MaryAnnDVC
"Mare", DISing since '99; prefers being tagless
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I'm so sorry about your mother.Nutsy said:My Mum passed away just over a week ago and hasn't been well for the past 18 months, we normally take a family holiday in September, but this year didn't...one reason being that after being away (non even in the same country) when my Dad passed away, I was reluctant to go away when I knew my Mum was far from well. I didn't want history repeating itself.

I was SHOCKED when my MIL and FIL went on a planned cruise when my MIL's mother was very sick. They had already been called to the nursing home a couple of times. But Granny didn't die for a few more years. Really gave me something to think about.
My Dad had his 3rd heart attack in August '96. After that, his health was a roller-coaster of good days and bad days. It was extremely stressful for us all, and with 3 kids of my own...8, 6, and 3 at the time...and trying to juggle being there for Mom and Dad too, I desperately wanted to get away from it all and focus on my own family. So, we went on our 1st trip to WDW in November '97. I told Mom, and my sister who was staying there, that I wouldn't be calling to check in...I knew already that things weren't good and it would only stress me out completely, and that in turn would affect the kids, and we all needed a break and some stress free enjoyment in our lives...but gave them every available way of contacting me. (They had an excellent support system of wonderful neighbors too.) Had he passed away while we were on vacation, I would have flown back immediately, and had DH and the kids come back in time for the funeral, or all of us together...whatever we could work out. And Dad thought it was great that we went to WDW.

As it turned out, Dad passed away 10 months later, in September '98.