So the water heater cannot be repaired. Our neighbor who is a licensed hvac guy is installing a new one for $750 tonight. Our floors are ripped up and my first floor looks like a war zone. They found mold...I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy...
We have to have huge fans circulating air for 3 days...
Dh says this is a very fair price.

Everyone, please don't compare labor costs here to your neck of the woods. We are 90 mins from NYC, the epicenter of staggering wages.

What plumbers make (and their costs) cannot be compared to what one would pay in Arkansas, Alabama, etc.
Dh said to ask how long the warranty is on the new water heater as that is usually a guide to what you're paying for with the more expensive ones, assuming you're comparing apples to apples. The parts are basically the same but you pay more for a longer warranty. Then again, most people are not able to benefit from a warranty because they're so short, and even if you can, it's prorated so you don't get much down the road if it should fail.
Even the cheapest 40 gal gas water heater at homedepot.com is $350 with a 6 yr warranty so assuming your neighbor buys at a real plumbing supply shop vs. HD, he is probably getting a better quality than HD's cheapest. Everything at HD is crap quality for homeowners who don't know any better. (Dh like Barton's on Marlkress Rd. but probably plenty more closer to you) HD's more expensive ones were over $600 (again with longer warranty).
So assuming your neighbor gets something mid level, he is making
something but definitely not ripping you off. And if you know him to be a good guy, you trust he will take care of you later if needed.
It absolutely sucks but try to hang in there. Get mold experts and be sure to check if there's a mold coverage on your homeowner's ins. I think some automatically exclude it. I know when we had
AAA it did.
As for your dh being not so handy, we have a different skill set and something to contribute to a marriage and society. My dh is handy but terrible at paying bills, keeping track of anything. We'd have been in foreclosure with no TV, phone, water, heat or electric years ago if finances were under his control.
Me, I hate to cook.



No worries though. My mom says you only have to be good in one room of the house, not every room.
It's all a huge hassle, but remember, no one got hurt.

You're all safe and you will get through it, one step at a time.

(Sorry if this sounds callous; I work in a hospital and see so many incredibly sad things so to me, health is priceless. All the money in the world can't buy it.)