DH and I are going away for more than a weekend and I'm having second thoughts -

[transparant]

We are going to Bal Harbor FL. later in April for 4 days. I've never been away from my kids for that long and I'm afraid I won't enjoy myself because I'll miss them so much! Especially my youngest - he's my best buddy, I take him everywhere I go and we have a blast together.

On one hand I'm looking forward to this trip - and on the other....I'm dreading it and getting really sad about it.

So how were all of you the first time you were away from the kids for more than a weekend?

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I understand. But keep in mind, in addition to being a mother you are also a wife. Every husband and wife need some time to theirselves

 

[Kristi1357]

I understand. But keep in mind, in addition to being a mother you are also a wife. Every husband and wife need some time to theirselves

I could not agree more.

Although I may feel differently when we leave DS for almost a week in Sept.! I have always felt strongly that husbands & wives need to get away from the kiddos once in awhile for some alone time - but it will probably be hard to be away from DS.

Have a great trip!

 

[golfgal]

What you will probably find is that you won't miss them as much as you think and then you will feel guilty about that. It is good for kids and parents to spend time apart and your 4 days will go by so quickly. Relax, have fun, the kid will be there when you get back.

 

[In a hurry]

What you will probably find is that you won't miss them as much as you think and then you will feel guilty about that. It is good for kids and parents to spend time apart and your 4 days will go by so quickly. Relax, have fun, the kid will be there when you get back.

I agree! And you will have a greater appreciation for them when you see them again after a weekend of Fun in the Sun with your sweetheart! Maybe even add to the crew...

 

[transparant]

I agree! And you will have a greater appreciation for them when you see them again after a weekend of Fun in the Sun with your sweetheart! Maybe even add to the crew...

No thanks - 6 is quite enough! LOL!

 

[transparant]

I also have to add that I'm very nervous about the flying - I haven't flown anywhere since my oldest was born and that was almost 16 years ago. My DH says we should update our living will because there are some changes on it that we want to make. Do you know how hard it is to find someone who would *want* to become legal gaurdians of 6 kids God forbid something does happen?! LOL! So of course that's adding to my anxiety about the whole thing.

I know it's safer flying than it is driving - but you know how these kind of things mess with your head.

 

[In a hurry]

I'm with you there. I had no fears of flying before I had my kids. After...it makes me nervous. My OB/Gyn agrees and says that is the only time she self-medicates!

BTW, I heard that after the first 6...the rest are a breeze!

 

[transparant]

BTW, I heard that after the first 6...the rest are a breeze!

 

[TEENEE]

Your feelings are normal. The hardest part is when you initially leave your kids. Once you get on your way you will start to relax and have fun. As hard as it is to leave it is worth it. Kids need a break from mom & dad and parents need that time to reconnect. Go on your trip and have fun. You won't regret it.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Go, and have fun! Normal to think those thoughts, I do it too. That is when I tell dh, we really need a will. Yes we STILL DON'T HAVE ONE!!!
This year we are going to do it, or I am going to do it myself.

OK, I probably freaked you out now, eh? Sorry...have fun!!!

 

[zalansky]

I also have to add that I'm very nervous about the flying - I haven't flown anywhere since my oldest was born and that was almost 16 years ago. My DH says we should update our living will because there are some changes on it that we want to make. Do you know how hard it is to find someone who would *want* to become legal gaurdians of 6 kids God forbid something does happen?! LOL! So of course that's adding to my anxiety about the whole thing.

I know it's safer flying than it is driving - but you know how these kind of things mess with your head.

We just went to Cabo San Lucas for 4 days without the kids a few weeks ago and I was feeling the same way you are now. When I expressed my fears about flying because of the same reason you stated, people looked at me like I was nuts. Hey - its a reality though not likely! Like someone else said, once I was gone and having fun I admit I didn't miss the kids as much as I thought I would and I did feel guilty about it...but before I knew it I was back home and back to the everyday grind and wishing I was back on the beach sipping cocktails! Have a great time and enjoy yourself!

 

[minkydog]

Totally normal. I felt the same way the first time I left the children. Actually , every time. But I also love to get away and do adult things with my DH (get outta the gutter now!) We love museums, old houses, movies,churches, and trains. Some of these things are better enjoyed without my kids, frankly. So we go away, have a great time, and we're all glad to see each other when we get back.

Try not to worry about the flying. It's very safe, much safer than driving. It might make you feel better if you do update your will. We did that recently and it has really taken a load off us. Incidentally, we have made separate guardians for my two minor children--they will be split up due to DSs special needs. Not ideal, but the best we can do. I had to think about it this way--if our kids needed a guardian TODAY, who would be better than going to foster care? ...an ah-HA moment...

 

[Dan Murphy]

Have a great time, Heather. And don't worry about the flying. Who is watching the brood???

As for will and such, make sure you have your wills (living will is mostly for direction if incapacitated) and so important, your trusts and guardianship is taken care of, trip or no trip, so VERY important. (just my planner side coming out, LOL).

 

[DVC Sadie]

I also have to add that I'm very nervous about the flying - I haven't flown anywhere since my oldest was born and that was almost 16 years ago. My DH says we should update our living will because there are some changes on it that we want to make. Do you know how hard it is to find someone who would *want* to become legal gaurdians of 6 kids God forbid something does happen?! LOL! So of course that's adding to my anxiety about the whole thing.

I know it's safer flying than it is driving - but you know how these kind of things mess with your head.

Xanax is a great way to fly, believe me its the only way I fly. Have a great time on your vacation.

 

[jennyl772003]

I always feel guilty leaving my son behind. I think about him a lot.

I'll tell you what though, I fall in love with DH all over again every time we vacation alone.

Then, we spoil DS rotten the week after we come back, so DS is usually JUST FINE with it!

 

[Blondie]

I had the same concerns as you when DH and I went to WDW for a long weekend in February.

We enjoyed ourselves so much we're going back without the kids again in May!

We called each other frequently on our cells. At one point we were in line at the pastry shop in France/Epcot and my phone started this weird beeping sound. I was like WTH is this? I looked at my phone and my 16 y.o. was text messaging me! I didn't even know I could receive text messages on that phone, nor do I know how to send them back! (I'm cell phone illiterate!) His text read "Hi, how are you doing?" It really warmed my heart.

Go and enjoy yourselves!

 

[Blondie]

Forgot to add, our February weekend away was the first time we were ever away from our boys....EVER! In 16 years! I was a bit stressed at first, but once I got on the plane I was good to go!

 

[Sleepy]

When our son was 9, we decided to go to WDW for an "adult only" week. It was the first time we had ever been away longer than a day without him. We thought we would have a blast. Finally go to Pleasure Island, etc. Well, we never got to Pleasure Island. The entire week all we did was say "Wish he was with us", "Wish he could have done that ride" "This is his favorite ride".......you get the picture. I said I would never do that again.