Despratly needed guy adcivce!

[Starstruckdancer]

Ok so this kid in my grade is well lets just be strightforward and call him my stalker! So I gave him a nickname one night at a football game. And since then he always followed me around. He offers me things. Offers to buy me food and he bought me a bracelet. Now I don't like him. I probably don't even want to be friends with him. Because hes creepy and he follows me and my friends around...but mainly me. How do I tell him to leave me alone and that I don't like him by being rude?

 

[Sparx]

How old are the both of you?

boys are weird sometimes. He probably doesn't know any other way to tell you he likes you.

Give him a chance. maybe he'll calm down a bit.

 

[Starstruckdancer]

How old are the both of you?

boys are weird sometimes. He probably doesn't know any other way to tell you he likes you.

Give him a chance. maybe he'll calm down a bit.

Hes like 15 and I'm 14.

 

[Sparx]

I say give him a chance. one casual date. You might be surprised.

I don't know where I would be if my boyfriend hadn't given me a chance to surprise him. And now, we're in a great relationship. So go for it.

 

[goofyandplutoluver]

RUN AWAY from him! :]

 

[BandGeek911]

If you don't want to tell him to leave yourself, I say get someone else to tell him for you.

 

[BandGeek911]

RUN AWAY from him! :]

That's a good idea.

 

[Starstruckdancer]

That's a good idea.

Thats we have been doing!

 

[Lil_Tink]

Depends how he is stalking you.

Eventually he will hopefully take the hint.

 

[potcislove]

Don't be mean to him. Eventually he'll get that point that you don't like him, and he'll leave you alone.

 

[TinkerTracy]

Don't be mean to him. Eventually he'll get that point that you don't like him, and he'll leave you alone.

Yeah this seems like a good idea

 

[MissPotatoHead]

Honestly...talk to him one-on-one. Yes, it will feel weird, but trust me. It will work. Just go up to him and say, "Hi ______. I saw you the other day trying to follow me. I was wondering if you had something to say."
OR "Hi ______. I have a question. Uh...one of my friends said you were trying to get to me or tell me something?"

It should help him say at least something...I thinks guys always want to say something but don't bc they don't want to sound dorky.

Let us know how it goes with him tomorrow!!

- steph -

 

[dopeygirl156]

The same thing is happening to me right now, and i've told him a million times in a nice way and he doesn't get it. Just try telling him to please go away and if it doesn't work agter a while i guess you have to really tell him, maybe in a rude way, but be ready that he might hate you.

 

[Starstruckdancer]

Maybe I should tell you the whole story just so you get a feel of how creepy this kid is.
It all started at a football game. (He is in the band and I'm in the color gaurd)
And is was bored and giving everyone nicknames. So I gave him a nickname and gave like 20 other people nicknames also. So the next day in the only class we have together. He just kept talking to me. And talking and talking and talking at fisrt i thought it was funny because he was sooooo obvious. Then on tuesday at band pratice we have a whole free time to go up on the boardwalk and eat dinner and shop. So me and my friends are up there so out of nowhere he comes. He has cuppons to get pizza. So of course we couldn't turn down pizza.So were walking the boardwalk and 3 of my friends want to go on the beach and I wanted to go to a bookstore so of course "He" follows me. So then I go back to the beach...there he is. Me and my friend want to get ice cream. He comes running up flipping out. "Why did you leave me" "Where did you go" and it went on. So the next Friday is the day we have football game. He follows me and my friends to a tocao place. The of course the rest of my friend finish eating before me and my one other friend. Of and "Him". So me and my friend go to get ice cream. And of cousrse invites himself along.He then turns out buying me a bracelet. (I haven't worn it yet). ANd yet he still follows me and talkis to me. I mean if i do go out with him it would be social suicide. I mean I have a pretty good rep. not that I care about social popularity status.
Oh I allmost forgot the day in the chior room. Me and my two other friends were teying to hide from him. So we go into the chior room to hide. But we forgot some of our books in our lockers. So we take the route that he probaby wouldn't take. We turn the corner and look whos there. "HIM". So we tell him were going to our locker and of course follows. We head away from his locker then run down the nearest staircase. And back into the chior room. 10min later we hear his voice out side the room. I hide behind a piano. While my one friend emily checks. Yea hes looking for me. Emily told him i was doing my hw. He said to meet him in the band room when we were done. Needless to say we never met him in the band room.

 

[WORLDwarQUIFFLE]

if you really want to get rid of him, the best thing to do is tell him straightforwardly. He obviously doesn't understand.​

 

[Fillif]

Running away from problems never solved anything, and this is no different. If you keep leading him on then he's going to keep following. Guys are like dogs, they chase things that move. (Sorry guys... figurative.) You need to teach a dog to stop, just like you need to tell this guy you aren't interested.

 

[pacificnorthwester]

For one thing may i just say that that is one of the scariest stalkers I have ever heard of. And I should know. . .I have one of them myself. Try whenever talking to "him", use the minimal amount of niceness without actually being mean. Too nice and they start thinking that if they work harder they could actually have a chance. Be polite, cool, if makes a joke laugh but not too much. Pretty soon he'll see that you don't (and could never) think of him that way. Oh and if you could talk about someone you like when he is within ear shot. Just a suggestion.

 

[dopeygirl156]

Just tell him that you don't like him and to leave you alone

 

[Starstruckdancer]

Stalker strikes again today!
Me and my two friends were going up to the boardwalk toget dinner before the football game. So we hear a voice and guess whos behind us...STALKER!! He follows us to the pizza place then sits with us. I didn't really talk at all I just kept quiet. So then we head to thr fudge shop, guess who elese goes to the fudge shop. So were heading back to the school and he of course is with us. So we start screaming really random stuff. He turns away and says "I need new friends" (when did I become his friend??? I would like to know), "I"m going back to the school" So he gets pretty far and I'm about to dance a dance of joy when he comes back. to us and of course follows us the whole time.
So were loading the buses to go to the game and I have to be on the same bus with the color gaurd. So me and my friend get on it we get in our seat and guess whos sitting in the set across from us...STALKER! So the rest of the time of course hes talking to us and when we get to the game he sits behind me and finds away to talk to me. So its half-time and we have to go to the other teams side and I'm sitting there in my thin color gaurd uniform (I had to take my sweatshirt off) so I'm freezing and a guy is standing beside me and he his holding me keeping me warm and of course STALKER is right behind me. And hes all like "You don't need to keep her warm" and being all rude to the guy whos keeping me warm.
Arrrrr he seriously needs to catch on that I don't like him.
Me and my friend are about ready to get a oic of her cousin and pretend like hes my bf just to leave me alone. I want to get rid of him that badly!

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

Just tell him you're not interested.