Depression :-(

[reid_man]

How do you deal with it? I have been reeeeealy sad recently, really. For a stupid reason too anyway, what do you do?

 

[marypops!]

Supposedly, talking a walk can help depression.

 

[disneydance]

I've suffered from depressing since about 5th grade...
At first I was sent to a counsellor and that really didnt work out...
After I attempeted suicuide in 6th they sent me another one and it really just didnt help...
What really helped me go through a time without it was just looking at the happy parts of life...
Then recently I reattempted suicuide when it came back last summer...
This time around we decided to not do lots of counselling since it just doesnt work for me...
I dont trust others with my issues...
I soon after this went to a retreat which really changed my life...
I still suffer from depression but I've been working through it with someone who I can trust...
Shes a mother of 4 and really cares about me
She has the largest heart ever and has gone through many of the things I've gone through
She gets having parents who may be really wealthy but just dont care if you died...
Who think that money is the answer to life and you just need lots of it to be all good...
She understand the things I've gone through even though she doesnt know much of the types of things I've gone through that lead me to that point in my life I think in her heart she knows...
Slowly I've been revealing lots to her about what I've gone through...
It may not be easy but it really helps...
Try finding someone like this maybe...

 

[chisnpeke]

There's a difference between being depressed and just sad about something.

I honestly think I'm depressed. I just feel like there is a wall that is preventing me from being truly happy. I've felt this way for about a year. I take zoloft, which is used for depression, but I take it for anxiety.

If you truly think you are depressed, you should try and talk to a counselor or something. They can be a help.

 

[Tinkerbell424]

I've suffered from depressing since about 5th grade...
At first I was sent to a counsellor and that really didnt work out...
After I attempeted suicuide in 6th they sent me another one and it really just didnt help...
What really helped me go through a time without it was just looking at the happy parts of life...
Then recently I reattempted suicuide when it came back last summer...
This time around we decided to not do lots of counselling since it just doesnt work for me...
I dont trust others with my issues...
I soon after this went to a retreat which really changed my life...
I still suffer from depression but I've been working through it with someone who I can trust...
Shes a mother of 4 and really cares about me
She has the largest heart ever and has gone through many of the things I've gone through
She gets having parents who may be really wealthy but just dont care if you died...
Who think that money is the answer to life and you just need lots of it to be all good...
She understand the things I've gone through even though she doesnt know much of the types of things I've gone through that lead me to that point in my life I think in her heart she knows...
Slowly I've been revealing lots to her about what I've gone through...
It may not be easy but it really helps...
Try finding someone like this maybe...

There's a difference between being depressed and just sad about something.

I honestly think I'm depressed. I just feel like there is a wall that is preventing me from being truly happy. I've felt this way for about a year. I take zoloft, which is used for depression, but I take it for anxiety.

If you truly think you are depressed, you should try and talk to a counselor or something. They can be a help.

to the both of you.

I was diagnosed with depression around last April. I lost the most important person in my life, but not to death, to jail and some other things.

Reid, I agree with Laura. There is a HUGE difference in being sad and being depressed. If you truly believe you are depressed talk to your parent(s), teacher, counselor, or someone you can trust.

Counseling might help, but it doesnt always help. Journal your thoughts, talk about them with someone you trust, try to surround yourself with things that make you feel good. Depression is not a fun place when your near things that constantly make you feel worse.

Good luck.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Like others have said, there's a difference in being truly depressed and just sad.

If you feel that you are truly depressed, talk to your parents and a counselor.

If you're just sad, then don't sulk in it. Don't walk around thinking how bad your life is. Don't be all 'woe is me'. Get out there and live life. Rejoice in the happy moments.

 

[Babyjustrun]

I have been depressed, although not diagnosed with it as I have never truly had a conversation about my feelings.
For the most part, I haven't been that way since the fall of 07, but slowly I'm becoming incredibly sad and lonely. I'm not depressed, and I'm too scared to commit suicide, or to cut myself. So I just cry, a lot. Anything will make me cry. It's me and myself all the time, I have a bout a billion things I need to say to people, but never do. I've cried everyday this past week. And it sucks, but there's nothing to do. My friends aren't going to listen, and the person i need to scream at, or tell something the most, is avoiding me, or tries to kill a conversation when I start it.
I'm very lonely. My friends aren't people I can talk to. My friends are out having fun. And my family.. well my brother lives no where near me, and my parents have other things to worry about right now.
I'm hurt, I'm constantly sad and miserable, and very alone.

