Disney weddings not all they're cracked up to be?

[L&Lfan]

Do they allow weddings at Queen of the Universe Shrine? Or does the diocese insist they be in parish churches?

 

[Disney_Alli]

Do they allow weddings at Queen of the Universe Shrine? Or does the diocese insist they be in parish churches?

It's actually really popular among catholic couples to have their ceremonies there and then their receptions at Disney.

 

[Maggie Gallagher]

Weddings are generally a waste of money, so obviously a wedding on property would be a waste of money of an even bigger magnitude.

That's your opinion. I'm guessing that your not into vow renewals either then.

 

[cabanafrau]

Weddings are generally a waste of money, so obviously a wedding on property would be a waste of money of an even bigger magnitude.

For me personally spending beyond a very bare bones wedding would be a waste of money. I'm not at all into it, never have been, just not my thing.

I've been to thoughtfully planned weddings where I've had an absolutely fantastic time, both modest and expensive affairs. I don't consider any of those, the modest or the expensive, a waste of money by those who chose to celebrate the way they did. They achieved their goal of celebrating as they chose, and spent accordingly as they chose.

I've been to a couple of all out, beyond lavish weddings. Not anything like the celebrity style all out, but real people all out. In both cases I struggled to find much to enjoy about the entire occasion. I was far from alone. In both cases the couple and the parents involved wound up with serious buyers' remorse. Despite spending a premium on each and every aspect imaginable, somehow the end result was seriously lacking. Those I do consider a waste of money.

I think the key is all in being mindful of your budget, whatever the individual circumstances may be, and thoughtful planning about how the couple and the guests will truly be able to enjoy such a happy occasion.

 

[Cubbiecakes]

That's your opinion. I'm guessing that your not into vow renewals either then.

Depends on how much you are playing on spending.

But in general, yeah it's a waste; you're already married, for pete's sake. You're married 5 minutes before the ceremony and you're still married 5 minutes after the ceremony.

If you have to waste money on pointless ceremonies to show everyone you still love your spouse, how sad and loveless is your everyday marriage?

 

[lorimay]

Depends on how much you are playing on spending.

But in general, yeah it's a waste; you're already married, for pete's sake. You're married 5 minutes before the ceremony and you're still married 5 minutes after the ceremony.

If you have to waste money on pointless ceremonies to show everyone you still love your spouse, how sad and loveless is your everyday marriage?

Our vow renewal was NOT pointless, we took our children and grandchildren on a beautiful cruise and celebrated a milestone with just the 8 of us and had a wonderful family vacation too.
Our marriage is full of love and happiness every Monday through Friday, through thick and think, happy and sad.
What a sad outlook you have.

 

[Cubbiecakes]

*shrug* If we all had the same opinion, this would be a really dull forum.

 

[Shelley Chiarats]

That would be a nice down payment on a house or pay down a student loan

That would not be a down payment for me. That would be a whole house.

 

[Disney Doll]

Weddings are generally a waste of money, so obviously a wedding on property would be a waste of money of an even bigger magnitude.

I never felt like my wedding was a waste of money. It was a day that we celebrated starting our new life together with the people we loved.

28 years later, I still feel the same way.

 

[verleniahall]

Depends on how much you are playing on spending.

But in general, yeah it's a waste; you're already married, for pete's sake. You're married 5 minutes before the ceremony and you're still married 5 minutes after the ceremony.

If you have to waste money on pointless ceremonies to show everyone you still love your spouse, how sad and loveless is your everyday marriage?

How sad your life must be?

we had a vow renewal because we were married by a justice of the peace two days before he left for bootcamp for the army because his leave date got moved up.

we love each other MORE than we did 12 years ago.

you obviously dont have alot of love in your life- I feel sorry for you

 

[Nancyg56]

Depends on how much you are playing on spending.

But in general, yeah it's a waste; you're already married, for pete's sake. You're married 5 minutes before the ceremony and you're still married 5 minutes after the ceremony.

If you have to waste money on pointless ceremonies to show everyone you still love your spouse, how sad and loveless is your everyday marriage?

How sad your life must be?

we had a vow renewal because we were married by a justice of the peace two days before he left for bootcamp for the army because his leave date got moved up.

we love each other MORE than we did 12 years ago.

you obviously dont have alot of love in your life- I feel sorry for you

Both of these posts bother me a lot. Everyone has a different way of celebrating their lives together and for some celebrating a vow renewal with friends and family is a moving ceremony. The couple is married 5 minutes before and 5 minutes after, yes, however their lives at that lint in time are in no way the same as they were for their marraige Ceremony. I know my family and friends have changed over the past 27 years, and quite honestly my 'Ohana today is a closeknit hodgepodge of love that I never dreamed was possible back then. We have not celebrated a vow renewal but if we decided to do so for our 30th we would nto consider the funds spent a waste. WE woudl be celebrating the extension and strengthing of our family throughout those years.

As to those who do not choose to celebrate a vow renewal, and who consider the expense a waste of money, how on Earth does one determine those folks live an empty loveless life? My gosh, where does that notion come from? My hubby is one of those people who does nto need or want outward shows to prove his commitment nad love for me. Cards make him uneasy. Celebrations make him nervous. A bunch of people whose attention was centered on him as part of a couple would put him into a sweat. Nope. He is the man whose idea of love and commitment means he does what is needed or wanted when it is needed or wanted. No preplanning necessary. My DH is the most emotional and thoughtful man I know, with a wingspan that covers all of those he loves. He would never spend one penny on a vow renewal, but would move Heaven and Earth for me and any one of us in his fold.

