Did Anyone Go Through A Depression When They Turned 30 ?

[BriarRosie]

I remember exactly where I was when I turned 30.

I was at the Adventurers Club! Gosh I miss that place.
I had a great time turning 30, and I hope to have a great time in November when I turn 40.

So in a year where I can get a Disney gift card for my birthday, where am I celebrating my 40th birthday instead?

Las Vegas, baby!

I already have plans to see shows and to treat myself to decadent meals.
So don't sweat 30. There's a heckuva lot more fun down the road.

 

[JVL1018]

Well, here was the scenario when I turned 30:

Had my baby boy 9/5/01
Terrorist attacks 9/11/01-and I live just a few miles out of NYC so it was waaay too close for comfort.
Turned 30 9/26/01

I honestly barely even remember it, between the newborn and the craziness of the country at that time, turning 30 wasn't even something on my radar.

40 on the other hand..eeeek! I have 2 years and 2 months before that happens, but I have been a little freaked out about it since I turned 36. LOL

 

[MelissaFromRI]

None of the big 0 birthdays have bothered me. 30, 40, 50...the year of my 55th I celebrated by running in the Minnie 15K in May and then the Race for the Taste in November (my first races ever). I must admit I've reached the stage in my life where I'm more likely to speak my mind, don't put up with as much nonsense, and totally have more fun than ever before.

I feel fortunate every day that I enjoy good health, have a great husband (not always ), successful, happy kids, wonderful grandkids, great friends, and, last but not least, have this wonderful network through the Disboards.

I totally agree , The Dis is amazing

I totally understand your depression. I was devastated when I turned 30. Yes, I was glad to be alive, the alternative would have sucked, I was very healthy, blah, blah, blah - I heard it all. Still didn't help me with my sadness of losing my youth. We are a youth and beauty obsessed society and I am just as guilty of that myself. But, back to turning 30 - I was weepy and depressed for a few days, then I snapped out of it . . .

And 15 years later, I have never looked back. My age never has bothered me since. I still look young, feel great, take care of myself, eat right and take Geritol 2x times a day . . . well - I don't really take Geritol.

I guess what I am trying to say is that your feelings are very natural and they will subside or ease up.

Time heals all wounds I guess. RIP my twenties

Oddly enough, my big depression came when I turned 20!

I have always been keenly aware of time and growing old. I never drank so unlike all of my friends that couldn't wait to turn 21, I was happy being 18 forever.

Needless to say, although this "dark time" seemed to last for months, I received no sympathy from anyone.

30 wasn't a big deal for me because I was healthier & wealthier than I was when I was half that age and mentally I'll always feel young.

Now at 32, even though I'm going in for aortic valve replacement next month (darn birth defect I just found out about) I'll bounce back fine because I'm young, I have to, I have the Disney 1/2 marathon to prepare for.

I have been given a new perspective on age and time, now I welcome (slowly of course) old age.

First of all , good luck with your surgery. Secondly , I was one of those dopes wishing my youth away. Couldn't wait to be 16 so I could drive , couldn't wait to be 21 to drink

Hi all: I can't remember when I was 30, oh yes I do. Just a senior moment like most of you don't have yet. 30 was great. I had my very first surprise party. 40 was great too and by 50 I was looking forward to retirement.
That came at 59 and at 60 another surprise party. 60 wasn't too bad either.
At 65 in July I just received my medicare card and I hope it lasts. Last year
we bought a home in Florida to be close to Mickey. He keeps me young seeing all the happy faces. And all of you keep me young trying to keep up.

now that you are 30 look forward to 40.

John

I hope to move to Florida one day

Turning 30 did not bother me, and I just turned 39 and the thought of turning 40 next year is exciting. See turning 40 is a reason to plan a big birthday trip right?

Age is just a mind trick. I'm as young as I want to be. Sure I thought I would have accomplished more by now but hey there is still time.

Like you said , I thought I would have accomplished more by now , but I'm not dead yet

I remember exactly where I was when I turned 30.

I was at the Adventurers Club! Gosh I miss that place.
I had a great time turning 30, and I hope to have a great time in November when I turn 40.

So in a year where I can get a Disney gift card for my birthday, where am I celebrating my 40th birthday instead?

