Dis Breast Cancer Survivors Part III - GAGWTA!

[luvmarypoppins]

I hit the wrong button on the laptop (sorry)

everyone can have a piece of cake, of course Linda you will be first in honor of your cake story, that I will never forget.

Dh and I are going to a restraunt to have a nice dinner together. Nothing fancy though.

I have been researching the miles and our trip. We can do 5 or 6 days at the Grand Floridian, Beach Club or Polynesian for free, hmm, somehow the Yacht Club is not listed. So dh really wants to go the the GF. Sorry that place just does not float my boat. So I am thinking maybe 3 at the GF and then 3 at the Beach Club. Only dont like that at the BC we might not get a balcony. Oh well, its free, so I shouldnt complain.

Also since dh is going to cal and they sent him an e mail saying he cant use the electrical ports again, so supposedly he will get another 10K miles, yippee!!

Oh the collision company said if they use new parts it will cost $1700

Have a great week end everyone.

GTAGWTA

 

[Pea-n-Me]

on your cancerversary, lmp. You've been through a lot and done it with grace and dignity. Love that you'll be having cake make it good for me.

Stay safe, Merry!

I took some pics yesterday of the ridiculous amount of snow we got this week. I'll post them when I can. It is very beautiful but then it's a PIA.

 

[snappy]

I hit the wrong button on the laptop (sorry)

everyone can have a piece of cake, of course Linda you will be first in honor of your cake story, that I will never forget.

Dh and I are going to a restraunt to have a nice dinner together. Nothing fancy though.

I have been researching the miles and our trip. We can do 5 or 6 days at the Grand Floridian, Beach Club or Polynesian for free, hmm, somehow the Yacht Club is not listed. So dh really wants to go the the GF. Sorry that place just does not float my boat. So I am thinking maybe 3 at the GF and then 3 at the Beach Club. Only dont like that at the BC we might not get a balcony. Oh well, its free, so I shouldnt complain.

Also since dh is going to cal and they sent him an e mail saying he cant use the electrical ports again, so supposedly he will get another 10K miles, yippee!!

Oh the collision company said if they use new parts it will cost $1700 I had to

Have a great week end everyone.

GTAGWTA

Many happy returns on your cancerversery!

Hope you have a nice dinner.

Merry, be careful what you wish for. The pictures I see of snow are up east are just

I don't want to tell you how warm it is here today-shirt sleeves and sunny.

DD15 went to one dance last night, but the big one is tonight. She and two friends are getting ready right now in DD20's room. Can't wait to see the finished products.

I am cancelling our Mardi Gras trip during Mardi Gras break. I am still not up to speed flu wise. I lost a week being sick and guess what, no one is catching me up at work. I don't want to stress my self any more than I already am by trying to get so much done before March 6th.

MaryAnn, I haven't seen DD20 since December 30th, so I did not get the flu from her. The fact that Kelly had it last week was partly what threw me off that I had the flu. What are the chances of us getting it 3 days apart in two different cities??? Just a darn weird coincidence. Some kind of sympathy flu???She told me last night she is still not 100% after almost 10 days. Yuck!

Anyway DD15 wants to take driver's education classes during the time we would have been in WDW during Mardi Gras week. She has arrived at the age where doing teenage stuff trumps go to WDW with mom.

I rescheduled for a solo trip in May 20-May 25th. I should be caught up at work by then, and it will be warmer but should not be full summer crowds yet, before Memorial day. I am hoping DD20 will consider coming with me but I am not counting on it. DD15 will still be taking exams.

Still at the boardwalk but could not get boardwalk view. Had to try a number of dates to get enough days in a row at the boardwalk. I think it was just dumb luck that I finally got a room. Saratoga springs always seem to be available though. I just have an obsession with the boardwalk right now. I think this will be my 5th trip there in just under 4 years. I wish DH would relent and come with me but he is pretty firm that he needs to take some time off from WDW, not forever, he promises. At least he does not begrudge me my trips there during his hiatus.
We are going to rent a nice roomy place on the gulf coast beach this summer, probably in June.

 

[wdw4us2]

MaryAnn - Congrats on your cancerversary! I hope you enjoyed your dinner.

I definitely did better during this round of chemo. I think that taking Zyrtec and B6 every day helped out with the bone pain. It wasn't as severe this time. I am now dealing with cold/sore throat that DD brought home last weekend when she came to visit. I hate how long it takes me to combat this stuff in my weakened condition. Hopefully, I will start feeling better in a few days. Next chemo is February 11th.

 

[MerryPoppins]

Happy 2nd! Pass me some virtual cake. Thinking good thoughts for all. GAGWTA!

