Disney weddings tonight-$70,000!!!!!!

[catsrule]

poopie! Good to see you, I've been wondering where you've been!

 

[vhoffman]

$70,000 for a wedding? I can't think of anyone I'd want to entertain that much!

 

[vhoffman]

So everyone making 6-7 figures is supposed to donate a substantial portion of that to charity? Well, between dh and myself we bring around $200k, and I don't feel obligated to give half of it away. Actually, I already have--its called taxes! Charities don't "make a difference" anyways. Most of that money goes into the administrator's pockets and what trickles down to the intended recepients is just a farce. There was a time I was "down and out" and no one ran after me with a handout. I could have starved for all anyone cared. I've learned since then to make regular contributions to my own savings account so "I'll never be hungry again!"

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Originally posted by TDC Nala
I haven't seen the show and don't care what anyone spends on themselves. I don't understand spending cash on a "vow renewal" though. Wasn't once enough?

You'd think so but I have to say having just done it once I'd certainly want to do it again LOL having a Disney wedding can be addictive And I do look forward to reaffirming my love to my husband publicly again when the time is right.

 

[poopie]

I'll tell you where I have been, cleaning up cat poop. We now have 4, yes FOUR, count them 1,2,3,4 cats.

You can see my latest additions at www.crazypetlady.com

Sorry to hi-jack the thread.

 

[poopie]

has anyone been following Bridzillias? There was a 250K wedding that IMHO wasn't that special(not Disney). So 70k isn't much realitively speaking. Bless those who can afford to spend that much for a big wedding or bless their parents.

You know it's all relative I live in a 750k house and I know someone in St. Louis that lives in a MUCH nicer house then me that only paid 100k for it. So really how much you spend on your wedding is relative to where you live, cost of living, lifestyle, priorities, parents helping out, etc..........

Enough. I'd better shut up.

 

[vernon]

I don't understand spending cash on a "vow renewal" though. Wasn't once enough?

My ex and I were married in Kuwait, away from the rest of the family, because living together in a muslim country was becoming a difficult option. Our intention (never realised) was to do something like a vow renewal so that family memebrs could join in with the occasion when that would not have been possible or practical at the time. IMHO many people get married in circumstances, whether financial, shotgun or logistical, when they are not able to have the sort of celebration that they would desire to have in different circumstances. A vow renewal at a later date in the marriage often allows people the time and money to host the event they wished they'd been able to have previously.

It's not a choice I'd make myself, but I think it's pretty easy to understand why it is appealing to some.

 

[scarlett873]

I haven't seen the show and don't care what anyone spends on themselves. I don't understand spending cash on a "vow renewal" though. Wasn't once enough?

as stated in a previous thread...i believe that the decision to renew your vows is a personal one. if the couple wants to spend the money on a vow renewal ceremony, then so be it! personally...it's something that's important to me and my dh. we've overcome much adversity to be together and we want to continue to renew that pledge to each other. we won't always spend the money to have a big "to do" but we still reaffirm our original vows and promises that we made to each other on our wedding day each year on our anniversary.

$70,000 for a wedding? I can't think of anyone I'd want to entertain that much!

 

[TINKTWINS]

There are certainly lots of different reasons one might consider a nice Vow Renewel. In my case, I am considering it for my twentieth, in 2 years. Reasons being, DH and I were 20 when we married, had very very little money. Neither parents could do much to have a large wedding, we wanted to elope but the family came together and we had a very informal one. FF many years later we have owned our home for many years, we have 5 children, all of which have had great schooling, and have been put first and provided well for. DH had promised me that on our 10th we would do it but it wasnt right at that time, maybe in 2 years we will or maybe we wont who knows, but to celebrate your union in a special way is a good thing in this day and age.

Judge lightly of others

 

[mickeyfan1]

My husband and I eloped, as it were. We got married in a courthouse with no one else there. That is how we wanted it. I would love to renew my vows for my 30th anniversary, I think it would be way cool to have all my sisters attend me, my brother the priest could officiate, and all my neices, nephews and great niece could be there. I doubt that it will happen, but a girl can dream, right? ANd even if I could talk DH into renewing, he wouldn't do it at WDW, not his thing.

Hey Rachel, are you getting married to the one I met at DL?

ETA - I haven't seen the show yet, but they do tend to edit for their own purposes. But I did watch most of Ann's video, what a beautiful wedding, all the before stuff, the carraige, everything was so perfect.

 

[catsrule]

Originally posted by poopie
I'll tell you where I have been, cleaning up cat poop. We now have 4, yes FOUR, count them 1,2,3,4 cats.

You can see my latest additions at www.crazypetlady.com

Sorry to hi-jack the thread.

cool poopie, I must check out those kitty pics!

Now back to regular programming......

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Originally posted by TDC Nala
I don't understand spending cash on a "vow renewal" though. Wasn't once enough?

