Did You Dream Of Your Wedding When You Were A Little Girl?

[Saphire]

I was talking to a friend tonight whose daughter is getting married, and she admitted she was a little disappointed that she wasn't needed as much as she thought she would be to plan the wedding. She said she had always dreamed of being part of the process of coordinating the wedding. I have a daughter too but I have never spent any time thinking about her wedding, in fact I never really had any dreams about my own.
However, I always thought about my future husband and what I hoped he would be like. Most of all I wanted him to be kind. When I finally met him and we decided to marry, I spent way more time and effort planning the honeymoon vs. the wedding.
What about you, did you dream of your wedding when you were a little girl? If you have a daughter, do you dream about her wedding and hope to be part of the planning process?

 

[turkeymama]

I never dreamed of my wedding or a future husband. I dreamed of being a smokin' hot super-hero. No joke, I really did. Of course, when I was growing up, Wonder Woman had her own prime time show that I watched every week.

I don't dream of my daughter's future wedding either. There is way too much to keep us busy in the here and now. I don't think she gives it much thought either. I listen to her when she has friends over and I've never noticed them playing that sort of make-believe.

 

[monkey68]

I think the whole dreaming of the wedding was a later development of mine, mostly because I found so many great ways to marry, that I wanted them all. First, i wanted the traditional big wedding with my friends and family, the party with the dancing, etc. Then, I thought it would be terribly romantic to get married on a beach on Hawaii or Tahiti. But then I fell in love with Prague, and thought the wedding pictures would look amazing over there.

When I was little, me and this kid that lived on my block used to play wedding. We must have gotten married 30 times. It was very nice, with all the stuffed animals as our guests, and I had a towel on my head as the veil. He would have a top hat on all the time. Although I hope when I get married for real, I would have something nicer than a towel on my head.

I gotta say though, when I get married, I know my parents are going to say they'll give me X amount and we can use it for the wedding, the honeymoon, a house, whatever. I plan to use a large chunk of it on the honeymoon. To me, that is much more worth it than a wedding. I'll get married in city hall for all i care, as long as I can fly first class to Hawaii on my honeymoon.

 

[disykat]

Sure, I started planning my wedding in about second grade. Nothing really seriously, but it was a topic that used to come up with my girlfriends over the years.

For that reason, I can't imagine that if I had girls (I have boys) I would expect to be that involved. I would assume she had her own ideas. I had my turn.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

I dreamed mostly about being married, not the actual wedding or the honeymoon. (I suppose that was a good thing, as I didn't GET a honeymoon - we started summer school the next day!)

To me, the wedding was always something to get through to have the marriage. After all, the marriage is forever; the wedding is just one day.

 

[moon]

Never. I never dreamed about a wedding day or even about getting married.

I fantasized about being a world-famous doctor, or an astronaut -things which I guess little girls weren't supossed to dream about, but no one told me I shouldn't think about such things.

Yes, I thought how cool it would be to be the first woman on mars.....and more popular dreams like being a world-famous movie/ rock star, or a world-famous something or other

I'm glad to see that I wasn't so different after all with my fantasies. You'd think little girls constatly think about a their wedding day, or prince charming, which wasn't true in my case, and I don't recal the girls I grew up with talking about it either.

 

[HunnyPots]

I never did - in fact, I never even thought I'd get married at all! It just never seemed like the kind of thing I would do. Of course, I did get married, but the wedding was not a big deal to me.

My daughter, on the other hand, has thought about and planned her wedding since she was a little girl. If you've seen the movie "Bride Wars", my daughter and her friend were just like that - ripping pictures from magazines and making their own wedding books!
Her friend got her dream wedding at age 20 and the marriage lasted exactly 6 months. My daughter was engaged to be married this summer but a couple of months ago, caught her fiance in bed with another girl ; so much for those lifelong plans...