But I'm not convinced I'm depressed yet.

 

[KidGoofy]

How I deal with it is by listening to positive music. Any upbeat thing can get me happy. And meeting new people helps me out to. To me if I am meeting someone new I have to be happy, nice, and upbeat so it puts me in a good mood. And just do something you love or be with someone you love.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

Find something you really enjoy doing. Sports, reading, etc. Consume yourself with things that make you happy. If you surround yourself with things that you love your depression will start to go away. For me it was finding a new series... yes the Twilight series...lol, but I really just fell in love with it, and I didn't worry so much about everything else that pulled me down, it gave me hope for my future...

Most of all never give up, times get hard but it always always gets better, and that is a promise. (though you never believe it at the time)

 

[M.I.C.]

Don't think I've ever had full blown depression, but depression is both a chemical thing and a thing based on events that occur in your life. Music helps, I listen to Whatever It Takes by Joe Budden whenever I get like this, my favorite song of all time, he talks about depression a lot. Always helps...

I guess depression just stepped in, an' took-over **** like it's known ta' do.
Guess it said, "Hey Joe, I'm goin' home with you
Turn your phone off, I needa' be alone with you
I needa' be in the zone with you
'Cause I'm the only thing you prone to, *****
Look, I own you, *****!!
Been wit'chu since 10, but you startin' to confuse me
'Cause it's been so long, an' you still try'na lose me.
Like, how could you show me such cruelty?
When everybody turns their back on you, Joe it's you an' me.
Joe, you don't want me to see you right?
Then why you always come get me, how we re-unite?
Tell me! I know you feel for me deep in your heart;
Doctors, meetings, pills couldn't keep us apart.
But, now you got a deal an' you wanna get rid of me
But.. we're roommates, I'm in your head, Joe you live with me."
So I don't write for the fans, naw', I write to my man
In hopes that he'll just leave an' understand.
Like, like... please leave the kid in peace!
Let me smoke this one cig. in peace
Just leave for a second, man it's been too long, an' I can't troop it
As long as you around, I can't make that "dance music".

Whatever it takes, to find a way, to find a way, to find a way
I'ma do whatever it takes, to find a way, to find a way, to find a way
I'ma do, whatever it takes, to find a way, to find a way, to find a way
Whatever it takes to find a way, to find a way,to find a way

 

[ohdisco]

UGH, I had a huge post and something happened to the server.

Writing and music have been my means for finding sanity. I was diagnosed with depression when I was 12, and diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder when I was 18. While I had been writing my feelings for a while (I started when I was 15 after my therapist found out I was heavily cutting), it didn't quite help with the BPD as much as it had with the PTSD. Writing about how much I hated my ex for stealing my innocence and physically punishing me when I tried to withhold it from him helped me so much. I was able to vent about my issues without having people assume I was over dramatizing everything that happened to me.

With the BPD onset when I was 18, writing really only helps with the impulsive parts of my disorder (like when I feel the need to spend a lot of money, I usually just write down what I want and go back to my journal the next day to see if I still want it). My abandonment issues are a little too extreme for writing or music to cure (my brain causes me to hallucinate to create an environment so whomever I feel is abandoning me feels trapped into staying with me to know I'm safe.), but it also helps some with my extremely erratic mood swings (which shift from happy to angry to sad in a mere hour sometimes, unlike the less frequent mood swings seen with bipolar patients). My intensive outpatient program I was on for a year after I attempted suicide wanted me to write a lot more, which also helped control the mood swings. If I write down what's going on I'm more likely to get over the feeling rather than dwell in it for a period of time.

Music was a big help all throughout though. During my first struggles with mental health listening to my fake emo stuff (haha) really helped get me through hard times. I was very snobby about my music when I my BPD came about (I only listened to obscure indie and electronica), listening to happier music was much more rewarding. It helped me keep a positive outlook instead of focusing on the problems at bay.

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

I had depression for 2 years but for no reason. Depression has no reason really .. you can't just magically wake up and feel better.

It took time. Mostly I met a friend who changed my life and she made me feel
perfect. It took a few months to help me.

 

[Cinderelli16]

I had to go see a counsler for my depression last year.
It was for a serious problem though.

