Disappointing Honeymoon/Homophobic CM's

[grillman2]

Well I see posts that are not of a politically correct viewpoint become unfairly censored on this board as I am sure this post will be removed too. I will not speak for the other poster's comments, but I can for mine.

My post merely expressed a counter-viewpoint to the original poster's comments. It was not maliced in any way towards anyone. In fact, it was stated in my post that I was "happy" for the original poster.

It is sad when societal norms that don't agree with progressive ideals are deemed wrong and inappropirate just because they don't agree. If the original poster was allowed to share his ideals, other thinkers and posters should also be allowed to share theirs' on the subject in a respectful manner.

 

[LauraAnn630]

People are ignorant!

Im not surprised at all.

Didnt you expect some of it?

Im so sorry! I wish you wouldnt of let THEM get you down!

Congratulations to you both! Good Luck Always!

 

[hiwaygal]

Well I see posts that are not of a politically correct viewpoint become unfairly censored on this board as I am sure this post will be removed too. I will not speak for the other poster's comments, but I can for mine.

My post merely expressed a counter-viewpoint to the original poster's comments. It was not maliced in any way towards anyone. In fact, it was stated in my post that I was "happy" for the original poster.

It is sad when societal norms that don't agree with progressive ideals are deemed wrong and inappropirate just because they don't agree. If the original poster was allowed to share his ideals, other thinkers and posters should also be allowed to share theirs' on the subject in a respectful manner.

The OP did not ask for an opinion on his life. He posted about his experience and the feeling of being "less" than other married couples...he was venting and in need of support.

If you want to debate the gay lifestyle, take it to the Community Board.

 

[Swmhc]

Congratulations on your marriage !! As many posters have already echoed...some people are just ignorant and intolerant, but many still are just embarrassed or uncertain as to the acceptable way to proceed. The most important thing is that you have succeeded in being able to marry the love of your life, most states still don't even recognize same-sex marriages. I wish things had been more magical for you. But you are with the love of your life...enjoy and rejoice in that !

 

[TLC371]

Congratulations on your marriage!

I'm so sorry that you had to deal with the ignorance of the people there. You deserved just as much pixie dust and special treatment as any other honeymooning couple.

I hope you have a long and wonderful life together!

 

[Maggimus]

OP Congrats on the marriage. Im sorry that you didnt receive a whole lot of pixie dust... however many couples dont. I hope your next trip to Disney will be full of magic. As others said I hope you didnt let this ruin your trip. I can only imagine what you are feeling.... wishing you many many years of happiness and love!!

 

[aprincess72]

Congratulations!

I really hate that your Disneymoon was not magical! I have always considered Disney one of the most gay friendly places. In fact at my wedding I would say my gay friends got more attention from CMs than we did! Especially the Mad Hatter! Anyway...
DH and I were married at WDW spent a few days there with our families and then headed over to DL. We didn't get any special treatment except on Small World at DL where we got our own boat.
I was very dissappointed in the restaurants at both places. We had pins and ears and mentioned wedding / honeymoon on all my ADRs Plus I blabbed to anyone I could that we just got married at WDW. I even saw on the restaurant tickets that they said wedding or honeymoon and not one single server acknowledged it! Now I will say that many of the CMs did congratulate us as we made our way through the parks. DL was way better at this than WDW.

I got more attention this week at CA Grill for my birthday than I did during the 7 days of Disney for my wedding.

The magic of your marriage is something that no one can spoil for you!

 

[smoof]

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS and PIXIE DUST from me. I am really sorry to hear your story. It surprises me that you had such an experience. There are so many gay CMs. For God's sake, Disney is one of the few companies to have partner benefits! Although Gay Days isn't officially sanctioned by Disney, everyone I know that has gone has thought Disney was really supportive. We didn't have anything special on our honeymoon either, but I don't think we saw anything blatent like you did.

 

[OhMari]

So sorry to hear of your disappointment. Congradulations though. I'm not making any excuses for CM's, but at least a CM posted her views.

