Discouraged about posting

[CleveRocks]

Sure, there are some people who are mean-spirited who feel they have nothing better to do. But a lot of other disagreements or tensions result from a poster meaning something one way but a reader taking it a completely different way. This can innocently happen because the printed word does not have our tone of voice, vocal inflections, body language and facial expressions that help convey our true meaning.

Let me give you an example. In one of my first posts here last year, the original poster (OP) expressed worry and concern about a situation and needed information as well as reassurance. I provided exactly the info she needed to be reassured that everything was going to work out great for her and her situation. I ended my post with something like, "Relax and enjoy." WELL, someone shot back at me with a flamethrower, saying something like, "How DARE you tell someone to relax!!!" The other person obviously read it as if I'd said "Relax" in a dismissive and sarcastic way, rather than in the supportive and reassuring way in which I meant it.

In seeing other posts by that person (whose name I never forgot, I'm sorry to say) over the past year or so, I can see that that person is not a "bad" poster, is not someone who enjoys stirring the pot and arguing with people, so I have to assume that he/she simply badly misunderstood what I was saying, or was just having a bad day that day, whatever.

DISboards has provided me with a fun and enjoyable "hobby" as well as with a wealth of information that helped me with my first Disney trip as a parent last year, and even as I have helped provide info to others I'm still being helped by others in planning my next trip this November.

 

[Hopetobee]

Welcome to the DIS Boards Dicecatt.

I can't add much to the already great replies that have been posted here except to say please don't be afraid to post. You seem to be a very kind hearted and careing person and the world will always need to hear from people like yourself.

Keep on posting.

I totally agree

 

[torinsmom]

You know, it is amazing to me how rude people can be when they are behind a computer screen! The people here and elsewhere online who are quick to jump all over you would probably never think of doing that in real life. I have been jumped on a few times as well, and it is a little discouraging. I feel like you can disagree with someone without being rude, and some posters need to learn that.

Marsha

 

[Andrea]

I was so excited to find this board. I love Disney, and this board seems to have a lot of great content. But I am actually scared to post. I've only made a few, and the first time I joked with a poster, that person understood the joke, but someone else was ready to jump all over it negatively, assuming I was just being rude. And I just don't understand that. I have never said anything mean or rude to any poster on any board, and it seems like so many people on these forums are ready to fight.

I don't understand why people just don't state their opinion, have fun with one another, without being mean or rude? I've seen this on the child custody forums, which I understand, because that is a sensitive subject. But this is DISNEY! Shouldn't we all just be friends?

I'm just about intimidated enough to just go back to only posting on the TGM forums, because not one time have I seen anyone fight, or be mean, or negative. I would think since our love of Disney brings us all together, we could try to be nice to each other?

i agree with you, i have been a member of this board for a little bit, and i love the information but some of the older (meaning they have been members on this board for a long time) they are out right rude, and mean to people. I even pm one of them and even asked them to stop being so rude to me, because i have never said anything to her. So until my next disney vaction in december.. i wont be posting much on here, and that is sad.

 

[KathyRN137]

One more vote of reassurance, here!

Sometimes, if I want to make personal reassurances or advice on a sensitive subject, I PM (private message) the poster so it's just between me and him/her. It's like regular conversations: some things you can be comfortable talking about in a group, while other things are better discussed in private!

BTW, if someone is truly rude to you, please inform a moderator; I'm sure they will take appropriate action.

See you on the boards!

 

[Kimmielee]

i agree with you, i have been a member of this board for a little bit, and i love the information but some of the older (meaning they have been members on this board for a long time) they are out right rude, and mean to people. I even pm one of them and even asked them to stop being so rude to me, because i have never said anything to her. So until my next disney vaction in december.. i wont be posting much on here, and that is sad.

Don't let this stop you. Either report them to the Moderator OR simply choose to ignore them. Click on their name, view public profile, then click on "Add Kimmielee to your Ignore list". You won't see thier rude remarks. I've been on here "actively" for less than a year (I didn't post much at all when I first joined) and I just put a member on ignore. He's not a long time member - but seems to pop up on threads regarding anything to do with parents asking for advice about kids... and SLAMS parents and their parenting methods, etc. He just does it to stir the pot and make people mad. There are some people that LIVE for the opportunity to start a debate.

Then, there is the REST of the group. They are here to help, answer questions or lead you in the right direction of where to find your answer and I for one enjoy it very much.

I can laugh out loud and sometimes even cry... it's a community, like most every other community... some of the neighbors are too loud and abrasive but for the most part we LOVE living in the neighborhood! Don't stay away... join in and be prepared to become a DIS addict!

 

[CleveRocks]

In one of my first posts here last year, the original poster (OP) expressed worry and concern about a situation and needed information as well as reassurance. I provided exactly the info she needed to be reassured that everything was going to work out great for her and her situation. I ended my post with something like, "Relax and enjoy." WELL, someone shot back at me with a flamethrower, saying something like, "How DARE you tell someone to relax!!!" The other person obviously read it as if I'd said "Relax" in a dismissive and sarcastic way, rather than in the supportive and reassuring way in which I meant it.