Las Vegas, baby!

I already have plans to see shows and to treat myself to decadent meals.
So don't sweat 30. There's a heckuva lot more fun down the road.

Vegas !!!!

Well, here was the scenario when I turned 30:

Had my baby boy 9/5/01
Terrorist attacks 9/11/01-and I live just a few miles out of NYC so it was waaay too close for comfort.
Turned 30 9/26/01

I honestly barely even remember it, between the newborn and the craziness of the country at that time, turning 30 wasn't even something on my radar.

40 on the other hand..eeeek! I have 2 years and 2 months before that happens, but I have been a little freaked out about it since I turned 36. LOL

I can't even imagine what it must have been like living in NYC during the 9/11 period. I was scared to death and I live in RI

 

[OKW Lover]

Hey All ,

I hope I'm not being stupid

I turn the BIG 30 on Wednesday and I gotta say , I'm really upset about it. Birthdays have never bothered me in the past , I don't know why this one is killing me....

Any thoughts , stories or words of wisdom ???

As somebody who grew up when the saying "Don't trust anybody over 30" was popular, and now having observed my 30th twice, its really not bad. Especially as the poster below notes...

I still say it's better than the alternative

So enjoy your birthday and remember, its not 30 years, its just one more day.

Oh, and have some

 

[MelissaFromRI]

As somebody who grew up when the saying "Don't trust anybody over 30" was popular, and now having observed my 30th twice, its really not bad. Especially as the poster below notes...



So enjoy your birthday and remember, its not 30 years, its just one more day.

Oh, and have some

Cake is a must !!!!

 

[kab407]

Like many of you, turning 30 was awful. I had no clue as to who I was nor what I wanted to be doing with my life. I felt as if I should be this grown up but was no where even close. My 30's were life altering. Turning 40 was good. I had finally made it thru a very dark period in my life. I was happy. I knew what was important to me and focused on that.

Now, that the big 5-0 is not too far away, I 'm starting to think of how I want to celebrate. Safari? Major sailing trip? Not sure. What ever it is, it will be big!

 

[jcb]

Like many of you, turning 30 was awful. I had no clue as to who I was nor what I wanted to be doing with my life. I felt as if I should be this grown up but was no where even close. My 30's were life altering. Turning 40 was good. I had finally made it thru a very dark period in my life. I was happy. I knew what was important to me and focused on that.

Now, that the big 5-0 is not too far away, I 'm starting to think of how I want to celebrate. Safari? Major sailing trip? Not sure. What ever it is, it will be big!

How about re-wallpapering a bath room with all of the AARP notices you have gotten and will get? DW every time I get one.

 

[yitbos96bb]

Hey All ,

I hope I'm not being stupid

I turn the BIG 30 on Wednesday and I gotta say , I'm really upset about it. Birthdays have never bothered me in the past , I don't know why this one is killing me....

Any thoughts , stories or words of wisdom ???

Totally understand... yes... every now and then I have a birthday that bums me out...

23 depressed me because of where I was in my life so I made a change for the better.

30 depressed me because I wasn't where I wanted to be career wise. I am working to fix that... i am about to finish my degree, and start my masters as well as looking to start up some side businesses.

So yes, its depressing, but sometimes good can come out of it. That being said, still not crazy about my birthday... although now that my daughter was born 2 days before my birthday its better. Looking forward to her first bday.

 

[DISNEYNV]

I was really upset when I turned the big 3-0, but I was more upset when I didnt get carded to buy a drink anymore...somewhere right after baby number 1 (at 30!). Dont worry too much, have fun and enjoy your youth!!! Yeah, I just turned 35 and that feels really old.

 

[Tink rules]

Not as bad as my family felt when I turned 30... (I'm the baby and they were very depressed...)

Just remember this... it is only a number...

That said... I plan on being in Tuscany for my 50'th...

 

[pklein09]

I totally understand the birthday depression. My worst was when was I turned 25. Go figure. I was about to get married, so that should have ease any tension for that birthday. My best friend was a nanny at the time, and taught her charge (little girl, 3 years old) to say "Michelle's an old bag." Of course, my best friend (still best friends today) is younger than I!