 

[Toolulu22]

We were married at WDW four years ago. We knew we were going to have a destination wedding for two reasons. One- we didn’t want a huge wedding and two because all of our family lives in Florida and the south, while we’re in NY. Coming to NY would have cost more for many as they would also have had to rented a car in addition to flying out. My sister has a family of 5, my brother has 4. They drove to Florida.

We had a budget and our consultants worked with us to stay with in our goal. Our wedding included Mickey and Minnie, photos taken in Magic Kingdom and Animal Kingdom, a dessert party in Epcot. To this day our guests tell us they loved our wedding and had more fun than any other wedding. I don’t regret our decision and our total cost for everything, including 5 nights in a WL one bedroom Villa, the photos, welcome gifts for our guests, and my dress was about 20K.

 

[Toolulu22]

I had what I guess you would call a guerrilla wedding. We wanted a small, 5 people in attendant wedding in a spot that meant something to us. I did not were a white gown but we were dressed nicely and did it fast so no one would see us and yell. We then went to Victoria and Alberts for dinner.

Here is my thing, we did not pay disney so okay we didn't deserve anything special. But I marked on our reissues for hotel honeymoon, we stayed at the grand, at boulder ridge villas and at wilderness lodge, over 16 days. Not once did hey say congratulations, or anything. Not once did we get an upgrade. No special towels, no chocolate strawberries and we stayed club level.

We marked every dinner we had that it was our honeymoon, not once did we get anything, not even a congratulations.

Today is our last day. Concierge overheard me tell a blogger that I was a little disappointed that Disney did not go out of there way to do anything in 16 days. Not one single congratulations, not even at grand Floridian club level at $1100 a night. That concierge did give us a lunch for today at Tony's. very nice we appreciate it.

I think personally Disney is going the way of, spend thousands on your wedding and we will show you we appreciate it. Tell us your on your honeymoon and we won't even ecknowledge it.

Just my take from my experience.

I have to say that we were married at Disney and besides giving us a button that said Just Married and a photo in our room signed by Mickey and Minnie that said congratulations they didn’t do anything special while we were on property. A few people said congratulations when they saw the button, but we weren’t given free things as far as I can recall. I know there are several ceremonies each day, but also remember feeling a little let down especially after all the special treatment during the bridal planning phase! lol. I think a bottle of champagne and/cupcakes or something would be nice.

 

[shh]

Our vow renewal was NOT pointless, we took our children and grandchildren on a beautiful cruise and celebrated a milestone with just the 8 of us and had a wonderful family vacation too.
Our marriage is full of love and happiness every Monday through Friday, through thick and think, happy and sad.

Hey...I kinda like that arrangement. Love and happiness every mon-fri, with weekends off! (I kid.)

We actually got married in one of those "guerilla" weddings they talk about in the mid-'80s - long before they had a name - and years before the walt disney world wedding services even existed. We invited a few friends, one of whom married us in a quiet waterside spot near the castle one evening. It was wonderful! The "reception" was our entire wedding party racing to Thunder Mountain right after. I don't think anyone could do that today - parks weren't nearly as busy - nor were security issues as big a concern back then. It was a different era.

 

[rajak73]

We did not have a "grand" wedding. Married in the church with family and friends. Reception was in the Church basement, if anyone wants to do a vow renewal, I'm not going to tell you it's either good or bad, that's up to you, not me. As far as DW and I are concerned, we are not doing a vow renewal, I told her that what I told her on our wedding day still stands. Oh...by the way... that was 46 years ago.

 

[lorimay]

Hey...I kinda like that arrangement. Love and happiness every mon-fri, with weekends off! (I kid.)

We actually got married in one of those "guerilla" weddings they talk about in the mid-'80s - long before they had a name - and years before the walt disney world wedding services even existed. We invited a few friends, one of whom married us in a quiet waterside spot near the castle one evening. It was wonderful! The "reception" was our entire wedding party racing to Thunder Mountain right after. I don't think anyone could do that today - parks weren't nearly as busy - nor were security issues as big a concern back then. It was a different era.

Hahaha, weekends are just easier I guess!

 

[OKW8297]

I am a huge Disney fan. I did not have a Disney wedding 25 years ago because it was important to me that I marry in my church and that my elderly relatives be able to attend. It was definitely modest by today’s standards. We incorporated Disney into our day and WDW was our honeymoon. I recall receiving the signed Mickey card and I think that’s it. Didn’t really expect anything. We will be celebrating our 25 Anniversary in May, heading to WDW a few weeks later. May wear buttons, note it on reservation but don’t really expect much. We will have our adult children together with us and will enjoy our time. Vow renewal? Not how we roll. Can’t justify the expense or hoopla. We had a sweet wedding and those memories are cherished. I can understand the appeal to some but it’s not our thing.

 

[Cubbiecakes]

Vow renewal? Not how we roll. Can’t justify the expense or hoopla.

Agreed. Vow renewal just looks to me like, "Look at us! We're still married! PAY ATTENTION TO MEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!! LOOK WHAT I CAN DO!!!!!!"