Did You Ever Give Back Your Engagemnt Ring To Your Fiance?

[Saphire]

We were engaged really young and still had some maturing to do, and often had friction in our relationship. But there was one time that we had a serious disagreement, and I gave him back the ring. We did eventually work it out after a few weeks.
Ladies, did you ever give back your engagement ring? Sometimes it takes an engagement to resolve some of the more serious isssues.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Nope. Never even considered it, but then there wasn't much time between our engagement and our marriage.

 

[clh2]

I was engaged a b'jillion years ago, and things got ugly. The guy had moved out of state, and when the engagement ended, I sent him back the ring - eventhough he told me I should keep it. I had this feeling - a gut level reaction - that the guy woudl think it really wasn't over if I still maintained pocession of the ring.

Clearly - this relationship was OVER.

I met my DH several years after this, and dH and I have been hapily married for 19 years now!

 

[Disney Doll]

No. Got engaged, planned the wedding, got married. The engagement was smoothe. The marriage (almost 18 years) has been pretty smoothe...not perfect, but certainly a very good choice on my part (and his, I hope!).

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Yes. We got into a huge disagreement, mainly my fault I guess.

He told me to keep the ring anyway. I just threw it in a drawer and forgot about it, then I got a really bad medical scare and they thought it might be cancer so he came to see me in the hospital just as a friend and we got back together,

well that was a long, long time ago and guess what. We have been happily married for a lot of years and now I just had the big real cancer surgery and he sat by my side when I was in the coma holding my hand. This guy is piriceless I tell ya.

 

[FarAway<3]

Heck no. If he made me mad enough, I'd sell it.

 

[PatsGirl]

Does throwing it AT him count

 

[happily single]

The first finance, yes. I gave it back to him, along with all the jewlery I had aqcuired.

The second finance (and 1st ex-husband) stole them from my house

The third finance (and 2nd ex-husband)-I kept them!

I see no possible tag for the fairy but you guys can definitely see why I'm "Happily Single" lol

 

[alexandria674]

Heck no. If he made me mad enough, I'd sell it.

If the guy told me to keep it, I would not only sell it but go to WDW with the ring money.

 

[Ember]

If the guy told me to keep it, I would not only sell it but go to WDW with the ring money.

Nah, diamonds are a terrible investment. You'd only get a fraction of what was paid for it. You'd be better of having it reset into something new. Now, if you sold the fiance for parts...

OP, no, we never had a fight during the engagement serious enough to warrant giving back my ring. Of course, I picked it out and am quite attached to it. So there's a good chance he wouldn't have gotten it back unless he pried it off my finger!

 

[horseshowmom]

OP, no, we never had a fight during the engagement serious enough to warrant giving back my ring. Of course, I picked it out and am quite attached to it. So there's a good chance he wouldn't have gotten it back unless he pried it off my finger!

You sound like my daughter. They've been engaged since December 2007 (getting married next weekend), and the ring has never left. Like you, she picked it out, loves it, and it would probably require surgical removal!

I will have to say thought that it's probably a really good thing that they've almost finished renovating their new house...


DH and I were only engaged from March to July, but we never broke up either.

 

[kaytieeldr]

Does throwing it AT him count

Oh, boy. I was going to tell a story about a former co-worker; your name doesn't start with a "D", does it? And you never lived in Medford, right?

 

[Buckalew11]

Yes, twice.

We got engaged about 1 year after we started dating but he was ready to be engaged 2 weeks into the relationship. He was 5 years older than me and definitely ready to settle down.

No big fights to cause the return though, just not ready or sure.
I had dated the guy before him for 4 years and while he asked several times for me to marry him, I didn't want to marry him. Which was why we ended up breaking up after 4 years. He and I dated all that time and never have a fight--although I was a bit "Kate-ish" and he was bit "Jon-ish".

When I do something that gets on DH's nerves or whatever, I often say, "Well, you asked...3x."

Honestly, as crazy as it drove everyone who knew me and as much as everyone seemed to be trying to stick their noses into my business and lovelife back then, I am glad I did what I did. It was hard back then to do it though. Giving him his ring back 2x was very stressful, heartbreaking and just hard.
It was a big decision to me to marry him. I was not taking it lightly and I'd had 3 other proposals and I just wanted to be sure he was the one.
Ugh. I wouldn't go back to that time in my life for anything!

On the day of the wedding, my soon to be FIL took me aside and asked me if I was sure. His oldest was divorced and I think he was a bit fearful that it would happen in his family again--esp. since I'd been so wishy-washy so far.
I am sure they were all wondering if I'd show up the day of the wedding or if I'd be a runaway bride!

But 22 years later with no separations, no threats of divorce, we are still together, happy as clams. I just had to make sure.

BTW, my mom gave us 3 years and our bestman gave us 5. I think 5 was the longest anyone in attendance may have been giving us! I found out several years after the wedding that my mom and bestman had this conversation before we said "I do".

 

[Lisa_M]

DH and I had a big fight while we were engaged. I took the ring off and set it on the nightstand and said, "If we can't communicate now, I'm not sure marriage is the best idea." Technically, we didn't break up, but it was a strong wake up call for him. In a few days, we'll be celebrating our 3rd anniversary.

 

[Robinrs]

Nope, kept them!

 

[ZachnElli]

Yes, I gave a ring back. I was engaged to my high school sweetheart and I knew we'd end up divorced, so I ended it. I gave him back the ring and it was very hard to do. It was the right thing (I was only 18! ) but still very hard.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I've been engaged twice (to two different guys, once at WDW!). The first time I had the most GORGEOUS 3 carat ring that I picked out and loved. We lived together in Cincy and he broke up with me (but I was mutually happy about the break up) and told me I could keep the ring. I had to live with him for 2 weeks (we had a two bedroom apartment) as I gave my two weeks at my job and he told me I could stay there as long as I needed. I came home one weekend (22 hour drive round trip!) to bring a bunch of stuff home and when I got back he had completely re-decorated the apartment and found the ring in "my" room in it's box in my desk and took it! I thought at the time it was pretty funny/strange. Why didn't he just ask?! He never said anything about it.

The second time it was a few months after we had returned from WDW (after the proposal). I really don't think I loved the guy, just scared of being alone I think. We broke up and I just handed the ring back to him.

I tell people, I've had the perfect ring, the perfect proposal, and now I've actually found (my) perfect guy!