DIS Dads DDC XXI - Passing Time Until Our Next Trip

[declansdad]

Morning Gents!

We watched an old episode of Cake Boss on NetFlix last night. They were at WDW for the Wine and Food Festival. His cannolis looked delicious; we really need to get down for that festival.

 

[mm1971]

Morning, all!

Quick story to spark discussion. So I was vacationing last week with some of my oldest friends. Folks from college that I've literally known for 25 years and their kids (DW and I went to college together and although we had overlapping friends, never dated until years after college, she was a year ahead of me in school).

My wife spent some time talking to one of my buddies wife who confided that they haven't slept in the same bed in years. He falls asleep on the couch working and stays there all night. (Being a guy, I would have never had this detailed a discussion with the husband...) I was horrified at this and couldn't imagine not having a husband and wife sleep in the same bed, but DW thinks that this probably happens in a lot of marraiges (husband snoring, people wanting their space, etc) and does not mean that their marraige in danger.

Hey Chris,

We have friends who sleep seperately, mostly because thier 2 girls always seem to be sleeping with the mom and the dad ends up (smartly) sleeping elsewhere. My DW uncle and Aunt have not slept together for years due to snoring. TMI, but for some reason people like to talk about these things. Both couples seem happy and content. I guess it depends on the individuals involved.

 

[RodBelding]

Morning, all!

Quick story to spark discussion. So I was vacationing last week with some of my oldest friends. Folks from college that I've literally known for 25 years and their kids (DW and I went to college together and although we had overlapping friends, never dated until years after college, she was a year ahead of me in school).

My wife spent some time talking to one of my buddies wife who confided that they haven't slept in the same bed in years. He falls asleep on the couch working and stays there all night. (Being a guy, I would have never had this detailed a discussion with the husband...) I was horrified at this and couldn't imagine not having a husband and wife sleep in the same bed, but DW thinks that this probably happens in a lot of marraiges (husband snoring, people wanting their space, etc) and does not mean that their marraige in danger.

What do you guys think? How often does this happen? And can sleeping separately be a normal and acceptable part of a good/healthy marraige?

Heavy topic Doc! Good one though!

Personally I can't see it being healthy if it's an every night type thing. Once in a while makes sense, especially if one partner is sick, etc. but I would think that would be the extent of it. I think you gain a lot by sharing the same room/bed. Heck, it's about the only alone time we get with 2 little ones.


Full disclosure, I'm closing in on 8 years of marriage (2 weeks away actually ), so in 10-20 years my opinion could radically change (and I'm guessing DW's def will! )

 

[DisDadDoc]

TMI, but for some reason people like to talk about these things.

But talking about these things is so much fun!

Heavy topic Doc! Good one though!

Personally I can't see it being healthy if it's an every night type thing. Once in a while makes sense, especially if one partner is sick, etc. but I would think that would be the extent of it. I think you gain a lot by sharing the same room/bed. Heck, it's about the only alone time we get with 2 little ones.


Full disclosure, I'm closing in on 8 years of marriage (2 weeks away actually ), so in 10-20 years my opinion could radically change (and I'm guessing DW's def will! )

I actually agree with both of you, that it can be normal, but I think it starts you down a potentially bad path.

 

[FreezinRafiki]

Morning, all!

Quick story to spark discussion. So I was vacationing last week with some of my oldest friends. Folks from college that I've literally known for 25 years and their kids (DW and I went to college together and although we had overlapping friends, never dated until years after college, she was a year ahead of me in school).

My wife spent some time talking to one of my buddies wife who confided that they haven't slept in the same bed in years. He falls asleep on the couch working and stays there all night. (Being a guy, I would have never had this detailed a discussion with the husband...) I was horrified at this and couldn't imagine not having a husband and wife sleep in the same bed, but DW thinks that this probably happens in a lot of marraiges (husband snoring, people wanting their space, etc) and does not mean that their marraige in danger.

What do you guys think? How often does this happen? And can sleeping separately be a normal and acceptable part of a good/healthy marraige?

What do you mean, Chris? DW and I have separate twin sized beds, just like Lucy and Desi did.

Personally, I can't see doing it, but DW's grandparents had separate bedrooms for years. Each couple had different quirks - heck, I've heard of married couples where each spouse has their own house. But I agree, this is a path that leads to people away from each other and long term, probably isn't the best for the marriage.

 

[declansdad]

Whoa. That's crossing a line buddy!

