Tnkrbelle565
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Can I ask you guys a question related to fostering and adoption? If you go the fostering route how do you handle the natural parents? Do the children have them?
I looked into these before because I can't have any more children and came to the determination that I couldn't do it right now.
I have seen first hand how fostering can be a heart breaking process (nat parents come back into the picture and want the child back) and I have (in my mind) thought that I can't go that avenue because the way I am. If a child is in need for whatever reason and I get attached I would be damned if anyone who previously neglected/hurt or did anything to put a child in that place would get them back. Adoption required a large financial retainer that I wasn't able to pay for a variety of reasons (I am single parent right now & taking care of Mom).
I give you guys all the credit in the world for adopting/fostering children. Anyone who denies a child because of their ethnicity or who birthed them are the people who really lose out. I feel bad for them and what they are missing.
Anyhoo... how did you guys connect with your children? Was it fostering or adoption? If this is too personal, forgive me -![]()
If you are fostering, most likely the children will still have visits with the biological parents. In Mass, they visit at least once per week for the most part. You will not have to supervise the visits- the social worker assigned to the kids and their parents will do that.
Some foster parents go into it hoping to adopt. Here in Mass, a child needs to be placed for 6 months with a family prior to an adoption. Some foster parents just foster while the children need to be in care.