DH is mean

[zhazhazsu]

Whaaaaaaaaa.... I only get 2 vacations a year.... Whaaaaaaaaa....
Whaaaaaaaaa.... I have no points left.... Whaaaaaaaaa....

Oh no I think she's a goner somebody call the Whaaaaambulance!

J/K OP, if you want to take a get away and can afford to, go solo, or bring a gf for a long weekend.

If you can afford 3 vacations a year, and have the time GO GIRL!

 

[zhazhazsu]

Well said... except for the flaming part... I think she deserves the flaming. I have no patients for that kind of childishness from married adults.

If my wife were to come on here and say "My DH is mean" (which I am sometimes), she wouldn't hear the end of it. This is no place to air personal childish matters...

And my wife does come on here... I am not allowed to say her screen name though, becasue she has a secret crush on Robo...

You sure I am not your wife! LOL!

 

[SuperTink]

 

[MinnieVanMom]

I love Robo's maps! He has the very best maps around.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Life is tough.

Now that is good sarcasm!

 

[Boo Bear]

Not as mean as THIS guy!

Agreed.

My DH considers himself lucky if I give him 2 weeks notice.

You've got loads of time with two months to plan!

Agreed.

 

[eyor44]

3 trips......within 9 months.......all to Disney......... yeah, your DH is mean......

 

[JeanfromBNA]

If my wife were to come on here and say "My DH is mean" (which I am sometimes), she wouldn't hear the end of it. This is no place to air personal childish matters...

I'm confused. I thought that this was THE place to air personal childish matters . . .

 

[FigmentFinder]

I'm confused. I thought that this was THE place to air personal childish matters . . .

No, that's the community board.

 

[Nikisha421]

I never judge because judging makes me no better than the next...man/woman...I think that the reason you are getting flamed is bc you posted this right after the other husband thread...the one that ROBO quoted...
...but simply my love...count your blessings name them one by one , count your blessing and see what GOD has done...
...some don't even have a vacation to look forward to much less mulitple vacations...or the luxury of a computer were they have leisure time to have the nerve to complain...so it's okay. I know how you feel..but sometimes things are just left better un-saod///

 

[larryz]

<soapbox>Giscard d'Estang, people! How about a little slack for the OP???

Wanna go back into your own histories and see how many of your threads seem superficial or whiney?

Mean is a continuum and who are we to say what's mean to this person?

Yeah, I'd consider myself blessed if I could count on two vaca's in Mickeyworld per year, but -- hey, I used to live in Swampland and was at the World more than that, so... I guess it's a matter of perception.

I guess what I'm trying to say is look in a mirror before you dump on a poster, and remember, when you point one finger at someone, you've got three others pointing right back atcha!
</soapbox>

 

[scjo68]

OK, I am going to swim against the flow, and take it easy on the OP.

Maybe I am misreading the tone of her post, but I took it to be kind of lighthearted. I did not get the impression that she literally thinks that her DH is cruel to her because he limits the frequency of their vacations.

She came on a WDW vacation planning board and expressed an interest in taking more frequent vacations. She is disappointed that her DH is allowing practical matters to prevent more frequent trips. That is a pretty standard topic of discussion on these boards from my experience.

I know what real problems are.
I have friends who have escaped violent marriages.
My father is in the hospital right now, has been there for two weeks, due to open heart surgery and complications from it. So I realize real life is full of real difficulties, and WDW vacations (or lack of them) are not real problems.

If only true life challenges were discussed on the boards, well, the boards would stay pretty quiet.

Not getting your first choice ADR... having to stay in a
moderate instead of a deluxe because you never got a pin code...missing rope drop because your extended family insists on sleeping late....being in a bad spot for a parade...

None of these are serious, but they are regular topics of discussion here.
Sometimes it's nice to escape real life long enough to get on these boards and vent a little to others who may understand. That sometimes focusing on the vey little, silly, unimportant things allows us to blow off some steam. Then we are sane enough to tackle the really important problems (the ones that might break us if we really stop and think about them) like adults.

 

[Mysteria]

Lighten up people. I think the OP meant it entirely tongue in cheek. Nice regular old disbaords attackon her! Something to be so proud of in itself.

 

[ckartman80]

I agree I did not take the post as Whiney or flustered.... More of a this is crap joking matter... I think a few posts on here are more uptight and whiney than the original post. Mostly everyone comes on here posting about there problems and issues about going to Disney World... So why is it not OK for someone else to post hers. Whose to judge which are real issues and which are not. Just my 2 cents worth, which with inflation is worth nothing.

 

[Thror]

Trying to get the feel for this board...so far I've learned not to be cavalier lest someone compare my idle grievances to adultery and domestic violence. Thanks.

 

[JennyMP03]

I think OP was just kidding around, but I gotta say, I envy anyone who gets an annual Disney trip. Take me along, please... someone, anyone! I don't eat much and I'm willing to sleep in the tub.

Sorry, Thror. It's usually pretty nice around here, I think. Hope you aren't turned away already!

 

[Glencora]

Truth to tell, I think addition of a smiley - say or would have kept a lot of the flames at bay. Sometimes we all forget how much is conveyed by tone of voice, and how much can be misinterpreted without it.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I'm not sure I get what OP is asking. Is this tongue in cheek? Asking for sympathy? DO you want an opinion on how to change DH's mind? I think we need more information.

If DH needs more time in order to tell his employer, there isn't really anything you can do about it. In fact, I know some employers needed their employees to tell them all the vacation they are going to take this year back in January.

Which reminds me, I need to ask for time off in late June and early July...

 

[i'mfluffy]

My main problem with the not going on a trip is because he said we couldn't book something because he was changing position. And he would be really busy. Now he's saying he can take a few days off. He said to look around not to far from home and find something. For what it would cost for that trip we could go to disney. But he doesn't want to drive that far. I offered to take DS by myself. He said no he wants to spend time with us. So instead he will end up work easter week while DS and I will struggle to find cool things to do at home. I hardly ever see DH. Lately he's been getting home close to 8 o'clock. On the weekend he's constantly getting email and eventually on Sunday night he logs on to work. I spend my entire week running to and from school, gym, appointments, errands, homework, countless activites with DS. I want a break. I want to spend quality family time together. Plus my planning for the May trip is totally done and the December trip is done until hours come out and the adr window opens up. I'm also tired of planning everything for other people. I would love for him to just book a trip and handle the adrs and making reservations for the dogs by himself. The man will not do anything on his own. He will hand me the phone and his rx bottle and ask me to call the pharmacy. For the disney cruise it was supposed to be a suprise but he didn;t think to have the paperwork sent to his office. It go mailed to the house instead so it is no longer a suprise. Once I knew about the trip it became my responsibity to plan it. He wouldn't call to change to a small table because it was too much of a bother. But he would have complained to me every day of the trip if we had to sit at large table with other guests. I found out there was a $50 obc if you booked using the disney visa card. He couldn't be bothered to call and have the code added. So of course it fell to me. Sorry for venting. I know I'm spoiled. But for once I want someone to think of me and plan something special for me.

 

[Robo]

I guess we can kiss that "tongue-in-cheek" theory goodbye.