When someone takes a shot at my nation, I fire back at theirs.

 

[scott2997]

OK.....well....

So how 'bout them Bears????

 

[wasnotafan]

...What do you guys think? How often does this happen? And can sleeping separately be a normal and acceptable part of a good/healthy marraige?

I slept alone all summer while the family was up north. Last night they were all back and had the worst night of sleep in months. Doesn't help that SWMBO brought back the 24 hour bug discussed a few pages back within an hour of walking in the door.

Overall it depends on the couple. I know someone whose snoring causes lack of sleep quit a bit for the other individual.

 

[baseballmickey]

Hey Dads!!

I'mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!

Got back home at 5pm last night, spent a half hour at home before catching a train to go to work. I was an hour late, but I don't think anyone noticed.

I'm sure I missed a lot the past 2 weeks. Hope everyone is doing well.

I've got a TON of photos to go through, along with videos, and then I'll get the TR started.

DW and I discussed our future vacation plans while on the trip. We seem to have solidified the fall 2013 trip, just waiting on her school schedule to be released so we can see where the holidays fall. (DW does not want to take time off). AND... we've decided we want to cruise again in 2014!! That kind of works in that we would pay for the cruise out-of-pocket and bank our 2014 points into 2015 for our Disneyland/Aulani trip.

very exciting and takes the edge off of being home.

 

[Captain_Oblivious]

Quick story to spark discussion. So I was vacationing last week with some of my oldest friends. Folks from college that I've literally known for 25 years and their kids (DW and I went to college together and although we had overlapping friends, never dated until years after college, she was a year ahead of me in school).

My wife spent some time talking to one of my buddies wife who confided that they haven't slept in the same bed in years. He falls asleep on the couch working and stays there all night. (Being a guy, I would have never had this detailed a discussion with the husband...) I was horrified at this and couldn't imagine not having a husband and wife sleep in the same bed, but DW thinks that this probably happens in a lot of marraiges (husband snoring, people wanting their space, etc) and does not mean that their marraige in danger.

What do you guys think? How often does this happen? And can sleeping separately be a normal and acceptable part of a good/healthy marraige?

I have no idea how often it happens, but I know that it does happen. You always want to be careful applying a one-size-fits-all solution to a problem, but I don't think it is good for the marriage long term.

 

[Twin Dad]

Hey Dads!!

I'mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!

Got back home at 5pm last night, spent a half hour at home before catching a train to go to work. I was an hour late, but I don't think anyone noticed.

I'm sure I missed a lot the past 2 weeks. Hope everyone is doing well.

I've got a TON of photos to go through, along with videos, and then I'll get the TR started.

DW and I discussed our future vacation plans while on the trip. We seem to have solidified the fall 2013 trip, just waiting on her school schedule to be released so we can see where the holidays fall. (DW does not want to take time off). AND... we've decided we want to cruise again in 2014!! That kind of works in that we would pay for the cruise out-of-pocket and bank our 2014 points into 2015 for our Disneyland/Aulani trip.

very exciting and takes the edge off of being home.

Welcome back

 

[RodBelding]

Hey Dads!!

I'mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!

Got back home at 5pm last night, spent a half hour at home before catching a train to go to work. I was an hour late, but I don't think anyone noticed.

I'm sure I missed a lot the past 2 weeks. Hope everyone is doing well.

I've got a TON of photos to go through, along with videos, and then I'll get the TR started.

DW and I discussed our future vacation plans while on the trip. We seem to have solidified the fall 2013 trip, just waiting on her school schedule to be released so we can see where the holidays fall. (DW does not want to take time off). AND... we've decided we want to cruise again in 2014!! That kind of works in that we would pay for the cruise out-of-pocket and bank our 2014 points into 2015 for our Disneyland/Aulani trip.

very exciting and takes the edge off of being home.

Welcome back. Glad you had a good trip.

 

[DisDadDoc]

Hey Dads!!

I'mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaack!

Got back home at 5pm last night, spent a half hour at home before catching a train to go to work. I was an hour late, but I don't think anyone noticed.

I'm sure I missed a lot the past 2 weeks. Hope everyone is doing well.

I've got a TON of photos to go through, along with videos, and then I'll get the TR started.

DW and I discussed our future vacation plans while on the trip. We seem to have solidified the fall 2013 trip, just waiting on her school schedule to be released so we can see where the holidays fall. (DW does not want to take time off). AND... we've decided we want to cruise again in 2014!! That kind of works in that we would pay for the cruise out-of-pocket and bank our 2014 points into 2015 for our Disneyland/Aulani trip.

very exciting and takes the edge off of being home.

