I'm sorry! I wasn't trying to scare you. I think I'm just cynical by nature. In addition, I see poor customer service on a regular basis. I work in government.
Your situation is different since custody isn't stated. It's the words "joint custody" that could create an issue for me.
Plus(I hate to say this) my situation is a little different. Unfortunately, we do not live in a tolerant world and you never know what the person across from you believes in. Given the fact I am in an interracial relationship and my son is white, I cannot risk having someone's narrow viewpoint of the world ruin anything. Kevin didn't understand why I was worried after looking at my divorce stuff and I didn't have the heart to say "but what if the person at the counter is a racist?"
Although we do not have problems in day to day life generally, we do encounter ignorance (well, I do) At the wedding we were at (in upstate SC-can you say hickville?) there was a very overweight balding man in his mid-40's in a seersucker suit

He kept turning around in the church glaring at us. Later, he made some nasty comments while I was in line for beer. (he was standing behind me) I let it slide since this was a work colleague's of Kevin's wedding.