DH does NOT want to go on our Nov 30th cruise

[imgoingtodisney]

anyone want to come with us? DS10.5 and I are going anyways and we're going to have a great time

 

[pal2pluto]

Are you serious????? Is he insane?????? Then admit him and I'll come!!!! Really wish I could

 

[howardk613]

Imgoingtodisney -
We went on our 1st cruise in Nov of 1998. I also did not want to go on a cruise (seasick, confined, small rooms etc.) but went because the kids really wanted to go and I wanted to make them happy. Well , needless to say we ALL loved it. We are only 44 days (and counting) away from our 3rd cruise and I can't wait. Tell your DH to go and enjoy himself. It will be the time of his life.

 

[Buckaroo's Dad]

Hi Imgoingtodisney. Sorry to hear that your DH does not wish to cruise on DCL. I noticed from your other post that he is not enamored with DVC as well.

I would strongly recommend - with the kindest of intentions - that you refrain from posting "availability" in your stateroom and/or vacation suite with yourself and DS. Yes, this is a family-oriented web site. However, it remains a web site. Please do not nuture those who might prey upon unsuspecting women and children.

Others may deem this post foolish and unnecessary. I am willing to accept the consequences because I feel as though you created this thread out of anger and frustration. Your dear hubby is probably a kind and compassionate gentleman who does not care for Disney. (Is he an attorney by chance? - sorry if that offends anyone. It is a joke!). Introduce him to this site and through cruise knowledge and "communion" with those wonderful folks who post here perhaps he will recant his decision to not go on the cruise He may not like a Disney cruise, but I'm sure he loves you and DS.

Wisning you only the best.

 

[mmouse37]

Buckaroo.......no flames here....you gave good, sound advice.

imgoingtodisney....sorry DH does not want to go. My DH did not want to go on the Maiden Voyage of the Magic back in '98 (had ressies for two years prior) but he did and he had a great time. Needless to say we have our 7th DCL cruise booked for next summer.

MJ

 

[imgoingtodisney]

DH just called from work and said he cancelled his vacation time

 

[FantasticDisFamily]

Oh my - he is serious then. Do you have a girlfriend in your area that might want to go? That would be safer than opening up to an unknown!

That raises a question in my mind at least...can the reservation be changed to someone else's name without major problems? Maybe Webmaster Michelle has that answer!

I am sooo sorry he doesn't want to go - he will really miss out on a fabulous time. I know my DH wasn't totally sold at first either but didn't take him long and WELL before we left for our first cruise he was into it.

Deb

 

[bjspalding]

Has your husband cruised before? Why doesn't he want to go? I hope you can find someone to go with you. How about a sister or good friend?

 

[cruisnfamily]

I can't imagine what my reaction would be.

It's really none of my business but since you have posted here I'm guessing you really want the feedback so here goes:

First, let's start off with did he ever want to go in the first place? Was it your idea to go and he reluctantly agreed or did he say from the beginning that he wasn't going? Did he know you booked it?

Next, is he angry about this? I don't live in your house or know your DH but I do know that as wonderful as a Disney Cruise is....it's not worth endangering your marriage over. I can see my DH saying about a potential vacation (not the cruise but something he didn't want to do) "I'm not interested but why don't you and the kids go?" And I would go, if he was OK with it and everybody was happy. However if it became a point of contention and agruement and he was upset over it, I wouldn't go. If he is saying "gosh honey, I really want to vacation with you and DS but I just don't want to do the cruise" I would be cancelling in a heartbeat to do something we all could enjoy.

Ultimately it is your decision as to how you handle this. Do you go anyway, do you try to talk him into it, do you invite a girlfriend of yours or a playmate for DS to come along? There are many ways to deal with this. Honestly though, I would try to get to the root of this with DH and make sure you're not rocking the boat (pardon the pun) with hime. It's just not going to be worth it in the end. If he is OK with you guys going and just doesn't want to tag along, then cool, by all means, go without him.

Just my .02$ but I hope maybe it helps with some perspective.

 

[wovenwonder]

Barb -- PLEASE don't let this get you down TOO much -- I know that you are looking forward to this vacation!! Maybe take a friend for your DS.

YOU will STILL have a wonderful vacation and make a worldfull of memories for you and DS to share for a lifetime!

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}
Hope things are soon looking brighter for you!

 

[sistert]

Here's my $0.02 for what it's worth:

It's a shame that your DH doesn't want to go, and I would hope he has no plans of stopping you and your son from going. If you don't mind cruising without him, you'll still have a great time. It will be great bonding time with your son, and you'll be amazed at all the people you'll meet. Plus, you don't have to worry about your DH spoiling your good time because he's not into it.

Contact Disney or your agent (whomever you booked with) and remove your husband from the reservations. If you really must go with a companion, you still have time to make adjustments, but don't dilly dally.

Go and have a great time!

 

[Bumbles]

It's because you wanted him to wear pants at dinner, isn't it?

Don't let him keep you from having a great time!

 

[aahmom1]

What a guy!! Go without him!!

 

[Michelle]

I'm sorry to hear that but I'm glad you're going anyway. It sounds like he was never excited about going and it would be miserable to be on a cruise with someone determined to be miserable.

If you can't find another adult friend to go with you be sure to make any changes to your reservation before your final payment is due. DCL has instituted new charges that kick in for changes made after final payment is due.

Good luck!

 

[imgoingtodisney]

We booked with points. Any chance on getting some of the points returned? I know I would need to consider DS an adult fare but could we get a child's points back?

 

[Michelle]

I'm not sure of the DVC regulations but if you booked with cash you WOULD get the child's fare back.

Hopefully some DVC folks can help with that answer.

 

[TRAPPED-PARENT]

I have to wholeheartedly agree with Sonya Francisco. I think there might be more happening than we know.

 

[FOJMO]

I believe when you change a person on a cruise booked with DVC points, you have to make a whole new reservation and another $75 exchange fee. I know that I questioned one time if we changed the name of the girlfriend that my daughter would bring along before the cruise date, they said it would mean a whole new reservation and another $75 point exchange fee.

This may hold true even if you replaced him with someone else. Best to check with Member Services to make sure.

That's a bummer about DH. (I don't know how "D" he would be considered after this, though - LOL). Sounds like he wasn't too keen on the whole idea to begin with.

Good luck!

 

[jel0511]

I'd say that you should call MS and ask them, I'd guess you could get the point back. But you'll have to remember that they'll be "reservation" points meaning that they can't be used for DVC resorts. Also, they will have to be used by the end of your use year and have to be booked at least 60 days before the endof your use year. They can only be used the Disney Collection, Concierge collection, adventure collection and I think for swapping to another timeshare(the name of that collection alludes me now!!) THe childs points are 52 points, won't get you much but maybe a night or two somewhere else. I'm sorry to hear about your DH, I guess he finally decided that he didn't want to go on a cruise without the gambling and not being able to wear shorts, which he can't do on other cruise lines either.

 

[4nana]

Oh my, what a bummer....I cannot imagine the dissappointment you must feel. Sorry it did not work out. I can't imagine anyone not wanting to go, but different strokes for different fokes. If I remember correctly didn't your hubby have doubts in the first place....he prefers a vacation where he can wear shorts at dinner and gamble? So, now that you know he is sticking to his guns....
pls. do not let it get you down, prepare yourself mentally and move on. I have never vacationed w/o my DH, but we all have to do what is best for us. I'm sure you and your DS will make the best of it and have a wonderful time. Best wishes.