Did you ever marry/date someone WAY out of your financial league?

[calypso*a*go-go]

Did you ever marry/date someone WAY out of your financial league?

No -- but I always wanted to.

 

[Bob Slydell]

DW's family was weathier than mine, but her parents were always very down to earth, so it never was much of an issue.

 

[Robinrs]

Class struggles still exist, huh?

I have dated men MUCH better off financially than myself, and some much worse. The first is by far easier, I might add!

I remember being a strong fighter for the underclass and dating a guy who was the 3rd wealthiest person in a very poor country. I remember meeting him and thinking "what a JERK" while he offered me lots of worldly goods that my young, angry mind REJECTED!!

20 years later I WISH I could meet him again!!

grinninghost, realize something, no matter how much money people make, they are just people. Maybe your daughter is comfortable with everyone, and that should make you proud. Money doesn't make a person better or worse or happier. Your only concern should be is how does he treat her and is he respectful to you. That's really all that matters!

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[arminnie]

Originally posted by Robinrs
Money doesn't make a person better or worse or happier. Your only concern should be is how does he treat her and is he respectful to you. That's really all that matters!

I totally agree with Robin. Remember this is America and a LOT of the very wealthy people are just a generation or two away from poverty.

I know a man with literally hundreds of millions (not just millions) of dollars. He was raised in poverty and his grandfathers were a coal miner and a sharecropper. There's NO way he would reject someone because of their family's financial status.

I was a scholarship student at an exclusive woman's college and then later at a top business school. I've know people from all walks of life. People are just people. I've known people from some very wealthy and prominent families - and have never felt that they judged me inferior because I was not raised like them.

 

[emmagata]

Originally posted by EsmeraldaX
I would personally be uncomfortable being with a man who made signifigantly more money than I did. But that's just me.

Didn't you start a thread on the DB about that or was that someone else?

 

[caitycaity]

I've known people from some very wealthy and prominent families - and have never felt that they judged me inferior because I was not raised like them.

that's great, but there are people out there who do judge.

i wouldn't even worry so much about the judging. the most difficult part for us was the difference in how we were raised. it was really difficult the first year of marriage when we tried to have joint finances.

 

[minniepumpernickel]

This is kind of strange, but I know some women in their twenties that only go out with older men who are established and have money.

I think that it's better to have a somewhat equal relationship. Whenever I say this, they laugh!

 

[tar heel]

My dh and I come from different financial backgrounds. One grew up urban, upper class, father was a physician who also invested well, mother was a SAHM with an advanced degree. The other grew up rural with a farmer father, factory worker mother, neither with college degrees.

You know what, though, dh and I nevertheless grew up with the SAME values. Family, church, kindness, decency and education were stressed.

 

[siouxi31]

Mine was a short-lived fantasy come to life (lasted 2 months).
I was on an exchange program and in Monaco where I met a friend of one of the fella's in my program. He lived in Cannes and had invited about 8 of us to his home for dinner the next night. I went and that was the start of it. Talk about out of my element. This guy lived in a huge home overlooking the Med., had a home in the Ivory Coast, one in Paris, one in Los Angeles, and the main one in Cannes. It didn't last long.... I felt inferior. We each went out separate ways in the end. He flew to Switzerland to look at a Ferrari that he was interesting in buying and I took the train north to Belgium to catch my flight home.

 

[CEDmom]

Originally posted by tar heel
My dh and I come from different financial backgrounds. One grew up urban, upper class, father was a physician who also invested well, mother was a SAHM with an advanced degree. The other grew up rural with a farmer father, factory worker mother, neither with college degrees.

You know what, though, dh and I nevertheless grew up with the SAME values. Family, church, kindness, decency and education were stressed.

This is so true. My parents came from very different economic backgrounds but not different moral ones. DH and I are also from very different economic backgrounds but again not very different moral ones.

Many people look at those with money as being snobs. Have you ever considered that they might just be cautious about who they befriend. Afterall there are many people that would enjoy having a wealthy friend just for the possible fringe benefits and not because they actually like the person.