Disney World Trip Dilema!

[rie'smom]

Can you get credit for the airfare so you can at least use that at another time?
You are in a tough situation. Put yourself in your son's place. Would you have wanted your wife to choose her family over you?
It's unfortunate that she and the GF are in a battle of who is going to win the trip battle. Your wife is the more mature (I guess) and should bow out gracefully-if she does,maybe the trip situation will change.After all,if it is a battle of wills,then the GF will see it as her victory and may turn into a gracious winner-but probably not.I promise your son will choose his girlfriend. He's young,he's male,and one thing is predominate in his mind and unfortunately, this need is being met by a willful,and apparently not very nice girl.
I have 2 sons and the younger was in a similar type of relationship. Thank God,she never got pregnant.
* I'm editing this to say do not turn yourself into a pretzel trying to make this work. If she's the type of person it sounds like she is,you will spend your life as a miserable pretzel because nothing you or your wife can do will ever be enough.

 

[LoraJ]

I know you're disappointed but it sounds like he's trying to be a man and do the right thing. I would let him make his own discision and try not to make him feel bad about it (easier said than done).

I agree. See if you can get credit for the airfare and just let them do the right thing. Doesn't matter what the doctor says, if she's not comfortable, why should she be forced to go?

 

[unbroken chain]

If it were me, I'd offer to make up their wages also.

Is it also a matter of not having vacation time coming, or her wanting him to use vacation time to stay home with the baby?

If she found out she was pregnant in July, and you are going in November, math says she will be at least 6 months pregnant, right? She may be pretty uncomfortable by then, or she might be worried she will be. I have to say I sure wouldn't want to be walking all over Disney at 6 or 7 months' pregnant.

I understand that it's paid for, but is there a way to get a partial refund? I would check into that.

I also understand that you want to be with your son. But honestly, since you are seeking opinions, having him take off for DisneyWorld, leaving his very pregnant GF at home by herself, and having to do without his income when finances are very tight, well, that just wouldn't seem right to me if I were the GF. It does sound like he is trying to do what he thinks is right for his new family-to-be.

 

[Corwin12]

Ok, I am going to give you completely different advice than what you are getting. I noticed you are from Maine ... I am from NH. Sooooo ... let them stay home and DW and I will go with you instead.

P.S. Hope you can work this out, sounds like a tough situation.

 

[TaraPA]

Ok, I am going to give you completely different advice than what you are getting. I noticed you are from Maine ... I am from NH. Sooooo ... let them stay home and DW and I will go with you instead.

P.S. Hope you can work this out, sounds like a tough situation.

Hey Corwin12 - I asked first!!!

 

[Kagoguen]

I have checked with the airline, no refunds, but if my son and his GF want, they can get credit for a future flight within a year, eventhough I paid for it, they get the credit because the tickets were in their names. Disney did say that the park hopper passes will be good for the next time we go, because they won't get used so they won't expire 14 days from the first day used.

Talked with son today, told him another reason he may want to go, is because we found out recently my wife's father, who lives about 45 minutes away from WDW has colon cancer, and we had plans to all get together at EPCOT, and the go back to his place to check things out, where as we have not seen his place yet.

He did also say the main reason he doesn't want to go is because of the lost wages. told him we still have 25 days hopefully things will work out.

and yes TaraPa did ask first.

Again, thanks all for your opinions.

 

[cybilx2]

If she doesn't want to go for whatever the reason, don't push it she will make the trip miserable for everyone there. I went to Disney 7 1/2 months pregnant with doctors consent and loved "watching" my husband and 5 yr old have a great time. I got to stand around holding the bags while they got to enjoy almost all of the rides. There was very little I could do other than worry about getting back home and wait for the baby. Every thought goes through your mind. I was 29, I can only imagine what will go through the mind of a 18 year old. When the new grandchild is old enough Go Hve a Blast.

 

[LoraJ]

Well, can your son just go for maybe a few days so he can see his grandfather? Then maybe he'll only have to take 1 day off from work. I just can't imagine the GF would have a good time if she can't ride anything. And maybe she doesn't want to be so far from home if she has problems with her pregnancy.