sure I understand the situation here. You booked a one night Poly CL room a couple of days before and then while there that day you decided to add a second night? Who did you talk to make the 2nd night reservation? CL CM's?
Things get tricky with such last minute/on the fly type of reservations with these Disney resorts that run at such high occupancy. Personally if I were trying to extend a night and they said they could only do it in a non-CL room, I would understand and not really have any expectation for them to keep checking. When you asked them to let you know if a room opened up, did the CM acknowledge/make any promises to do so?
When they offered you CL privileges with a non-CL room, were you going to be paying a non-CL rate?
Sounds like you were very lucky to get the second night without having to move, even if it required extra action on your part.
The third thing, and in retrospect the thing that most bothered me over our Poly experience, was that the morning of check out it was pouring rain. I asked about options for staying dry while getting to the main building. The CL CM offered us either ponchos or umbrellas, which I totally appreciated! We chose umbrellas and while I was getting the car, my kids gave their umbrellas to the bell service desk (for return to the lounge). When I pulled up and realized this, I asked my son to go retrieve them so we could use them while lunching and shopping at Disney Springs. While my son was at the bell services desk, another CM walked over and asked what I was doing - I explained my son was asking about our umbrellas. The CM told me that since we already checked out, we couldn't use the umbrellas unless we paid for them. I responded that they were from the CL lounge and that we wanted to use them for Disney Springs and that it was my understanding that we could use CL amenities until midnight on the day of check out. She said no, if we wanted umbrellas we could park and go into the gift shop and purchase some. Her demeanor was unfriendly and curt. At this point I got frustrated and said no thanks, never mind, and beckoned for my son to return to the car. We did go to DS, and since I hadn't turned in my umbrella, my two kids shared it. We did stop back by the Poly on our way out of town to return the umbrella. After having several days to think about this I am still annoyed. First, because I really thought that we were allowed to use the umbrellas; second, because they were inexpensive (think Dollar Store) umbrellas, not the other ones available in the gift shop; and third, the demeanor of the bell services CM (who I later found out was a supervisor - I mentioned my experience to a different CM when returning the one umbrella we used).
I'm going to be honest...my first impression is that your expectations were too high on the umbrellas. Even though they are small/cheap (and yes, you can use CL amenities until midnight on your checkout day), I wouldn't have expected to take them like that after checking out, even if you intended to return them. I'm sure people walk off with them all the time though....
All of that being said, I can probably guess the bell services CM in question here. There has been a supervisor type bell services CM there on my last two trips who has the worst attitude.... the exact wrong person to be working "out front." I had a little run in with this person on my last trip over something equally as harmless, which I didn't appreciate very much. Although this is a bell services problem, not a CL problem, to be fair.
In writing this out I think that for that price, I expected that the customer service would be extraordinary. But this wasn't my experience.
I don't mean this to sound like I'm making excuses for Disney or CL, because I'm not at all. Perhaps my outlook is clouded as a frequent CL guest - I have a good idea of what they do/don't do well, so that impacts my expectations and tolerance for service levels. Fundamentally I don't necessarily relate cost to 'extraordinary service' when it comes to Disney... like I might, at say, a Four Seasons or equivalent luxury resort. CL is just 'different' in some respects.
Like I stated at the start, I struggled with making sure I was fair/honest in my perspective here. Obviously this kind of stuff is so highly subjective I'm not sure my opinion is worth anything! But, perhaps it was helpful. Thanks for posting/sharing your experiences.