 

[MerryPoppins]

We're in the bullseye of the storm. May have to postpone MILs surgery due to possible blizzard conditions on Tues.

 

[snappy]

Stay safe, Merry! Sorry the surgery is up in the air. Facing surgery is difficult without this wild card.

 

[snappy]

Thought I would let you ladies know that Barbara is having problems getting any kind of posts through the DIS, although she reads everyone's posts daily if possible. However, we are in touch via email and she posted this over the weekend.

So many of the girls on this board are having to wait for results, undergoing treatment, and suffering at the moment and my heart goes out to them. I wish I could post and let them know - however.....

GAGWTA!

 

[Pea-n-Me]

She's a sweetie...

Thanks, Barbara!!

That is strange how posting is difficult for some. I no longer get email notification (even though it says enabled) but other than that, posting isn't a problem, thankfully.

Just got a call from the school nurse, DS isn't feeling well. Off to get him.

GAGWTA

 

[PatsMom]

LMP - congratulations on your cancerversary. I've seen your posts over the last couple of years and I am amazed at how well you deal with everything that is going on in your life!

Thinking of everyone waiting for results or dealing with treatments and surgery right now. I am enjoying a break until March when I have my next cystoscopy.

 

[CherylDan]

Finally heard today about my CT scan last week. Turns out something is showing up on my colon, and somewhere else (can't remember what he said - something about noduals maybe??). Anyway, based on blood test, he suspects that the BC has spread even though the colon is not a very comon place. He's ordered a colonoscopy/biopsy and a PET scan, and I have an appt in two weeks to discuss everything.

Not sure what to make of all this, trying not to go into panic mode....mostly right now I'm hoping that our planned WDW trip in March to visit DD isn't affected. Soooo, that's my story thus far and the waiting game begins....or continues, I guess. In the meantime, I'm going to paint & redecorate the upstairs bathroom. Gives me something else to focus on.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Cheryl We are with you. I am impressed with how aggressive your doctor is being. Some might have brushed it off when your last tests didn't show anything. He is really doing a great job and if something is found, it will be nice and early. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now, but sending my thoughts and prayers as hard as I can.

Tell us about your bathroom. We're going to be redoing one of ours also soon - we did another a few years back.

 

[wdw4us2]

Cheryl - I am with you as you await news from your doctor. : The waiting is the worst part, I think.

Still feeling sick from whatever my DD brought home from college. I hate how long it takes me to fight off a simple cold!

 

[kawc1945]

Hi -

I am new to this thread...diagnosed two weeks ago tomorrow. I am scheduled for mastectomy on Friday. I am so angry. Will I always feel this way? Today I am getting a second opinion from a group of doctors at the hospital. I am a nervous wreck. I need someone to tell me what it's really like and no one will. I just turned 36 so I don't have any friends who have been through this and DH and I just moved across the country with our kids 4 months ago. No friends or family here, either. I also feel like I haven't had sleep for months but it's only been 2 weeks.

Thanks for any stories you can share.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Welcome, kawc. I'm glad you found us. You have friends here.

One of the other originators of this long running thread (besides myself) was also diagnosed around the same age as you and also had little kids. I believe over the years we've also had a few younger than that, one IR who was pregnant at diagnosis and had to decide whether to terminate the pregnancy (she had a healthy baby despite surgery and chemo, etc). I was just past 40 and had 5yo twins. I'm sure others will chime in with their stories, too.

Bear with me, but reading your post reminded me of a Judge Judy episode I saw the other day. A mother whose son had committed suicide was suing his best friend for something kind of dumb. Anyway, the mom was very, very angry. And JJ told her that her anger is a lot easier emotion to deal with than grief. I thought she had something there.

We all go through a grieving process when we're diagnosed. We grieve the loss of our health and sort of "carefree existence" that we had before our diagnosis. Shoot, now we have to worry about dying. That's not supposed to happen when we're "young". Remember from Psych 101 that anger is one of the first stages of the grieving process. As time progresses, you will move on to other stages as well, until eventually you make it to Acceptance. Each person's timeline for this is different. For me, it was a long and painful process. But in that process I sort of changed my outlook on life (as many of us do), so in a way there was personal and spiritual growth there despite the terror and sadness that was often prevalent during the treatment stage and beyond.

All a roundabout way to say that what you are feeling is normal.

It's also really hard to be in a place where you may not have a lot of support systems nearby. Please, please seek out a cancer support center in your area. You may not feel like going for a while, but it's reassuring to know it's there if you want it. I went to one and it was immeasurably helpful. And I had a lot of support. But it wasn't always the kind of support I needed, which was emotional support and sharing the experience with others who'd either been through it or were going through it as well. That's important.

