Debate - when should a crying child be taken out of a show/meal/attraction?

[year2late]

I just got back from a Disneyland trip and was quite astounded and frankly annoyed.

I have been taking my child to DL (and various other attractions) since he was a baby. I never gave it a second thought, really. But if he got cranky and started to cry or act up and I could not immediatly console him we were out of there. I always had a plan B. (usually involved a nap, meal, or swimming pool.

We were seeing the stage show of Aladdin a baby started crying with the first loud noise, and continued to cryfor most of the performance. We went back a few days later to catch the show again and a toddler was kicking my sons seat for most of the performance.

We met with the same at sit down resturants as well.

I feel it is rude to keep a screaming baby or a toddler with a tantrum in such areas.

Disney obvously has families in mind, but when is enough - enough?

 

[shortbun]

I voted for "in the first few minutes...." and mostly that's what
we did. I don't really mind if a child is crying a little but screaming
children must be dealt with.
Our last trip to WDW, we saw a child, about 3 who wanted to be
carried and the parents were refusing to carry the child who was
just walking along screaming at the top of their lungs, "Please
Mommy carry me. Please Daddy, carry me" The parents were
totally ignoring this child. They were with a couple other children
who were a lot older and even those children did not attempt to
console this child. DH and I tried to walk in a different direction
but for some reason these people kept showing up where we
were with the same screaming child. It was totally disturbing.
Those people should have been on their way out the gate. Did
I mention that this 3 year old was also pretty sunburned?
Geesh!

 

[shortbun]

I voted for "in the first few minutes...." and mostly that's what
we did. I don't really mind if a child is crying a little but screaming
children must be dealt with.
Our last trip to WDW, we saw a child, about 3 who wanted to be
carried and the parents were refusing to carry the child who was
just walking along screaming at the top of their lungs, "Please
Mommy carry me. Please Daddy, carry me" The parents were
totally ignoring this child. They were with a couple other children
who were a lot older and even those children did not attempt to
console this child. DH and I tried to walk in a different direction
but for some reason these people kept showing up where we
were with the same screaming child. It was totally disturbing.
Those people should have been on their way out the gate. Did
I mention that this 3 year old was also pretty sunburned?
Geesh!

 

[neosnightmare]

being that im 18, i would have to say that i lil screaming aint too bad. but if the baby goes on a tangent, do something. ive been places countless times and the parents do NOTHING. and if i have to pay a lot to get into disney and then more on a meal, something should be done. its common curtisy if u ask me.

 

[Beth76]

I can not---absolutely CAN NOT---stand the sound of kids/babies screaming. It gets to the point where I just want to scream back at them to "SHUT UP", which of course I know wouldn't help. And, yes, I'm a parent. I have a 3yo and a baby due any day now.

So, if baby, or toddler, or small child starts screaming, they should be removed IMMEDIATELY!!!!!

 

[Robinrs]

I also cannot stand it, either. I find it so difficult to ignore a baby's cry and cannot understand how anyone can just let it go on.

 

[crz4mm2]

No debate. Out a there!! THat is one of my pet peeves.

 

[N.Bailey]

Only 1 out of 44 responding so far voted, Why the heck would you bring a baby to Disney? It certainly looks like we all share the same opinion here!

When my children were younger, I would never have even considered making the people around us suffer because my child was in a cranky mood. We were out of there!

 

[Disneymomma]

Immeadiately should have been one of the choices. It is simply not fair to all the other people that have paid good money to enjoy the show. It is the parent's responsibility to tend to the child, and not subject everyone else to the crying/tantrum!

 

[Chattyaholic]

Well, um, I actually wanted to choose that last option because I really have never understood why people WANT to take babies to Disney (or to a movie, or a fancy restaurant, or a wedding, etc.). I guess I just don't "get it" or something....but anyway, I chose to vote for the second option. If a baby cannot be consoled within a minute or so, take the baby out. One of my biggest pet peeves is a parent who refuses to take their baby out and just let them continue to cry, fuss, scream...whatever. It happened at my daughter's wedding, I wanted to strangle the stupid mother!!!