We celebrated our 25th wedding anniv. I noted it on our ressie's and when I called I told them to note it was our Annv. also. I had 8 Table Service, and I told them for LeCelliur and Boma. The only time I heard Happy Anniversary was one night at midnight from our check-in CM and I was looking for our food from the Garden Grocer. I had my head down, waiting for her to come back and this is when she said, "Oh, Happy 25th Wedding Anniv. I perked right up and said, "thank you". That was it, one person, but at least it was one.

 

[HauntedMansionFan]

You also mentioned that you were able to count on TWO hands the number of special things that happened to you both during the trip - the special desserts, the congrats from Goofy, etc. That sounds pretty good to me. Better than your average guest experience, who may be only able to count on ONE hand the number of times that a CM went above and beyond for them.

Actually I said that I could sadly count on two hands the number of CM's that actually congratulated us the entire week, not the number of special things that happened.

"They didn't specify during your announcement what the occasion was - well - that happens." I should have been more specific, what Lapao (I'm not sure how you spell her name) said is, and I quote "we are just going to tell everyone that you are down there to celebrate a special occasion".... and then on top of that got our names wrong everytime she addressed us, even after we corrected her.

"Also, you said that everywhere you looked "regular" couples were getting thigns that you weren't. But maybe, that was one of only a few times they got recognized for their special occasion." You might be correct on this, but when you see one couple given a fastpass to an attraction and you pass by that same CM not one minute later and receive a look of disgusts, you get an idea of how the week went.

"I'll bet that night there were MULTIPLE honeymoons, wedding to be, engagement dinners and birthdays. Disney has such a high volume of "special occassion" celebraters on a regular basis that I think sometimes CMs are just doing the best they can to keep up." You might be correct on this also on any given evening. On the night we were there we were at the restuarant for almost three hours and were the only special celebration going on.

 

[HauntedMansionFan]

Well I see posts that are not of a politically correct viewpoint become unfairly censored on this board as I am sure this post will be removed too. I will not speak for the other poster's comments, but I can for mine.

My post merely expressed a counter-viewpoint to the original poster's comments. It was not maliced in any way towards anyone. In fact, it was stated in my post that I was "happy" for the original poster.

It is sad when societal norms that don't agree with progressive ideals are deemed wrong and inappropirate just because they don't agree. If the original poster was allowed to share his ideals, other thinkers and posters should also be allowed to share theirs' on the subject in a respectful manner.

Damn... what post did I miss? Lol......

 

[frndshpcptn]

Actually I said that I could sadly count on two hands the number of CM's that actually congratulated us the entire week, not the number of special things that happened.

"They didn't specify during your announcement what the occasion was - well - that happens." I should have been more specific, what Lapao (I'm not sure how you spell her name) said is, and I quote "we are just going to tell everyone that you are down there to celebrate a special occasion".... and then on top of that got our names wrong everytime she addressed us, even after we corrected her.

"Also, you said that everywhere you looked "regular" couples were getting thigns that you weren't. But maybe, that was one of only a few times they got recognized for their special occasion." You might be correct on this, but when you see one couple given a fastpass to an attraction and you pass by that same CM not one minute later and receive a look of disgusts, you get an idea of how the week went.

"I'll bet that night there were MULTIPLE honeymoons, wedding to be, engagement dinners and birthdays. Disney has such a high volume of "special occassion" celebraters on a regular basis that I think sometimes CMs are just doing the best they can to keep up." You might be correct on this also on any given evening. On the night we were there we were at the restuarant for almost three hours and were the only special celebration going on.

Well, in the first example, if the CM kept getting your names wrong even after you corrected her then clearly she is either overworked/understaffed or an idiot. If she can't get names right even after being corrected then she doesn't seem to be the best example of a CM. Although, not knowing her I really can't say if she is just bad with names or was purposely messing up (which to me it seems like you are saying).

Second example, again not knowing the CM, I'll take your word on it. You were there and if you felt the CM gave you a look of disgust then I will take your word on it. Knowing where the CM works, though, if they are really that homophobic they won't last long at all. It's a very gay-friendly company.

And lastly, you really don't know you were the only special celebration going on that night at 'Ohana - unless you asked every other person in the restuarant if they were privately celebrating anything. There could have been others that you just didn't know about b/c they chose to celebrate in a more quiet manner. I've celebrated many special occasions on property and I have never done anything more than told the reservation person or my waiter. Sometimes I got a cupcake, sometimes a congrats, sometimes nothing.