 

[laurie31]

I dreamed about my wedding as a girl, but I don't remember "playing wedding" although now that I think about it, I used to get my mom's veil out and try it on I always planned to wear her dress, but when I grew up and really did get engaged, it was (of course) out of style and I wanted something else. I did wear her veil though

I have two girls and it's never occurred to me that I would be heavily invovled in their wedding planning. I presume they will be like I was, and know what they want for their day. I picked almost everything - music, flowers, bridesmaids dresses, invitations, etc. without my mother. I did take her shopping for my dress. After I had been to several bridal salons and narrowed my dress choices down to three, I took Mom to help me make the final choice. I also went with Mom when she chose her own dress.

I do hope my girls will choose to marry in our church, but if they don't, I am okay with that. Even our pastor's own daughter had a destination wedding - lol! For my girls, I just hope that they will marry Christian men who will love them as Christ loves His church. I don't have to be their wedding coordinator, just the Mother of the Bride.

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

I didn't think about weddings. I never thought I would meet Mr. Right. When I did meet Mr. Right, I had a couple of months to plan the wedding with him. He left me after 23 years but I never lost time dreaming about weddings.

 

[MoniqueU]

Not at all. And when it came to my wedding I let my mom abd my aunt plan everything, the only thing I really did was decide my wedding gown. I did have more fun at it then I thought I would, but weddings to me are overdone. I don't enjoy attending them and just send a gift if I get invited. I don't know what I will do when my kids get married but I am going to push for a destination wedding rather then a huge church wedding with catering and open baf for people that you barely even kbow.

 

[Ember]

Kind of. I dreamed of a Disney wedding, once I found out at age 12 they did them. I remember telling my grandmother I was going to get married at Disney! She laughed. Two years ago she had to admit I was right. (Good thing I found a DH willing to go along with this plan...)

Also, I had elaborate fantasies about walking down a staircase, a la Gone with the Wind, in a big dress. Don't ask me why. It wasn't really wedding related, other then I couldn't come up with another occasion when I would get to wear a big dress. On my wedding day, this ridiculous little dream came true!

 

[flaps]

No, never. Didn't think about a wedding or honeymoon until after I was officially engaged and "had to." Didn't think about a future husband either beyond deciding if/when I ever married (or dated, even), he must be a Christian.

 

[themilesfamily]

Ember, what a beautiful wedding pic!!!!

Watching Lady Di's wedding when I was ten years old hooked me on weddings forever. That moment she stepped out of the carriage -- magnificent!!

I was a total romantic and dreamed about my wedding for decades -- and when I finally got married, I had the best wedding. I have a 4-year old and I hope she includes me in her wedding planning someday -- although she tells me she's never getting married and is going to live with me forever!

 

[bananda]

i still dream about what i want my wedding to be like. i'm kind of a hopeless romantic. i've even designed my bridesmaid dresses. and picked out my engagement ring. now i just need to find a guy...

 

[foodlover_US]

I always used to think about it... I would get married in the church my grandma and I went to every Sunday. I dreamed of marrying someone like my grandfather and my DH in more ways than one seem to have the same as my grandfather.

 

[rparmfamily]

I never dreamed of a big wedding,etc. Heck, I never dreamed about a wedding and didn't think I'd ever get married. I was never into the whole princess/man sweep me off my feet thing.

I did get married (still am!) but we eloped.

I have no dreams of my daughter's wedding either. It's her call.

 

[susy]

No.Like most little girls, I thought that boys were yucky, so never thought about it.

 

[Disney Ella]

No, but I did sit on the school bus and pretend I was 20 (really old!) and on my way to work instead of school. Being an adult and doing what I wanted was my dream. I really didn't care about weddings.

 

[MoniqueU]

No, but I did sit on the school bus and pretend I was 20 (really old!) and on my way to work instead of school. Being an adult and doing what I wanted was my dream. I really didn't care about weddings.

That's funny, I used to play grown up with a license and all with my cousins. We thought that was the greatest game to be free to do what we wanted and have a career. It didn't comer true for me I ended up with a church wedding and being a SAHM at a young age. I did get the car for awhile though so that was nice. I miss driving so much!!!

 

[alexandria674]

I used to dream about the most over the top wedding possible, except for the groom. He was the last piece of the puzzle (For some reason he looked like Prince Phillip from Sleeping Beauty) as a kid. Now that I am an adult and engaged, I don't think about my wedding all that much.