FWIW, I am 7+ yrs out now. I had a partial mastectomy, did chemo and radiation, was triple negative, node positive, and grade 3 (most aggressive, which is often the case in younger women). I always found it helpful to hear from others who were years out.

 

[Sha]

Linda well said

Kawc... will keep you in prayers. Im a daughter of a survivorx2. Mom was a much older woman when she was diagnoised and had had friends who had already been through the same situation that she talked to. Hoping you can find the support you need! That is important and so is letting yourself go through the grieving process. I honestly don't know if I would have the same grace and courage my mom had facing it. Will keep your medical team in prayers too.

CherylDan... lot of love and hugs. Keeping you in prayers too.
(shoot... you ALL are in my prayers!)

Belated happy Cancerversary LMP!

things are still crazy at work, and Im still behind on paperwork. Not good. Mom is doing okay but trouble with getting her new battery adjusted just right. She had a fall a couple days after that surgery where we were in the ED for a bit. All checked out ok. Doc said she had a brain (which was good since they did a CT of the head) and didnt break anything. She keeps me hopping sometimes. No recent trips to WDW but thinking I need a day trip really soon. All other news is status quo.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Good morning ladies

kawc - welcome. The ladies here are a great wealth of support, information and encouragement. You have found a good place here. Its ok to grieve at first. Boy I did alot of that for sure! Wishing you all the best (I have thy ca but the ladies here have adopted me, so I cant share an actual bc story.

Barbara - thanks for thinking of everyone. Hope you are bearing up under this unbearable weather.

Sha- Please send us some A disney trip sounds great for you. Laurie and I will be there in May too.

Merry - see you are being slammed weatherwise too. I hope your mil surgery can take place when its safe as possible.

Lisa - hope you get over the cold

Pats mom - Good you can have a little medical break for a while

Laurie - how are you feeling? Hmm, I think dh and I will be there the same time as you. We must plan something. Can I drag you to the gf for the tea to celebrate my b day? If anyone else is there then we can do something too.

Linda and Ann - hope you are making it through this terrible weather too

Cheryl - Sorry you have to go through all of this testing. But as in my previous post I am so glad your doctor is leaving no stone unturned.

smiley and marci - hope you are both doing well

Well I am and thanking God. I know alot of people at my church were praying for me too. The stomach surgeon says he likes that it appears healed and come back in 3 months. I actually had to have a nurse, a nurse pract. and the surgeon all look at my belly button and then there was the medical student, he looked from a little distance. Oh, teaching hospitals are just the best.

After that dh took me for some new glasses , oh did I mention he SAT on them in church sun. This was after he crashed the van a few days before, not to mention an incident in california that I cant discuss on here due to the legal stuff and the govt. etc. We are being slammed weather wise here. Enough already. Tomm. I am going to the endo. I hope she says my blood level number is undetectable.

GTAGWTA.

 

[smiley_face2]

Hi ladies. I've come here just to let you know why I have gone missing, and to ask for your prayers to support my entire family.
Our son was killed on friday in a workplace accident. He worked with my husband, who was the first to arrive on scene and free him from the log that had crushed him. tried to perform cpr on him until the helicoptor arrived to fly him out. He was 28 years old, had a beautiful family, wife and 4 beautiful little girls. the youngest only turned 1 last week.
There are no words. I went for my first appointment with my oncologist on monday anyway at the insistence of the rest of the family, but I am finding it very hard to be anything close to positive with my bc on top of this.
hubby is going through trauma councilling. he was debriefed on sunday. we have a viewing today with dearest daughter in law, who was always more like one of our own daughters to us, and the service will be at our local church on friday. I really don't know how we are going to all cope. My 2 dear daughters are obviously having a hard time coping with their loss on top of their fears for me. here is a picture of us at my birthday celebration this past august. that is our son standing directly behind me. his wife is beside him in pink, I am holding his youngest on my lap, his oldest is standing beside me, and his 2 middle girls are at the end. our middle daughter is holding her son on her leg. our 2 daughters have dark hair like thier dad beside me. this is as close to a family portrait as we have, the one missing is my second daughters partner so we are going to have him photoshopped into it and have big pictures made for all of us. thankyou for being here.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Smiley, there just aren't any words. I am devastated at your loss and can only say you will be in our prayers, very much so. I cannot imagine what you're going through right now.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Dear precious smiley

I can not imagine what you are going through right now. My heart so breaks for you. I am sending you my deepest sympathy, thoughts and prayers.

I will be praying Matthew 5:4 for you. Wishing you Gods peace and comfort in the days ahead dear sister.