Did you Elope?

[figaromeetsmarie]

Did you elope and where? I personally think eloping is a great idea!

 

[disneybound2010]

Yes and I can say that when we made that decision everything literally fell into place.

We got the license and we knew we wanted a friend of ours to marry us(she was licensed) She said yes, but insisted on 2 other friends being our witnesses and that we were at least doing the vows somewhere nice. As it turned out, a shop owner in town, who had added a beautiful great hall(for private renaissance type festivities) overheard us talking and said we could use his hall for free for the vows as long as we didn't mind customers peeking in(It was Christmas and the hall was decorated.) My BFF and her DH were our witnesses. BFF's MIL owns the largest flower shop in the area and gave me my bouquet as a present. At the last minute, a coworker offered to come and take pictures and she surprised us with a cake made from the local bakery that she worked for. It was such a magical day and we were able to tape it to show to everyone later on. I couldn't have asked for anything better

I wanted to add that while we didn't go away to elope, the little town that we got married in is one of those perfect,little quaint towns where everything still feels like you are in a different time period and it has such an enchanting feel to it. We really couldn't have planned it as perfectly as it turned out.

 

[rewok]

Yes! We did it last year. After 15 years together (and about 12 living and owning a house), we decided to go and get married in Jamaica. We are both very private, DH didn't really felt a need to be officially married, but since it could be done with minimal fuss, he finally agreed to please me. So simple, so nice, and no worries about organizing a "big thing". We had to own it up to our family afterwards and deal with some disappointment (my parents and sister hurt was a bit hard for me to deal with) , but we are still happy with our dream wedding.

 

[Buckalew11]

I wanted to but DH thought I'd regret it someday. My dad offered me $$ to just elope. I had a very small wedding and barely put any thought into it. I just wasn't into the wedding stuff.

My sister did. And dad didn't pay her. They eloped to Fripp Island, SC and called us Wednesday night and she told us what she was doing, lol! She said, come if you can and mom, dad and my other sister and I drove down there. His parents also went. It was simple and on the beach. Beautiful!!

 

[SookieStackhouse]

I did not. I figure there would be too many hurt feelings.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Nope. Wanted to do my sacrament and my affordable version of my dream wedding.

Eloping wasn't on my radar. Part of that may have been my mom. She never eloped(oops--she eloped once, but I have no memory of her before she was married to that husband) but she had a tiny tiny wedding for one marriage and my aunt had a tiny tiny one for one of her multiple marriages. The idea of small (be it tiny or just us and eloping) was never a consideration.

If there were an extenuating circumstance, I would not have hesitated to have done something tiny (but still with my church).

 

[ncmickeyluvr]

I didn't elope but I have always wished that we had. At the time, it didn't even occur to me that it was an option.

I'm just wasn't into the whole thing and completely overwelmed. My Mother COMPLETELY took over and , at the time, it was fine with me. She even chose the date, booked the church and reception hall before I even knew about it!

 

[LuvOrlando]

I wish! At the time I would never have dared to go against my families wishes and they wanted a big wedding so I went along with it. The only trouble was that absolutely everyone was horrible leading up to the wedding including my MIL wearing white, yep she wore white which ticked my entire family off and I had to literally dig in my heels when my father tried to drag me out onto the dance floor while my husband danced with his mother. Ohhh, the stories, there are so many stories. The only good part of that day was my prince standing at the end of that aisle and the actual marriage

Thinking back, I wish I had been a little more self centered and just eloped because all I wanted was my husband.

 

[disneybound2010]

Nope. Wanted to do my sacrament and my affordable version of my dream wedding.

Eloping wasn't on my radar. Part of that may have been my mom. She never eloped(oops--she eloped once, but I have no memory of her before she was married to that husband) but she had a tiny tiny wedding for one marriage and my aunt had a tiny tiny one for one of her multiple marriages. The idea of small (be it tiny or just us and eloping) was never a consideration.

If there were an extenuating circumstance, I would not have hesitated to have done something tiny (but still with my church).[/QUOTE]

That was why we chose to elope. My Mother was terminally ill and we never knew from one minute to the next how she would feel or if she would be coherent. We didn't want my Dad to have to choose between leaving her or leaving me. By eloping, we were able to tape it and then experience it with our family together We were able to ensure that Mom was there to enjoy it with us!

 

[Buckalew11]

I didn't elope but I have always wished that we had. At the time, it didn't even occur to me that it was an option.

I'm just wasn't into the whole thing and completely overwelmed. My Mother COMPLETELY took over and , at the time, it was fine with me. She even chose the date, booked the church and reception hall before I even knew about it!

I was wishing someone would take over! Instead I said, "Whatever you make that's good. What ever you'll think looks good, whatever you sing that's good..." The list goes on and on. I hated wedding planning with a passion. I have one DD and I hope she'll plan her own because I still feel the same way.

Nope. Wanted to do my sacrament and my affordable version of my dream wedding.

Eloping wasn't on my radar. Part of that may have been my mom. She never eloped(oops--she eloped once, but I have no memory of her before she was married to that husband) but she had a tiny tiny wedding for one marriage and my aunt had a tiny tiny one for one of her multiple marriages. The idea of small (be it tiny or just us and eloping) was never a consideration.