No, once was not enough!! I didn't get to have the wedding I wanted when DH and I married 13 years ago, so a vow renewal gives me the opportunity to do so. Even though 3 of my family members are no longer here to share in our joy and renewal of our committment to one another, DH and I have made new family and friends who can share in our day with us and I can't wait. 2006 won't get here fast enough.

 

[Kismetdreams]

I had a dream that one day, everyone making 6 or 7 figures a year decided to use their money to make a difference, instead of spending $35-70K in a 24 hour span on a party to show off for their friends.

I think I'm going to be sick!

I know that my husband and I had a high-end intimate wedding, spending around $16,000 on our 8 guests but when it actually came down to the ceremony, we could have been anywhere in the world, because I didn't see or hear anything except the love in his eyes and the sound of his voice, telling me how deeply he loved me.

$16K on 8 guests is pretty much showing off plain and simple. Perhaps you think you are above others because you donate time/money to charities, or perhaps because you don't fall into the 6 or 7 figure income level.

We had a wedding for 50 guests at Disney and spent less $$ then you did! $1500 less actualy! We also made charitable donations in lieu of favors...Did you?

And if you want to start tossing stones, then you can come join me in my job in the US Air Force, fighting for our country, donating my spare time to local charities/causes, then paying cash for our wedding, that we paid for out of our non-6 figure salaries and see how far your stones will get you.

Never throw stones when you live in a glass house!

 

[lulu71]

Originally posted by vhoffman
Charities don't "make a difference" anyways. Most of that money goes into the administrator's pockets and what trickles down to the intended recepients is just a farce.

Well, I thought that the person who said that people making 6 figures should give their money away was a bit naive, this is a completely uninformed and ignorant statement. Have you ever served on the board of a charity or worked at one? I have my whole career and have been a board member and president....and I can tell you this is absolutely not true. Sure, there are bad apples in every bunch, but you shouldn't make such sweeping statements. It's really sad and I hope no one actually takes your word for it.

 

[Fantasmic303]

Originally posted by lulu71
Well, I thought that the person who said that people making 6 figures should give their money away was a bit naive, this is a completely uninformed and ignorant statement. Have you ever served on the board of a charity or worked at one? I have my whole career and have been a board member and president....and I can tell you this is absolutely not true. Sure, there are bad apples in every bunch, but you shouldn't make such sweeping statements. It's really sad and I hope no one actually takes your word for it.

I've gotta echo the sentiments in response to charities not making a difference.

I've spent the last three years as a volunteer for the Make-A-Wish Foundation. 81% of contributions go directly towards making wishes come true. That's 81 cents OF EVERY DOLLAR donated.


And trust me, they're making a difference. I can tell by the smiles in the photos lining the office and the letters from families who are thanking MAW for giving them time to make memories together and giving their brave children the strength and hope to fight their illness.


Oh, and FYI for brides out there - if you're interested in helping make other families' Disney wishes come true, consider (as another poster did) charitable donations instead of favors for the Make-A-Wish Foundation. They have a program called Weddings for Wishes designed just for that reason!!

 

[Kismetdreams]

We made our donation to the Susan G. Komen Foundation, as my grandmother was between her 2nd and 3rd rounds of chemo for breat cancer when she came to our wedding.

 

[Fantasmic303]

Just bumping this post so that anyone who is just now watching the Food Network special can join in on the conversation!!

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I was never one to want a big wedding. I didn't get it. I had a very small wedding in my home. I didn't wear white and didn't spend a lot of money.

However, I watched the Disney special yesterday and I was awed by the whole thing. I totally get it now! I thought the brides were beautiful and didn't think anyone was spoiled or a brat. If I had an extra $70K laying around, I'd have the whole shebang too!

 

[Aimeedyan]

I finally caught the special yesterday, Dh and I watched it together, and I thought both couples were beautiful... everyone was, really! I didn't think anyone came across as a brat, just people who had been dreaming and saving for their big day for many years and wanted it perfect. Nothing wrong with that.

I do have to say, that my bridal cake looked EXACTLY like the Mad Hatter cake at the Tea Party (diff color scheme but similar designs, same size, same topper, etc), which they did a short segment on, and I think they were a bit over the top in their explanations of how hard it is, how many people it takes, etc etc. I spoke with several bakers here about that cake, none of them had an issue in the world doing it, and I know for a fact my baker did it herself... and she certainly didn't charge me what they would charge a Disney bride!

I dont know... it just came across as something fantastic and unique that only DISNEY has the talent and manpower to do, but I know that they are pretty common and not that difficult for a professional to do... but still pretty fantastic, if I might say so myself.

I'd share a pic of mine but I havent a clue how to post pics.

Totally enjoyed the special!

 

[Nancy]

I finally got to see this and thought it was great. I don't think she came across as spoiled, just very young and wanting a dream wedding. I'm pretty sure Mom and Dad paid for it. They also said that cost included everything including all the family dinners. Now her dress....well I couldn't figure out if that sleeve thing was attached or not and just what the purpose was. The dress would have been so pretty without it. I really enjoyed watching the show and getting to see a Dis board mebers wedding on there...how cool!