DH wants to sell our puppy :( SOMEWHAT OF AN UPDATE PAGE 10

[hlane]

and I can't stop crying about it! We bought an English Bulldog puppy about 6 weeks ago, she's now 14 weeks old & I am head over heels in love with her
We've never had a pet before but she's wonderful, such a good dog & a quick learner. I am the main caretaker during the week but on the weekends I work outside the home, 8 hour shifts both S&S. DH is fine Mon-Fri but every weekend since we brought her home he's emailing & IMing that it was a mistake, its too much, blah, blah, blah.
I'm not sure what the problem is She sleeps a lot, is well behaved and I don't have any problems with her at all. Let me mention, I am also caring for 4-5 kids full time during the week plus housework, cooking, etc.
On the weekends he only has our 2 kids (7&8) who don't require much and there is really not much housework.
He says he cant get his homework done (he's in college p/t) because of the dog. WTH??
I am just beside myself and nothing I am saying is getting through to him
Just wanted to vent, I am SOOOO upset

Let me mention, it was HIS idea to get a dog & sadly me quitting my weekend job seems to be the only solution but of course $$ wise that isn't an option

 

[NotUrsula]

The children are old enough to care for the dog on weekends.

If he needs to do his homework and the dog is bothering him, then crate it elsewhere in the house.

 

[Jennasis]

Ahh...that would not fly with me. The dog sounds like it is essentially YOUR dog. If my DH told me I had to get rid of MY dog because it was too much trouble to watch it for a few hours a week, there would be hell to pay. Tell Dh to call the Wah-mbulance...the dog isn't leaving.

 

[Angelhalo]

Ahh...that would not fly with me. The dog sounds like it is essentially YOUR dog. If my DH told me I had to get rid of MY dog because it was too much trouble to watch it for a few hours a week, there would be hell to pay. Tell Dh to call the Wah-mbulance...the dog isn't leaving.

Agreed.

If he TRULY can't watch the dog while doing his homework, and for whatever reason, the children can't either, then just crate the dog in another room until the homework is done. He's being a big baby!

 

[disneystacy]

Ahh...that would not fly with me. The dog sounds like it is essentially YOUR dog. If my DH told me I had to get rid of MY dog because it was too much trouble to watch it for a few hours a week, there would be hell to pay. Tell Dh to call the Wah-mbulance...the dog isn't leaving.

 

[JessicaR]

Why is it his decision? Just say NO. Pets Are Not Disposable.

You say you arent sure what the problem is. Thats your first step, find out what the problem is.

 

[Darsa]

Wow... I can't imagine! I would say that he was lazy, but if he works FT and goes to college as well, I know that's a lot of work. Still, I don't understand how it could be a lot of work to take care of one pup with a 7YO and an 8YO around as well.


I hope he doesn't do it... that would be a terrible thing to do to you AND to that dog who I'm sure loves his family!

 

[Saphire]

I hope you have enough of an equal realtionship that you can come to a compromise together. What about hiring a teen to walk/play with the dog twice a day?
If he has the last word on everything and your input doesn't matter, I would sell him.

 

[Buckalew11]

Love me, love my dog.


Good advice here on the thread.

 

[JessicaR]

I hope you have enough of an equal realtionship that you can come to a compromise together. What about hiring a teen to walk/play with the dog twice a day?
If he has the last word on everything and your input doesn't matter, I would sell him.

Worded very well.

 

[mousetravel]

I agree with the crating. Or get a baby gate and keep him confined to one room.

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

I would find out why he sees this dog as such a problem. What is the dog doing that is irritating him so much. Then I would recruit my kids to take care of the dog on the weekends.

 

[Tuffcookie]

OP, It sounds like you have 3 children!

I agree with the others; pets are not disposable (unless there's a very good reason and being LAZY is not one of them!)

You need to remind your DH that if Mom ain't happy, nobody's happy!

BTW I'll bet he is adorable (the Bulldog), can you post a pix?

TC

 

[mom2travel]

That's what crates are for - when puppy can't be properly supervised
Is your yard fenced? If so, the kids could run the pup around and tire her out

They are like babies when they are puppies - need constant attention and/or supervision. It does get better, trust me!

With dog #2 DH was being driven crazy and was ready to take him back. I held firm, reminded him that it was his idea to get a 2nd dog and he weathered the storm, and laughs about it now.
Maybe he could make a list of the things that bother him and you can work together to come up with solutions (we're all here too to help ).
Good luck!

 

[hercamore]

I think you are going to be very unhappy if you give up this dog, and so will your kids.

All good suggestions above.



herc

 

[ckay87]

I'm with the others. And to put it in perspective, think of all the doggies in the world who are home alone while their family is away for 8 hours at work and school. Perhaps they are crated, perhaps they are not. But if nobody can care for your pup during the times you work (even if people are at home) then it's not the end of the world. Crate him, he will survive. Crate your DH while you're at it

 

[airhead]

NO WAY should you give up your dog!!! NO WAY!!!

 

[airhead]

I'm with the others. And to put it in perspective, think of all the doggies in the world who are home alone while their family is away for 8 hours at work and school. Perhaps they are crated, perhaps they are not. But if nobody can care for your pup during the times you work (even if people are at home) then it's not the end of the world. Crate him, he will survive. Crate your DH while you're at it

Crating your DH may solve your problem!LOL

 

[mickeylove2]

There's no way I'd get rid of the puppy! I'm a single mom of 2 (DD6 & DD8) I work f/t M-F and go to college f/t 2 evenings a week plus an online class. My DBF just got my girls a kitten about 2 weeks ago and this past weekend bought them 3 (yes 3 ) blue nosed pit bull pups. Yes it's hard and it's a lot of work but I'd NEVER suggest getting rid of them, we've only had them 4 days and they are already a huge part of our family!

 

[SamRoc]

OP I would get a T shirt made that said "I got a new puppy for my husband, best trade i ever made" There is no way i would give up the puppy!