Welcome back!

I have no idea how often it happens, but I know that it does happen. You always want to be careful applying a one-size-fits-all solution to a problem, but I don't think it is good for the marriage long term.

You guys are all being too reasonable! I expected some fireworks!

Oh, well, I'll bring up something more controversial next time...maybe double booking dining reservations? Or whether DVC is worthwhile?

 

[Emma's Dad]

Hi Guys. Have been wandering around the boards for a while now, just starting to post here and there. Family of 4, Me, somewhat DW(she is coming around slowly), DS12 and DD9. Last trip was for a baseball tournament at ESPN in May. Next trip not planned yet, but most likely 2014 when all of FLE is open. Live in MA. I believe I meet at least 72 of the criteria, maybe more. Been 4 times as a child, 7 times with random family and friends.

Next event is a Nightmare Before Xmas 10th birthday party for DD in October.

Welcome to the club! Sorry it's taken so long to officially get your number to you. What's your first name anyway?
You are member # 714!

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[Emma's Dad]

Hello men! It's been quite a while since I checked in here. This week has been a blur with everything that's been going on. Moved into a new-to-me office space on Thursday and I'm just now getting settles in. Didn't even have a network connection Friday and Monday. Not only did I change locations, but they want me to start doing different stuff. Now the learning curve kicks in.

After a little drama and over a week of waiting I finally have the new-to-me Cadillac registered and plates on it. Looking forward to driving it on the road daily soon. Here's my new ride:

Guess it's time to go back through 20 pages and catch up

 

[DisDadDoc]

Hello men! It's been quite a while since I checked in here. This week has been a blur with everything that's been going on. Moved into a new-to-me office space on Thursday and I'm just now getting settles in. Didn't even have a network connection Friday and Monday. Not only did I change locations, but they want me to start doing different stuff. Now the learning curve kicks in.

After a little drama and over a week of waiting I finally have the new-to-me Cadillac registered and plates on it. Looking forward to driving it on the road daily soon. Here's my new ride:

Guess it's time to go back through 20 pages and catch up

Nice car, Don!

Good luck with the new job!

 

[DisneyFed]

Be careful when you are out there fishing:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B10rHSW4OIA&feature=player_embedded

All the more reason to stick to fishing fresh water...

Hell's Kitchen. One day I'll try a scallops app and beef Wellington at a Chef Ramsey restaurant.

I've always wondered what's going on with some of these contestants...I mean, aren't they Chefs already? And they can't cook simple stuff? Heck, you'd think after all these years they'd brush up on their risotto BEFORE actually getting screamed at by Gordon...

No way I step foot in that place the first few nights...

Morning, all!

Quick story to spark discussion. So I was vacationing last week with some of my oldest friends. Folks from college that I've literally known for 25 years and their kids (DW and I went to college together and although we had overlapping friends, never dated until years after college, she was a year ahead of me in school).

My wife spent some time talking to one of my buddies wife who confided that they haven't slept in the same bed in years. He falls asleep on the couch working and stays there all night. (Being a guy, I would have never had this detailed a discussion with the husband...) I was horrified at this and couldn't imagine not having a husband and wife sleep in the same bed, but DW thinks that this probably happens in a lot of marraiges (husband snoring, people wanting their space, etc) and does not mean that their marraige in danger.

What do you guys think? How often does this happen? And can sleeping separately be a normal and acceptable part of a good/healthy marraige?

You know, it's never even been a consideration with us.

Even after 7 month deployments...

You are hereby banned from making any further "Spinner" comments in regard to my boat

 

[DisneyFed]

Oh...and....

 

[ClearScreen]

Two days to go!!!

 

[middlepat]

Hello men! It's been quite a while since I checked in here. This week has been a blur with everything that's been going on. Moved into a new-to-me office space on Thursday and I'm just now getting settles in. Didn't even have a network connection Friday and Monday. Not only did I change locations, but they want me to start doing different stuff. Now the learning curve kicks in.

After a little drama and over a week of waiting I finally have the new-to-me Cadillac registered and plates on it. Looking forward to driving it on the road daily soon. Here's my new ride:

Guess it's time to go back through 20 pages and catch up

Congrats on getting settled into the new office and the nice new ride.

Just curious, how many bodies fit in that trunk? (Fed, is that a spec you guys track?)