Disappointed little boy!

[tiggerlover]

Tonight was our community tree lighting ceremony and the arrival of Santa Claus. DS (6) was so excited! Santa was making his way toward the crowd on the back of a truck and DS's eyes were twinkling with excitement and his face was bubbling with joy and then it happened..........an older child in the crowd in two seconds wipes away all of DS's joy by announcing that that isn't Santa Claus it really is Mr. Smith. DH and I were so, so sad for DS, his bubble was burst. I don't know why kids have to be so mean, why don't parents explain to their older children that it isn't polite to spoil it for the others. DS was questioning us about Santa and we asked him one thing, do you believe? He said yes and we told him that is all that matters, because if you don't believe than Santa won't be able to come to your house and we told him we still believe, it is part of the magic.

 

[Serena]

That big kid must have gotten coal in his stocking last year for being a bad kid.

 

[piratesmate]

I'm sorry that this happened for him! We all still believe here - at 50, 47, 21 & 11!

Unfortunately, kids do tend to be mean if not "helped" to see the consequences of how they hurt others. I think the other factor is a bit of "if I can't believe, then you can't either!" Sad, really.

Deb

 

[kendall]

When I was a child, I asked my Mom how Santa could get from one mall to the next so quickly. She explained to me that Santa has lots of helpers who all dress like Santa - after all there are millions of children in the world who want to tell Santa their wishes so Santa needs helpers. And the helpers then relay the information to Santa. You never know which one is a helper and which one is the real Santa, because of course the real Santa is out there somewhere - watching and listening.

That explanation lasted years, and works well with my kids, too!

 

[Dizzy-Disney4]

Oh the poor boy . We tell our DS and DD that Santa has many helpers and that you very rarely ever get to see the real one because he's just so busy. Of course DS (9) came to me last month and we had "the talk" about Santa. It was time, unfortunately, since all of his friends were making fun of him for believing. He took it better than I did! He also told me that he still believes that Santa exists in all of us in spirit form and that's how Santa stays alive so long. He knows that it is now his responsibility to help keep the magic alive for other children. They grow up so fast... try to keep the magic alive as long as possible...and when its time, include them in the legend and helping to keep the magic alive for others.

I forgot to add, I told DS that I never lied to him about the Big Guy...I do believe, and I always will that Santa exisits in us all....guess where he got that whole Santa as a spirit in us.

 

[ByTheSea]

We were told Santa was too busy in December to be at all these places, so all the Santa's we saw were Santa Helpers, but sometimes it is the real Santa, ya just never know for sure.


My DS is 8 and getting some non-believer stuff from "friends" - he just says he feels sorry for their parents - you know if you don't believe, Santa stops coming and their parents have to go out and BUY gifts.

 

[Nutsy]

I hear ya Debbi.........

My eldest was still a firm believer in Santa until he was 11 & that was thanks to a kid at school who decided she just had to tell him the 'TRUTH". He was so disappointed & so sad. It is so sad that other kids feel the need to spoil the fun for others hey??

 

[holycow]

I know of a website that sells "coal" candy...I think this kid needs some!

Hugs to your son!

 

[AirForceRocks]

I just think it's so sad when a child that doesn't believe thinks it's OK to spoil it for the ones that do. Unfortunately, there are parents out there that don't bother teaching their kids to keep some stuff to themselves. Sounds like you handled it well though!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

It is so sad that other kids feel the need to spoil the fun for others hey??

Unfortunately it isn't just kids, but adults spoil fun for others as well.

Sorry about your little boy, I was going to try this at the mall, and if this is possible, see if it will work for you.... I am going to try and slip a note to the photography girls to have Santa ask DS BY NAME how he liked the gift he got last year. I will write down the gift he got as well. It is worth a try. We also have a Santa nearby that might work out for us.

 

[tiggerlover]

We told DS about santa's helpers too and he seems to be okay with it. It really just makes me sad remembering what pure joy he had on his face and then boom it was gone, it ws heartbreaking.

I hope that by believing ourselves we can keep the spirit and magic alive for him (at least for a little while longer).

Great idea PV, I hope your plan works out well.

 

[Mamu]

Oh Debbi how sad. One of the worlds most delightful sights is the Twinkle in a childs eye. My heart aches for your DS.

I don't know why some children are so cruel, but then again I see it in adults too, it makes me sick inside.

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

That is so sad, your heart must of been broken. why can't parents explain to older kids it is there job to keep the secret of Santa alive. I am so sad for your son, let a child be a child, this world is on fast pace and kids grow up so early.