Ann, how awful for your family to lose your sister, especially in that way. It sounds like you have a very loving and supportive family, though, that is a real comfort.
Merry, what a good idea about having the nativity story in a Chicken soup book. I'll have to research that, but thanks, I would have never thought of it without your suggestion.
Hi JennyMomRI, I wondered if you still visited our thread since I had not seen you post in a while. Are there any newer meds on the market that might help the nausea? Hopefully you will get relief next week when you see the NP.
Linda, thanks for sharing your story. I love your presentation from the standpoint of a nurse and a survivor. The way you explain the rationale behind your surgery decision is so clear and backed up with research. It is a very personal thing and emotions do enter in but being informed is so important. With full info, you can then go ahead and follow you heart.
I have spent a lot of time this week researching reconstruction, two consults with two, both recommended by the doc who did my mastectomy. My take on this is that plastic surgeons who have been in practice for a while, and therefore have a lot of experience taper off on the amount of reconstruction they do and end up doing more cosmetic work. As they do less, they become less expert, and they are not as up to date on newer techniques. Anyone else who has done this research on reconstruction observe this? The doc I saw Monday is older, now does about 20 free flaps a YEAR, he said a free flap was best for me. His surgical nurse is a friend of mine and tells me he has the best results here. Hmmm. . . I did not really connect with him, I was more unsure after the consult than before. The doc I saw yesterday (Dr, Stephens) is younger, has trained with Dr. Allen, the originator of the DIEP, formerly operating in New Orleans, now relocated permanently in South Carolina. Also, there are still 2 LSU docs in New Orleans that do the DIEPS, both of these docs were residents under Dr. Stephens. Dr. Stephens has done a lot of all kinds of free flap surgeries, did about 100 free flap surgeries in his practice at the height several years ago, now not as many per year. He said he strongly believes one surgery is not the right answer for all women. After he examined me and listened to my concerns about abdominal weakening, he recommended the latissimus dorsi flap with an expander, change to an implant after 10-12 weeks with reduction and lift of my right either at the same time as the implant is placed or later.
I thought alot about the free flap and DIEP flap after the first doc visit. The weakening of the stomach muscle is a big issue with me. I have very relaxed pelvic muscles, prolapsed uterus, bladder, etc. My fear, one that I cannot find addressed anywhere in my reading about stomach flaps, is that this surgery could contribute further to the weakening of my pelvic muscles. I don't want to have reconstruction and then be faced with another surgery very soon after to repair the pelvic muscles (they do this along with a hysterectomy).
Not sure if it was the anesthesia or the couple of pain pills I had after my surgery last May but I still suffered from extreme constipation 9 mos later, which did not help the pelvic muscles one bit. I don't want to compromise my abdominal muscles and Dr. Stephens told me even in the DIEP procedure, the muscle is impacted, which makes sense, it is not removed but it is certain disturbed when the doc goes in to locate the perforator vessels used to reconnect the tissue as a breast.
Anyway, my DH and I could tell that Dr. Stephens is up to date on these procedures. He is constantly refining his techniques, uses alloderm over mesh for trams. His surgical nurse was also impressive. I believe this would be an easier surgery for me, I will not be risking damaging my ab muscle (which I am truly concerned about). My GYN told me last year I really should consider reconstruction but not to do the tram. I think her concern was partly the difficulty of the tram and partly due to my pelvic muscle issue.
I am put off a bit about the implant though that is placed under the latissimus flap. Most women need an implant because there is not enough tissue on your back to make any more than a small breast. In my case, even though I am willing (more like eager) to have a significant reduction on my right breast, because so much tissue was taken with the mastectomy, I am very concave on the left side, almost down to the ribcage.
He uses silicone implants, we talked about it. I did not know the gel cohesive types were available yet, Laura. It seems wierd that you posted about your new ones on the day I realized this may be the surgery for me.
(Thanks for posting this). His surgical nurse gave me her email address and encouraged me to contact her with any questions and of course I can go see him again face to face.
Recovery for this is easier, actually just one overnight in the hospital, a 4 hour surgery, one drain. They are arranging for me to talk with patients that have had this surgery (he does many, many of these at the same time as mastectomy so he is obviously expert at it). He was also recently recommended to me by a surgical nurse who works for the women's hospital here who has worked alongside all of the docs here doing reconstruction, I consider her to be objective for that reason. We happened to have a conversation about it at our kids' Halloween activity last week, she said this is the doc you want. Very fortuitous.
Sorry about again being longwinded, I have not been able to sleep this week thinkig of this. It helps to write this down and get my thoughts organized.
We too have soccer games too today and tomorrow, Laura, also DD10's birthday party Sunday at the skating rink/laser tag joint, followed by dinner at Raising Canes. DH got 4 clubhouse tickets to the LSU game tonight as well,
the kids will have a great time (I will be in hog heaven with the house to myself for hours). Busy weekend.
GAGWTA!!