That is actually a large reason why talking about the reality of the situation falls on
some deaf ears. This idea that someone knows someone who did it and therefore voila it's possible.....if only you work hard enough for it

it's the whole "pull up your bootstraps you'll be fine" mentality that simply keeps the conversation stagnant. You can recognize that you know so and so did it while also recognizing the issue as a whole; it's this part that is
always missing from the conversation.
One trend that wasn't as big when I was in college is parents taking out parental loans in greater numbers. It was a thing back then just wasn't as prevalent as it is now (or at least seems now).
FWIW I worked in high school, I worked all of my college life sometimes 40 hours per week and doing full time student. If you think that meant I was able to be debt free with the college tuition plus housing and food and gas and insurance, etc you'd be wrong. Even my husband couldn't do it. The difference is my husband was in the engineering field and right after college was already making $20K more than I was, it made it less of a burden for him to pay back his loans. We both ended up with right around the same student loan debt after 4 years. He worked during college, often full time or close to it. And this was when tuition was actually quite a bit less at our alma mater than it is now. Not only that but my meager pay back then when I was a high school student and college student actually was partially, somewhat, kinda doable. Now the pay you'd get at the jobs most college students have yeesh it's often just really not enough.