DDA Chapter 4

[bear74]

Any advice?

Lizzy drew a nasty picture of Joe that was anatomically correct with a nasty worded tatoo. Problem is it doesn't look like Joe as he's never been circumcised and she's never seen DH naked. SO...where did she get it?

I asked her but she insisted she's seen him. I told her that wasn't true and she said she's seen other naked boys. Where? Just out. I told her she could think about telling me the truth and I would think about her punishment is she doesn't.

I just don't know what to do.

no advice just

 

[Tammi67]

Bernadette - how old is Lizzy again?

 

[UP Disney]

Any advice?

Lizzy drew a nasty picture of Joe that was anatomically correct with a nasty worded tatoo. Problem is it doesn't look like Joe as he's never been circumcised and she's never seen DH naked. SO...where did she get it?

I asked her but she insisted she's seen him. I told her that wasn't true and she said she's seen other naked boys. Where? Just out. I told her she could think about telling me the truth and I would think about her punishment is she doesn't.

I just don't know what to do.

I have no advice on this one as having two girls I have never had to deal with anything like this.

 

[lovesdumbo]

OK just how stupid does she think I am? She tried to tell me she did it by seeing Joe and I explained to her that wasn't right since he doesn't look like that. Now she tells me she saw a little boy getting his diaper changed. So she's seen Joe naked something like 500 times and she draws it like a little boy she saw one time?????

I told her I didn't believe her so she went to her room.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

Im headed to bed early again tonight...we only had 14 kids in my class today--5 or6 were out sick! No wonder im sick!

We are supposed to get some bad weather tonight so if yo uare too, be careful out there!

goodnight!

 

[lovesdumbo]

Bernadette - how old is Lizzy again?

She'll be 9 in May.



I guess I should tell you guys that she had a playdate with a girl yesterday who is an only child that turned 8 on New Year's Eve so she's in 2nd grade not 3rd grade with Lizzy. The girl lives a few miles away but last summer her really nice grandmother rented the house next to us.

One day the girl told Joe he should cut off his organ and give it to her.

We told Lizzy that we wouldn't tolerate her friends talking to her brother like that and nothing else like that happened. I've only met her mom a few times and she seems nice-not like a fruitcake. I don't think I've met her father.

The grandmother is coming back this summer too.

 

[Tammi67]

She'll be 9 in May.



I guess I should tell you guys that she had a playdate with a girl yesterday who is an only child that turned 8 on New Year's Eve so she's in 2nd grade not 3rd grade with Lizzy. The girl lives a few miles away but last summer her really nice grandmother rented the house next to us.

One day the girl told Joe he should cut off his organ and give it to her.

We told Lizzy that we wouldn't tolerate her friends talking to her brother like that and nothing else like that happened. I've only met her mom a few times and she seems nice-not like a fruitcake. I don't think I've met her father.

The grandmother is coming back this summer too.

That's very strange.

I'm sorry, Bernadette, I don't have any advice. Maybe take this opportunity to talk with Lizzy about anatomy and so forth. She obviously is getting curious, I suppose. But it would really bother me wondering where she got the idea to draw it, and draw it the way she did. Hopefully she will communicate with you.

 

[lovesdumbo]

Im headed to bed early again tonight...we only had 14 kids in my class today--5 or6 were out sick! No wonder im sick!

We are supposed to get some bad weather tonight so if yo uare too, be careful out there!

goodnight!

Hope you can get better soon!

That's very strange.

I'm sorry, Bernadette, I don't have any advice. Maybe take this opportunity to talk with Lizzy about anatomy and so forth. She obviously is getting curious, I suppose. But it would really bother me wondering where she got the idea to draw it, and draw it the way she did. Hopefully she will communicate with you.

Thanks!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

$254 plus tax per night Sun thru Thurs 2/24-3/13, savings of $116. $204 plus tax per night Sun thru Thurs 3/30-4/10, savings of $111.

Not that cheap, is it? Also not during a time I am planning to be at WDW.

Any advice?

Lizzy drew a nasty picture of Joe that was anatomically correct with a nasty worded tatoo. Problem is it doesn't look like Joe as he's never been circumcised and she's never seen DH naked. SO...where did she get it?

I asked her but she insisted she's seen him. I told her that wasn't true and she said she's seen other naked boys. Where? Just out. I told her she could think about telling me the truth and I would think about her punishment is she doesn't.

I just don't know what to do.

Good heavens! I have no clue where to go with that one! I know it's not funny, but I have to kind of laugh.
I know in DS's preschool they had a bathroom in the classroom and I saw PLENTY of naked bottoms because they would leave the door open. A former charge was just hopeless at toileting and would walk around with his pants at his ankles at school. But those kids are much younger than Lizzy.
In my almost 15 years of changing diapers I have found that boys' parts tend to splay out and not look like much to anyone passing by, so I am not going withthe diaper story, either.
I don't know if you will gain anything by punishing her for not telling you how she knows, and if she knows what naked boys look like for a bad reason then you don't want to scare her out of telling you. Maybe sit down with her one on one and tell her you are NOT angry, that you were surprised. Then tell her you want to know who has parts like that (that she has seen) and assure her that she won't be in trouble for telling you.
From there you can tackle that it isn't appropriate to draw naked renditions of your younger brother, accurate or not.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Jen - Susan said they had about 70 kids out sick from their preschool today! Her boys are sick with what she suspects is flu.