And actually with that point about lots of special celebrations, I actually meant Disney-wide, not at your specific restaurant. My point was that a majority of the people that visit Disney have something "special" happening and CMs do the best they can to make each and every person they greet feel important. And on busy days, that's thousands of people.

I really do feel badly that your expectations for the trip were not met. I just also think that people need to temper their expectations and remember that although Disney tries really hard to make every guest feel like they are one in a million - there are millions of guests. It's an often thankless job and part of me feels you should feel happy that you ran into 10+ cast members that went out of thier way to try and make your honeymoon even more magical.

 

[dmslush]

Damn... what post did I miss? Lol......

It was posted this morning, and it was very ugly. I reported it to the mods.

 

[HauntedMansionFan]

I really do feel badly that your expectations for the trip were not met. I just also think that people need to temper their expectations and remember that although Disney tries really hard to make every guest feel like they are one in a million - there are millions of guests. It's an often thankless job and part of me feels you should feel happy that you ran into 10+ cast members that went out of thier way to try and make your honeymoon even more magical.

That's the things, I actually had low expectations, lol. But its also not like those CM's went out of their way to make the honeymoon more magical, it was a simple "congrats" in passing. I think the point though was driven home though by a friend of ours that joined us for dinner at O'hana that is a current CM and even they felt underwhelmed and even a bit embarrassed by the scene. Its all good though, we were there with family and it was still an enjoyable time.

 

[HauntedMansionFan]

It was posted this morning, and it was very ugly. I reported it to the mods.

Awwww man.... I'm sorry I missed it.

 

[Cinderella Fan]

Stephen - I am by no means condoning the way you were treated. However, where were you staying?

My DH and I were married on property in December, and I can tell you that from your post you were given more "magic" than he and I received. In fact, more attention was paid to the Best Man (who, BTW is gay and had a "Happy Birthday" button) than DH and I with the bride/groom ears and Just Married Buttons.

BM recieved a dessert, a lanyard from a CM, free fastpasses, and a free lunch at one of the CS. And that was just on the first day!

I hope that you didn't let the lack of magic ruin your vacation. It is the love you two share that should have made it a magical trip and a "Happily Ever After" Congratulations on your marriage! I hope you have a wonderfully happy life together!

 

[HauntedMansionFan]

It is funny you mention the birthday thing Cinderella Fan, a friend in our group had her birthday button and took it off half what through the day because she got tired of saying "thank you"..... lol. It's all good. We didn't let a little think like that ruin the week, we still had a blast even with the crazy heat. The parks didn't seem that crowded and everyone was able to ride what they wanted to. Our photographer posted a slideshow of our wedding while she is finalizing all the proofs, there is music so if you have speakers... turn them up! Here is the link to it. http://leatherwoodphotography.com/slideshows/Jay&Steve/ Just press the play button on the bottom left side of the slideshow. Jay is on the left in the first picture with the goatee and I'm on the right.

 

[Cinderella Fan]

It is funny you mention the birthday thing Cinderella Fan, a friend in our group had her birthday button and took it off half what through the day because she got tired of saying "thank you"..... lol. It's all good. We didn't let a little think like that ruin the week, we still had a blast even with the crazy heat. The parks didn't seem that crowded and everyone was able to ride what they wanted to. Our photographer posted a slideshow of our wedding while she is finalizing all the proofs, there is music so if you have speakers... turn them up! Here is the link to it. http://leatherwoodphotography.com/slideshows/Jay&Steve/ Just press the play button on the bottom left side of the slideshow. Jay is on the left in the first picture with the goatee and I'm on the right.

Stephen, BM had to take his off too!! He said it was sad that he was getting more attention than us, and it was our wedding / honeymoon!

Your pictures are very lovely, looks like a very nice wedding.

 

[HauntedMansionFan]

Stephen, BM had to take his off too!! He said it was sad that he was getting more attention than us, and it was our wedding / honeymoon!

Your pictures are very lovely, looks like a very nice wedding.

Lol... I was like.... don't draw all the attention...

Thank you for the compliment, the photographer was amazing.

 

[Maggimus]

i agree great photos-- you both look extremely happy! The photographer did a great job!