 

[candylover]

I voted for The First Few Minutes...
Our last visit to WDW a young child about 4-5 was SCREAMING!
She was afraid that the Phil Harmagic was going to be dark.
Her parents and grandparent were standing with many others waiting for the door to open...
Boy, was it a long wait. The mother was upset with the father... who was determined to wait to show her IT WAS NOT SCAREY!
It wasn't the childs crying that upset me as much as the parents..
This poor child was so scared she was shaking.. begging her parents to leave.
I wanted to smack the parents in the head with my Pal Mickey!

 

[Kallison]

I go to a Lutheran Church and if any child lets out a peep the Pastor stops his sermon cold. It used to bother me, but all my friends who used to be Catholic love it. They tell me you can't hardly hear the sermon in a Cath. Church because of all the screaming. One day a baby was crying and he stopped, the Mom jumped up and huffed out. My friend in the pew in front of me turned around and deadpanned "Well another new member got her pink slip". I almost fell out of my pew laughing. OK guess you had to be there, they didn't quit coming though -- I ran after them and explained it's really a great church with great people but the Pastor just cannot tolerate kids crying. It's really a bad quirk of his.

 

[Pugdog007]

My response was "why the heck would you take a baby to Disney!"

And furthermore... why would you take a baby on a plane? I fly a lot... and am so sick of babies crying throughout the entire flight! It's irresponsible and inconsiderate for parents to take babies on planes.

 

[TheBellhop]

:dons flame resistant suit:
Wow..some of you people can be cold! It's a baby for crying out loud...no pun intended! I mean come on! These parents payed money to get into the park, and they deserve to get their money's worth! I must agree with you though on why would you bring a baby on a plane and to WDW..that would be tough on the baby's ears and it would get hot and uncomfortable. And with that Lutheran church thing, excuse me, but just because a baby lets out a cry doesn't mean the lady should have to suffer the consequences. It's not really the baby's fault either! It can't decide, "Oh I think I should just cry right here because it would be convienient!" And that priest should be the understanding one! Crying isn't exactly music to MY ears but please try to understand! Ok...*steps down from the soapbox* that's my two cents...sorry if I might have offended anyone!

 

[MosMom]

I give E a few minutes to calm down...if he is scared or can't calm down then we will leave immediately. I at least give him the chance to calm down and most of the time he does. However, if he is screaming at a loud noise...it is probably because it scares him and I don't want him to be scared so I am leaving for his benefit as well as the people around me! I'm not going to force him through a show scared just because I want to see it.

 

[peachgirl]

I voted for a few minutes but would have preferred an immediately choice. A child screaming for several minutes is enough to drive anyone (at least anyone who isn't the child's parents) insane!

 

[cynsaun]

For the first 4 years of our youngest daughter's life, I had to take her out of EVERY public place we visited! She screamed for no reason at all!

Since I had that respect for others around us, I get angry when people allow their kids to scream and throw fits that I have to listen to it!

 

[tmfranlk]

I would (and do) take DD out in the first few minutes. Actually, it is probably more like somewhere between immediately and first few minutes. I give her a minute to calm down, but if she can't then I take her right out. Like MosMom said, I take her out as much for her own benefit as for those around us. DD deserves my full attention and the removal of whatever is bothering her. If she wants to go back in, then we will. Otherwise, we will just stay away from the show/restaurant/whatever.


To combat MY biggest baby-at-the-parks pet peeve, I also sit on the end of a row so that if DD should need to leave, I don't have to walk in front of everyone around us to do so. (And yes, I do place myself in line so that I fall at the end of the row instead of just stopping in front of everyone.)

 

[Disney Doll]

I would say that if the child cannot be consoled within the first couple of minutes, then parent should leave with child.

 

[MHopkins2]

I'm SO happy to see the responses in this thread (other than one particular one but what can you do?) ! I voted for "first few minutes," but would have preferred "immediately, unless it's a meal with only one adult, in which case immediately after paying." (Not too picky, am I? )