 

[JarethDrakul]

Like said find out if its truely depression or just sadness, even seeing the counselor/counsellor (its spelt differently in america and where I live haha) for sadness can help...though I will not lie sometimes counselor's/counsellor's aren't much help. I've had counselling a few times (once because of some self-harm when I was in year 8, then again in year 10 or 11, and I'm currently having it now in college (though its also for another reason which could be the case of it all for me...)).

I find writing stuff, doing something creative can really help me...like when I'm really in that mood I'll do artwork (I can't draw though haha) but it really helps me. Also listening to certain types of music does too.

 

[Cinderelli16]

Like said find out if its truely depression or just sadness, even seeing the counselor/counsellor (its spelt differently in america and where I live haha) for sadness can help...though I will not lie sometimes counselor's/counsellor's aren't much help. I've had counselling a few times (once because of some self-harm when I was in year 8, then again in year 10 or 11, and I'm currently having it now in college (though its also for another reason which could be the case of it all for me...)).

I find writing stuff, doing something creative can really help me...like when I'm really in that mood I'll do artwork (I can't draw though haha) but it really helps me. Also listening to certain types of music does too.

Yess totally! Sometimes when I'm having a tough day, I get a piece of paper, and I start writing down all of my feelings, and what's bothering me, then once I'm done I rip it up, and it sort of helps.

 

[disneyworldluvr349]

I agree that does help

 

[MrsSparrow..]

Hmm, as other posters have said, there is a major difference in being depressed and being upset.

I was depressed, and it was not a brief period. I think overall it lasted literally about a year. It was due to some really silly friend issues, and I was basically lonely for a whole year. I just went into complete meltdown, wasn't doing too well in school and felt I had no friends. In time, I was okay but it was a horrific year of my life and I wouldn't want to revist that at all.

I got through it though through time. Just try and enjoy life, afterall, you only get one.

 

[Cassidy]

I have been depressed, although not diagnosed with it as I have never truly had a conversation about my feelings.
For the most part, I haven't been that way since the fall of 07, but slowly I'm becoming incredibly sad and lonely. I'm not depressed, and I'm too scared to commit suicide, or to cut myself. So I just cry, a lot. Anything will make me cry. It's me and myself all the time, I have a bout a billion things I need to say to people, but never do. I've cried everyday this past week. And it sucks, but there's nothing to do. My friends aren't going to listen, and the person i need to scream at, or tell something the most, is avoiding me, or tries to kill a conversation when I start it.
I'm very lonely. My friends aren't people I can talk to. My friends are out having fun. And my family.. well my brother lives no where near me, and my parents have other things to worry about right now.
I'm hurt, I'm constantly sad and miserable, and very alone.

But I'm not convinced I'm depressed yet.

Me too.
I'm sad, and lonely, alot. Because, just about eight months ago I lost all my friends. I'm gaining most of them back slowly, but there are two that I want back the most. But they won't budge. I just felt so alive with them. We had so much in common, and then some girl told one of these girls a lie, and she believed her. She never trusted me after that. I didn't even do anything. I can't go to my parents, my sister, or anyone. No counselor, because I tried that in fifth grade (because this one girl was avoiding me, and I found out I didn't even do anything and SHE made a mistake), sixth ( same problem as now ), and this year. But it doesn't help, at all. My parents have huge money problems right now, and they are on the phone 24/7. Especially my dad. I don't think I've seen him off the phone for two weeks straight. I have no real friends to talk to. I have one really great friend, she's funny, nice, but she can also be a pain in my butt. She has a big attitude sometimes, and a big mouth. She can't keep secrets.
I've never cut myself, or attempted suicide, because, I know if I do that, I will know what a stupid mistake it was. Because when I think about it, my life is great. Sure, I don't have the best friends, but I have friends that make me laugh, and that trust me. Music is my heartbeat. When I'm feeling lonely, I just blast some ridiculous Hannah Montana song and sing my heart out, pretending I'm a rock star or something. Sounds silly, but it really makes me feel better.
I'm slowly healing, because just yesterday, this happend.

'Can I have a jelly bean?'
'Hmm, nah.' (She was being sarcastic.)
'I'll be your best friend!'
'You already are, stupid.'

That made my day.



I'll pray for all of you.

 

[EltonJohnFan]

It's okay to feel blue once and awhile, everybody feels that way sometimes. I deffinately do. Try reading a really good book or listening to your favorite song or you can talk to someone you love or trust. I know I sound like one of those pamphlets they end you home with from school but, that stuff really does work trust me,I know.Hope you feel better soon!