dh cancelling on me..

[dana1003]

im so upset right now my dh just told me he thinks he has to cancel going in dec...money is tight right now and he doesnt want to ruin it for our daughters by all of cancelling so he says hes willing to stay home.i cant stop crying..i dont want to cancel but i dont want to leave him either. this is our first family trip w/our girls. i guess if we cant go ill live vicariously thru all of you.

 

[SaraMc]

Why not move the trip to a time when money isnt so tight and you all can go? Like Jan/Feb? I know I wouldnt want to go without my DH. Goodluck in whatever desision you choose.

 

[WDWorBUST]

I wouldn't go without DH....I can't imagine the amount you'd save would be worth it. I mean you still have to have the same hotel - you're only saving his park ticket and airline ticket if you plan to fly because he'll have to still eat at home. Maybe you can do some overall trip cutbacks and the whole family can still go. I think your girls would probably rather wait and have daddy with them than go without him too.

 

[tripplanner]

I would either wait to when money wasn't so tight or either cut the number of days, parks, or room type until it fit my budget.

 

[dana1003]

Why not move the trip to a time when money isnt so tight and you all can go? Like Jan/Feb? I know I wouldnt want to go without my DH. Goodluck in whatever desision you choose.

will they "fine" me for post-poning? our balance is due next week and our trip is the first week of dec?

 

[ilovejack02]

will they "fine" me for post-poning? our balance is due next week and our trip is the first week of dec?

If your balance next week then you should be fine! I vote for postpone trip until Jan or first of Fed. Peak season starts back up Feb. 15th so if you are staying on WDW prob then the prices will go back up. Call and see what they say, it cant hurt!

 

[java]

Oh I would postpone the trip to when you could all go. It really isn't going to save that much having one person not go. Not worth the loss of a memory. Hope you can make it work.

 

[angipoo]

Maybe if you talk about how little monetary difference his NOT going would make (he'd still have to eat, etc.), he might reconsider.
Also, maybe go look at mousesavers ( a website, just add the dot com) and look at WDW discounts and click on that - there are lists of ways to save money while at Disney.
Also, have you gotten the new codes for the new WDW packages (also on Mousesavers)? I did one a couple of months ago on an existing ressie and ended up saving $100 (that's about 1/2 an adult park ticket)
Rebooking is another option - are you going when prices are really high?
I would not want to go without him - it could be he is just suffering "sticker shock" with the final payment coming up.
Disney Visa has no interest no payment for 6 months on Disney vacations. We just made our final "payment" this week, but we don't have to actually start paying till April. Gives us time to earn some more money, use some of our Christmas money, etc

Just some ideas - don't try to force it, but maybe if he could see there are some ways of making the trip more affordable, that might help.

Here's a prayer and a little pixie dust that things work out

 

[dana1003]

Maybe if you talk about how little monetary difference his NOT going would make (he'd still have to eat, etc.), he might reconsider.
Also, maybe go look at mousesavers ( a website, just add the dot com) and look at WDW discounts and click on that - there are lists of ways to save money while at Disney.
Also, have you gotten the new codes for the new WDW packages (also on Mousesavers)? I did one a couple of months ago on an existing ressie and ended up saving $100 (that's about 1/2 an adult park ticket)
Rebooking is another option - are you going when prices are really high?
I would not want to go without him - it could be he is just suffering "sticker shock" with the final payment coming up.
Disney Visa has no interest no payment for 6 months on Disney vacations. We just made our final "payment" this week, but we don't have to actually start paying till April. Gives us time to earn some more money, use some of our Christmas money, etc

Just some ideas - don't try to force it, but maybe if he could see there are some ways of making the trip more affordable, that might help.

Here's a prayer and a little pixie dust that things work out

we booked thru disney- staying at music in their family suite cuz there are 3 adults and 2 kids so reg room would have been to small. we did the dp cuz we figured : that would save us $ and we had to fly. our kids are to small to take such a long drive from nj. hes worried about the $ he will be losing while hes away "playing". hes a self employed artist so there are no paid vacation days. im still gonna try to talk to him cuz im afraid if we postpone there will never be a "good"time. i want to thank everyone for replying and letting me gripe to all of you who understand.

