Disney without the kids

[bbak3030]

Married mom of 2 here, just got back from WDW last month. My best friend, who is not married with kids, wants to take a girls trip to WDW in September, just the 2 of us.
DH said he was surprised that I would want to go without the entire family. My mom said it was a great idea and I deserve a trip like this. My sister said I was the worst mom ever for wanting to go without my kids.

Personally, I DONT feel bad for wanting to go without the entire family. My kids don't go without anything. They both do every activity under the sun and have every toy known. We travel. Trust me, they aren't hurting.

Thoughts? Am I crazy and selfish for wanting this?

 

[CLEO Z]

One of my besties and I are planning a no kids trip this fall and I can't wait! My kids have been numerous times and my husband is not a big Disney fan. I decided that I want a trip where I don't have to worry about the family. Every trip has me as the planner, the packer, diaper changer, sunscreen applier, etc. I must mention the wonderful hubby did his share with sunscreen and diapers to be fair. I've also had to be the family moderator when extended family goes.

I think it is good for the kids to see me as a person that is not just mom. Of course it is my biggest role, along with wife, but I need a break and they will get a better version of me when I get back.

All of that said, I wouldn't go if we couldn't afford it (I've picked up subbing jobs) and if it would cause too much strife with my husband. I bet if you said you and your friend said you were doing some spa trip everyone would be fine, why is it that some people can't see Disney is a great escape? That sometime the exhausting fun actually recharges us?

The ages below are wrong now. Gotta change that. The kids will be 13 and 10 at the time of the trip.

 

[Disworldluv]

Go!!! Your kids will get over it. You are not being selfish. This is an opportunity to do whatever you want to do at the parks at your pace. Eat at the better restaurants, take in your favorite rides. My wife and I do this once a year in early December. Go!!

 

[katclicks]

Go! I went on my first real me trip (my oldest is 7) to run the princess 1/2. I was there for 5 nights. I really enjoyed myself. The only time I was really sad about no kids was when they played Let it Go on the race course, my youngest belts it out constantly. It was nice to move at a bit of a slower pace,not worry about what was on menus, take in the scenery and not carry around any one else's junk but my own! My girls (3&7) took me going without them surprisingly well. I told them they could each request and special item to bring home and I used a bunch of our unused snack credits on things for them that they loved. You are not being a bad mom at all. I actually have another no kids trip planned next May to dl for the tink 1/2! If I have to run 13 miles to get a kid and hubby free trip, I will! Enjoy

 

[BigAlsGal]

I've already done it! It was great! DH and I are going without the kids in a few weeks. Woohoo! Can't wait!

Totally go!

 

[bbak3030]

Well, my DH apparently feels that it's completely WRONG for me to go to Disney without the entire family. We had a huge fight last night. I don't understand his way of thinking, but the trip is off. Which makes me very sad and angry, but it's not worth the argument.
Thanks to everyone for the replies, glad to know that not everyone feels like I'm a bad person for wanting this.

 

[mommymeg]

Well, my DH apparently feels that it's completely WRONG for me to go to Disney without the entire family. We had a huge fight last night. I don't understand his way of thinking, but the trip is off. Which makes me very sad and angry, but it's not worth the argument. Thanks to everyone for the replies, glad to know that not everyone feels like I'm a bad person for wanting this.

We are seriously considering leaving our 3 kids at home and taking an anniversary trip in the fall. 2 out of our 3 kids are bummed, But they will get over it. Hubby is on board but I've gotta quiet that mom guilt too. We have priced other vacations and with Free Dining and Rapid Rewards points for flights, it's really the best value. Neither of us are drinkers, gamblers or lazy the day away type of vacationers. I've all but convinced myself that this is a great idea for us, and also benefits our children in the fact that they get to see their parents still crazy in love with each other after 20 years. We will no doubt be taking our children back to the world in the future. This time it's gonna be about us and I'll try to remember that our kids will survive too.

 

[Shannon G]

My bff and I (both single moms) are going without our kids in September, for the food & wine festival. Granted, my kids have been a lot, and I am taking them in June, so they're not exactly going without, lol. I am a firm believer that, even when you are a parent, you can and should take time for yourself and do things for yourself without your children. For the last 4 or 5 years, I have at least 1 child-free trip with my best friend each year. Some times it's just an overnight to NYC, or a weekend wine tasting, but last year 2 of my best friends & I went to Key West to celebrate turning 40, and this year it's the F&W fest. The kids will survive - besides, it's good for them to realize that not everything in the universe revolves around them, lol.