Dessert Party guest list

[stitchfan18]

I tried a search, but I couldn't find anything about this, so if there is already a thread about this and someone can direct me that way i'd really appreciate it.
I would love to have a Illuminations dessert party to end my wedding day, I think it would be something everyone would really enjoy, and from looking at other threads A little over $2000 for 50 guests seems like it would fit into our budget. The problem is we'll have probably closer to 100 guests or more at our wedding, some from Florida and some from out of state. Would it be rude to have a dessert party after the wedding and not invite everyone? I was thinking maybe having a separate smaller invitation just for our family and a few friends from out of state that we're really close to for the dessert party, but we'd probably leave to go to the dessert party from the reception, so people might notice and feel very left out. I just really don't want any hurt feelings on my wedding day. Any suggestions on how to arrange something like this so it's kind of low key, or should I just not have a dessert party at all? Also, is there a maximum number of guests who can go to a dessert party at EPCOT? I figure worse case scenario I might justify the extra $2000 for everyone and lose some of the flowers, but would having 100+ guests even be possible?

 

[Laurafoster]

If your going to be leaving the reception to go to the dessert party the other guests would notice and personally i would feel a bit left out!

It is possible to have 100+ guess at your dessert party! There are ways of limiting the cost though! We cut ours right down by asking everyone to take their park passes which cut out the illuminations viewing fee of $12.50pp.

We customised our food menu slightly so it was only $25pp. You can just stick to the drinks included with that instead of opting for a bar aswell.

 

[lurkyloo]

Yeah, I'd feel totally left out if only some people got to go to the party and I didn't. Laurafoster had some great suggestions. Another would be to hold the dessert party the night before as your rehersal dinner, since those are generally understood to just be for family/people actually in the wedding.

 

[pixie08]

I have to agree. I think it would be noticable if you left with certain guests. Have you considered doing it the day before or the day after? We are doing ours as a welcome party the night before the wedding...that way then you can invite who you want.