I just want to thank you for the reply, I have talked with my Neurologist about my options, My problem is caused by a form of spinal stenosis, The nerves in my c3-c4 have a calcium build up do to an old injury, which over time has blocked the nerves from feeding the nerve cells in turn causing the cells to die, but the muscles still work and there is a chance that once the calcium build up has been removed and with a strict vitamin diet its possible that I will get control back, So the Dr doesn't want to do an ostomy or have me use a catheter, once I do either i will be taking the working muscles out of the loop and it will be very hard to reverse. As of now my system works fine, the problem is my brain doesn't get the signal when I need to go nor can it send the message to stop when i do go, its like its unplugged. But The Dr is pretty confident I will get control back though it may take a long time,when the obstruction gets cleared and the nerve cells regenerate I will be normal again. Though no guarantees.
So as embarrassing and uncomfortable as it may be Diapers are my best option.