If there were an extenuating circumstance, I would not have hesitated to have done something tiny (but still with my church).[/QUOTE]

That was why we chose to elope. My Mother was terminally ill and we never knew from one minute to the next how she would feel or if she would be coherent. We didn't want my Dad to have to choose between leaving her or leaving me. By eloping, we were able to tape it and then experience it with our family together We were able to ensure that Mom was there to enjoy it with us!

That was sweet. I'm sorry about your mom. Having lost my dad to cancer, I can understand what you mean though.

 

[DisneyChula]

I didn't elope, and I really loved my wedding. That being said I still go back and forth on if we should have just went Disney and with our immediate family and eloped. My mom was honestly amazing through the whole thing. She wanted to give me exactly what I wanted. I wound up going with the larger wedding at home. The deciding factor was my faimly. I'm very close to my aunts and I wanted them to be there (Although they would have been fine no matter what type of wedding I chose - I have an awesome family!). They still talk about how much fun they had. Anytime I think of my other dream wedding I just remember that. My DH and I decided that we'll plan an anniversary trip with our parents and sisters and do a vow renewal some day. I finally came to the point that no matter where we were or how we did it, it didn't matter because I was marrying my prince! If you want to elope then do it! It's about you and your DH and how you choose to start your life together as husband and wife. Anyone who loves and supports you will understand that and be happy for you!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I was wishing someone would take over! Instead I said, "Whatever you make that's good. What ever you'll think looks good, whatever you sing that's good..." The list goes on and on. I hated wedding planning with a passion. I have one DD and I hope she'll plan her own because I still feel the same way.


That was sweet. I'm sorry about your mom. Having lost my dad to cancer, I can understand what you mean though.

Something messed up with the quote...but wanted to make sure folks understood it wasn't my mom, but disneybound's mom.

And I agree--it was very sweet.

 

[Pooh Crew]

Yes, and it was wonderful!!! Dh and I told everyone we were getting married, but wanted it to be about our commitment to each other and to our marriage. We were married in a lovely chalet on the side of a mountain. It was just the two of us and very romantic. I'd do it over again in a heartbeat.

Fwiw, my parents eloped, too, but theirs was a big secret! Also, fwiw, I've never been in or to a wedding that was anything but a pain in the behind. I have ZERO interest in anyone else's wedding and certainly did not want to deal with the aggravation of one of my own. Our was exactly what WE wanted, not what everyone else demanded.

It's been almost 20 years and we are still very much in love.

 

[BeefJerky]

We did, we didn't have much time to get a wedding together and my husband was leaving to boot camp very soon so we decided on a small courthouse wedding. It was just my parents and his, my grandmother and her husband. My husband's siblings arrived with two of mine. It was a nice day but sad because he was leaving so soon.

Last year for our anniversary my husband "proposed" and we are having a vow renewal next March, marking our anniversary of when he and I first started dating in high school.

 

[sparks19]

WE eloped but didn't go anywhere lol

A wedding was going to be too complicated.

My sister hates my mom and my one brother but I couldn't not include her without a huge to do.

Everyone lives far away from us (8 hours or more) so getting everyone here would be very expensive.

My dad would be ticked if we didnt' have the wedding in Canada (where I'm from)

there would just be PRESSURE PRESSURE PRESSURE and so much extra planning because of distance and I just didn't want to deal with all the drama a simple wedding could create.

So we went to the courthouse on Friday... went back on monday and got married. We got married in the town my husband was born and raised in not too far from where we live now. It's a small quiet town and has that wonderful small town feel that I just love. We got married in shorts and flip flops lol and then we went to lunch at the diner in town and that night we went to a hockey game

And then the next day we told everyone we were married Everyone was happy... there were no hard feelings... no muss, no fuss... it was perfect

so we just stayed close to home but it was nice.

 

[Simba's Mom]

We eloped in that the only ones at our wedding were the country club owner and the golf pro-DH and I got married on a golf course, by a justice of the peace. Our wedding attire consisted of jeans. DS's family was half way across the country and I was estranged from mine. Six weeks later we spent a long weekend at Cape Cod (lived in central Massachusetts at the time). Almost 30 years later, we still have no regrets, just lots of "Can you believe all the money they're spending just to get married?"

 

[Pigeon]

I had a lovely wedding, compliments of my parents. But if I had it to do over again, I'd elope. It's an obscene amount of money to waste on a single day. I've been married for almost 30 years, and it's the marriage that matters to us, not the wedding.

 

[ChiCat]

We eloped. THANK GOD. My family is almost nonexistant and highly dysfunctional. DH's family is nothing like any of my friends or family (conservative, republican, etc). Add to it that I despise weddings and always have, I feel like I won the lottery when I convinced him to elope. It would have been a true nightmare to have any kind of wedding.

So last September we flew to CT for the weekend and got married at a bed and breakfast. And since that was all much cheaper than having a wedding we paid for one of my best friends and his parents whole weekend trip too

 

[castmemberb4]

Yes! Went to the courthouse in Kissimme with some of our fellow castmembers as witnesses. We were on our way to join my family for
our yearly Hilton Head week. Told the family when we arrived thenrarainged
a reception in my hometown for a month later so that our families from three
different states could meet. Eighteen years later I still do not regret NOT going through the headache of a formal wedding.

 

[lakelandgal70]

I really wanted to but didn't cause it really was about other relatives that day. Ones that complained how much work went into the wedding and all the stuff they had to do blah blah. Heck if we had eloped you wouldn't have had to worry about it but no you need something to complain about. Hmmmm maybe I need therapy hahaha