Looking back, my birthdays have always been hard since I went to college. My mom always made a big deal over birthdays, at least they were big deals to us. My first birthday in college consisted of a package in the mail (clothes, but I don't know what I was expecting), and no one knowing or caring it was my birthday. To this day, I just wig out around my birthday. The day after is fine, but those few days leading up to it and the day of are just miserable. When I turned 30, I had babies in the house, so I was occupied. When I turned 40, I had just stepped off the Disney cruise 2 days prior. But for me, that didn't matter because I was in my house, exhausted from a trip, tons of laundry to do, and nothing special to do on my actual birthday.

I've already informed DH that for 50, I want my birthday trip to Disney. Everyone else in the family has had theirs, and I want mine. And dinner at V&As would be quite nice, too! We'll see if that comes to fruition - the youngest son will be 16 at the time, and I don't know if I'll trust him alone in the house while we're at Disney To ease the tension of my birthday, I now ask DH to take a day off work so I'm not alone on my birthday. That has helped immensely.

Looking back, my 30s were a great decade. I had the chance to raise 4 babies, grow with my husband, buy 3 DVC contracts (but still not enough points!!!) and so far, I'm enjoying my 40s (I'll be 43 in November). I feel like the 30s laid the groundwork for where we are today.

All that being said, have a wonderful birthday. Surround yourself with wonderful people that day.

 

[rotlex]

30, heck no! I didn't even think about it really, nor did my wife. 40 on the other hand, made me a LITTLE upset, but not really. My wife turns 40 this December though, and is already losing it.

I turn 42 this year, and really have not thought about it at all. Closing in on 50 is probably going to be a complete other story though!

 

[parrotheadlois]

Yes. And again when I turned 40...once again at 50...and the big 6-0 is coming up this December. I wasn't depressed on my 20th though! I think it partly has to do with the whole decade thing. My mom's going to be 80 this year and she's pretty darn happy about it so I guess I shouldn't complain.

Hey Summerlady! I hit that big 6-0 last September (didn't like it, but again, considering the alternative)

My Mom just turned 85 - hopefully I have those long-life genes.

Sussex county huh, I'm just a way south in Warren County.

 

[MelissaFromRI]

It's official , today is the FINAL day of my twenties

 

[jeanigor]

I turn 29 this year. This worries me. I know it is only a number, but it still seems hard.

I am going on PCC 2.0 to celebrate my 30th. Nothing like a trip to WDW to keep you young at heart.

 

[MelissaFromRI]

I turn 29 this year. This worries me. I know it is only a number, but it still seems hard.

I am going on PCC 2.0 to celebrate my 30th. Nothing like a trip to WDW to keep you young at heart.

So true , Disney is the best

 

[summerlady]

Hey Summerlady! I hit that big 6-0 last September (didn't like it, but again, considering the alternative)

My Mom just turned 85 - hopefully I have those long-life genes.

Sussex county huh, I'm just a way south in Warren County.

Warren County is beautiful! I wish some of the people who think N.J. is just a smelly old place could visit Warren and Sussex Counties.

I don't feel any different than I did when I was in my 40's, not most of the time anyway...just a little more difficult to lose a couple of pounds when I want to and my back creaks now and then. But there *are* definitely advantages to being an older woman, especially when on vacation in WDW.

 

[Tink rules]

It's official , today is the FINAL day of my twenties

CELEBRATE LIFE!!!!

& tomorrow you aren't going to feel any different...

Unless you OD on frosting from your cake...

 

[MelissaFromRI]

CELEBRATE LIFE!!!!

& tomorrow you aren't going to feel any different...

Unless you OD on frosting from your cake...

LOL
I do love cake

 

[MerMom60_94]

Happy Birthday Melissa!!!

In answer to your question, I recall getting depressed at 25 and at 40 and probably every year since then. Maybe depressed isn't the word so much as reflective. I tend to spend a lot of time right before my birthday turning inward and reflecting on my life and where I am and where I want(ed) to be. Then I have my birthday and I just get over it pretty quickly. Just try to focus on what is good in your life and maybe take on a few things that you can change if you want to and set those changes as your goals for the upcoming year. Let the rest go. Life is what it is.

I hope you enjoy your day!