 

[HappyLawyer]

yeah, i would totally go without the husband- but too each his/her own

 

[daisyduck123]

The kids & I went without three times, but my mother came with us instead. Maybe Grandma would like to come? (Mine also pays for the entire trip when she comes with us, which isn't a bad thing!)

 

[GEM]

I would have no problem going without DH. In fact, my little guy (age 3) and I just did a "Mommy and Me" trip in September and it was GREAT! But, I wouldn't have chosen to do it that way for our first trip. Good luck. I hope it all works out for you!

 

[angipoo]

we booked thru disney- staying at music in their family

Who's the third adult? Just curious

hes worried about the $ he will be losing while hes away "playing".

He won't be playing - he will be making memories that will last a lifetime. We went over 2 years ago and DD STILL talks about it!

hes a self employed artist so there are no paid vacation days. im still gonna try to talk to him cuz im afraid if we postpone there will never be a "good"time.

You're right - there will never be a good time. You just have to make the best of things. Keep me posted. I hope things go well!

 

[SusanMomOf2]

How would it be ruined for the girls? I'm sorry. I wish it can work out for you all to go. Would it be worth going on a budget? Could you bring some of your own food into the park and not do any spending? Just being there for a kid is awesome. I doubt they'll care about where and what they eat or how many souveniers they buy. No matter what happens, make sure you go at some point in the near future if you can. Start planning asap.

HUGS!

 

[noodleknitter]

We've postponed trips many times, and it is a bummer! But we survived, and were glad we went later. I hope it works out for you! I think your husband is sweet to back out so that you and your little girls could go. I would wait for him, though. Save a bit more, etc.

My Opinion.

 

[dana1003]

yeah, i would totally go without the husband- but too each his/her own

yeah im starting to think that maybe they'll get over it!!

 

[dana1003]

The kids & I went without three times, but my mother came with us instead. Maybe Grandma would like to come? (Mine also pays for the entire trip when she comes with us, which isn't a bad thing!)

grandma & grandpa are going..so is my brother..so maybe it wont be so bad.

 

[dana1003]

we booked thru disney- staying at music in their family

Who's the third adult? Just curious

hes worried about the $ he will be losing while hes away "playing".

He won't be playing - he will be making memories that will last a lifetime. We went over 2 years ago and DD STILL talks about it!

hes a self employed artist so there are no paid vacation days. im still gonna try to talk to him cuz im afraid if we postpone there will never be a "good"time.

You're right - there will never be a good time. You just have to make the best of things. Keep me posted. I hope things go well!

my parents are going and staying in their own suite and my brother is staying in our suite. so there are extra people ..maybe i will go.

 

[ilovejack02]

my parents are going and staying in their own suite and my brother is staying in our suite. so there are extra people ..maybe i will go.

Since there are other people to help you with kiddies , & there will great memories with uncle and grandparents I would soooo go! Take tons of pictures and call daddy every night with an update on the day. It is hard to be self employed... my 2 best friends hubbies are and they do go on vacation esp since they have fairly established buisnesses.. one more so than the other, but they both worry about their buisness while they are gone and it does cut into the vacation fun for themselves and def. for others around them! Let him stay home but let him know he better get LOTS AND LOTS of work done while you guys are gone LOL!

 

[angipoo]

my parents are going and staying in their own suite and my brother is staying in our suite. so there are extra people ..maybe i will go.

What I am about to say is not in any way to be taken as an attack on DH, just an obsevation from someone who has been with a daughter... Here it goes...

If hubby is Ok with not going and you've got family with you - go for it!!! Unfortunately, I think he will regret this more than he realizes because for years to come one of your girls will say "You remember when we...." and he won't be able to nod and smile. We went in June 2004 when my DD was 4 and she still talks about it, almost weekly. The magic is just great.

Like I said, I don't mean anything negative, just something to think about.