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[Moonpie]

Everything will turn out fine once she calms down a bit. Proceed with the wedding you have already started to plan, and take some time to say "thank you" to her every once in a while...which is probably all she felt was lacking. I bet she was calling with so many problems because she wants to be involved, and wants some recognition for what she has contributed...which I understand is not as much as your parents have contributed, but she's a person who needs the constant "Thanks for all you do" affirmation. Next time she comes up with problem, tell her "Okay, so maybe you can help us with this..." I bet she just wants to get involved and doesn't know the appropriate way to do so. If the problem has already been resolved, send her a list of all the items that have been scheduled, or taken care of for the wedding. She might just want to know what's happening with the planning.

I hope I helped in some way. We're all here for you!

 

[sajetto]

I just wanted to say how sorry I am for you

My MIL is not coming to our wedding either after having a huge ordeal. Our situation is really horrific and I'll not get into it, but I know EXACTLY how you feel. So sorry hun.

 

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[UrsulasShadow]

Many moons ago, my MIL attempted to push me into a wedding that I didn't want, and I resisted her efforts. I've never been sorry for standing up for myself, although I do fear it set the tone for our relationship for the past 17 years. Have a discussion with your psychiatrist about all this, and believe in yourself. It's your wedding, and your marriage. Work it out so your sweetie and you are comfortable with the final result. Everyone else matters, but not nearly so much as the two of you. Hang in there!