In seeing other posts by that person (whose name I never forgot, I'm sorry to say) over the past year or so, I can see that that person is not a "bad" poster, is not someone who enjoys stirring the pot and arguing with people, so I have to assume that he/she simply badly misunderstood what I was saying, or was just having a bad day that day, whatever.

HOLY IRONIES, BATMAN!

The person to whom I referred, who flamed me mercilessly for assuring someone that she could relax and enjoy, POSTED ON THIS THREAD BEFORE I DID, I just hadn't noticed until now. And it's a nice post. The funny thing is, I'll bet he/she doesn't even know I'm referring to him/her!

 

[Minniespal]

Most Disers are friendly people linked by one common love Disney. You will encounter people who understand your posts and agree with them. You will also encounter people who disagree with you. Enjoy the boards.

 

[pepperw23]

I have been reading this board for months now, but only recently started posting. I'll admit it I am a chicken. This is fun I'm glad I started posting.

Hey, you get there the day before us!! woo hoo!! Seems like this two weeks is going to crawl by.

To the OP...

 

[pepperw23]

HOLY IRONIES, BATMAN!

The person to whom I referred, who flamed me mercilessly for assuring someone that she could relax and enjoy, POSTED ON THIS THREAD BEFORE I DID, I just hadn't noticed until now. And it's a nice post. The funny thing is, I'll bet he/she doesn't even know I'm referring to him/her!

Hi Cleve!! (btw it is not me haha, just saying hi to Cleve)

 

[CleveRocks]

Howdy, pepper!

 

[Kick Save]

One thing that the internet and its message boards lack is the ability to convey emotion very well. You can use the smilies and such, but over the years I've found that it's up to the reader to apply the emotion. If the reader is in a bad mood, they're going to assume you were too when you wrote it. The assumption is likely wrong, but it's human nature. My advice: FLAME THEM!!!

Just kidding. But, being rather sarcastic by nature has gotten me in my fair share of jams in posting over the years. (Not so many here, but a few others where the unDisney type language is accetable. ) For the most part, ignore them and move on to one of the 2 billion other threads available here and enjoy yourself.

Also, never, ever be afraid of posting, there's really nothing to worry about. The bigger the community, the better. Jump on in, the water's fine!

 

[Dicecatt]

I want to thank everyone that has posted! You all seem so caring and nice, and I need to develop thicker skin!

I think I will continue to post, I really love Disney and I love talking about it, and my husband is about to commit me to a Disney funny farm, so...I really can't talk to him too much! I figure you all can be my therapy!

I will defend myself if a case like I just experienced happens again...simply. And then I will ignore and go read a fun thread and forget it. Thanks for all the support and encouragement, what a great group of people you are!

 

[Kimmielee]

I want to thank everyone that has posted! You all seem so caring and nice, and I need to develop thicker skin!

I think I will continue to post, I really love Disney and I love talking about it, and my husband is about to commit me to a Disney funny farm, so...I really can't talk to him too much! I figure you all can be my therapy!

I will defend myself if a case like I just experienced happens again...simply. And then I will ignore and go read a fun thread and forget it. Thanks for all the support and encouragement, what a great group of people you are!

 

[Jobie]

Wow, that was one of the most dumbest posts I have ever seen. Way to go!







J/K.........
LOL, just messing with you. Don't worry about what others think about what you say on here. Just express your self anyway you want to. If some one takes offense or takes something you say too personally, it is their fault not yours. Hope you have a wonderful day and have fun in this great online community.... the Dis.

Jobie

 

[eblack0409]

I agree with ignoring them.......there are as many different opinions as there are people in the world, but I would definately ignore those posters that are rude or mean.....

You are right...these boards are about DISNEY!!!!

 

[4theloveofdisney]

I have had rude remarks made to a few of my posts as well and I was just asking a question - lol! When that happens though, I take it with a grain of salt. If someone has to go out of their way to be rude on a Disney message board, then they might have problems much deeper than I care to imagine or want to wast my precious time thinking about! KWIM? '

Don't worry...be happy!

 

[missmun52]

Some people just have nothing better to do than to look for the negative in things (even when it not even there they find it) and make rude comments. We are all human and sometime it hurts even though its just on here. Most times i just laugh and figure these are people who just sit at their computers day and night with no life what so ever. Many probably have problems in the home, at work, at school ect. and need someone to take it out on.

Some people are just rude, but who cares, they have a problem, but dont let it bother you.

 

[byoung]

Welcome to the DIS!!!

 

[kbmoo]

Welcome. Post your little heart out! I think some people just have a strange sence of humor. They aren't trying to be mean, just funny. Just take everything with a grain of salt. There really are alot of wonderful people on the DIS. You'll get addicted like me!