 

[UP Disney]

OK just how stupid does she think I am? She tried to tell me she did it by seeing Joe and I explained to her that wasn't right since he doesn't look like that. Now she tells me she saw a little boy getting his diaper changed. So she's seen Joe naked something like 500 times and she draws it like a little boy she saw one time?????

I told her I didn't believe her so she went to her room.

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Sometimes it can be innocent but you can never be too careful.

 

[UP Disney]

Good heavens! I have no clue where to go with that one! I know it's not funny, but I have to kind of laugh.
I know in DS's preschool they had a bathroom in the classroom and I saw PLENTY of naked bottoms because they would leave the door open. A former charge was just hopeless at toileting and would walk around with his pants at his ankles at school. But those kids are much younger than Lizzy.
In my almost 15 years of changing diapers I have found that boys' parts tend to splay out and not look like much to anyone passing by, so I am not going withthe diaper story, either.
I don't know if you will gain anything by punishing her for not telling you how she knows, and if she knows what naked boys look like for a bad reason then you don't want to scare her out of telling you. Maybe sit down with her one on one and tell her you are NOT angry, that you were surprised. Then tell her you want to know who has parts like that (that she has seen) and assure her that she won't be in trouble for telling you.
From there you can tackle that it isn't appropriate to draw naked renditions of your younger brother, accurate or not.

Great advice Elizabeth.

 

[Tammi67]

Good heavens! I have no clue where to go with that one! I know it's not funny, but I have to kind of laugh.
I know in DS's preschool they had a bathroom in the classroom and I saw PLENTY of naked bottoms because they would leave the door open. A former charge was just hopeless at toileting and would walk around with his pants at his ankles at school. But those kids are much younger than Lizzy.
In my almost 15 years of changing diapers I have found that boys' parts tend to splay out and not look like much to anyone passing by, so I am not going withthe diaper story, either.
I don't know if you will gain anything by punishing her for not telling you how she knows, and if she knows what naked boys look like for a bad reason then you don't want to scare her out of telling you. Maybe sit down with her one on one and tell her you are NOT angry, that you were surprised. Then tell her you want to know who has parts like that (that she has seen) and assure her that she won't be in trouble for telling you.
From there you can tackle that it isn't appropriate to draw naked renditions of your younger brother, accurate or not.

I like this advice.

 

[Tammi67]

Well the snow has started. We are supposed to have 1-3 inches by morning and then ice/wintry mix all day tomorrow. I wish they would just cancel school and get it over with. I just hope it doesn't last through Saturday, since Nicholas has his 1st Penance. I don't want to chance the fact that it gets rescheduled for a weekend that he is with his dad.

 

[lovesdumbo]

Good heavens! I have no clue where to go with that one! I know it's not funny, but I have to kind of laugh.
I know in DS's preschool they had a bathroom in the classroom and I saw PLENTY of naked bottoms because they would leave the door open. A former charge was just hopeless at toileting and would walk around with his pants at his ankles at school. But those kids are much younger than Lizzy.
In my almost 15 years of changing diapers I have found that boys' parts tend to splay out and not look like much to anyone passing by, so I am not going withthe diaper story, either.
I don't know if you will gain anything by punishing her for not telling you how she knows, and if she knows what naked boys look like for a bad reason then you don't want to scare her out of telling you. Maybe sit down with her one on one and tell her you are NOT angry, that you were surprised. Then tell her you want to know who has parts like that (that she has seen) and assure her that she won't be in trouble for telling you.
From there you can tackle that it isn't appropriate to draw naked renditions of your younger brother, accurate or not.

My first reaction when I saw the drawing of a naked Joe with an "I love my organ" tatoo was to laugh (not in her sight). But the more I think about it the more worried I am about where she got the idea. I asked her how she knew how to spell the word-I would have thought she'd use "pea" but she didn't respond. She just shuts down and you can't make her talk.

I did tell that if she told me the truth she would NOT be punished.

Jen - Susan said they had about 70 kids out sick from their preschool today! Her boys are sick with what she suspects is flu.

Sounds like she needs a trip to Disney. If she went in August she would have lots of time to plan the trip and the planning can be half the fun!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Well the snow has started. We are supposed to have 1-3 inches by morning and then ice/wintry mix all day tomorrow. I wish they would just cancel school and get it over with. I just hope it doesn't last through Saturday, since Nicholas has his 1st Penance. I don't want to chance the fact that it gets rescheduled for a weekend that he is with his dad.

Well, it's your fault, you know. You and that groundhog.
Kidding aside, I hope things aren't too slippery and that it is all clear by Saturday!

 

[Tammi67]

Well, it's your fault, you know. You and that groundhog.
Kidding aside, I hope things aren't too slippery and that it is all clear by Saturday!

Yeah, that stupid groundhog!

 

[lovesdumbo]

I don't think she has actually seen an older naked boy. I think she has seen someone elses drawing of one.

It is a strong coincidence that she spent the morning with the only one of her friends who had been inappropriate in the past.

 

[PNO4TE]

Just out of curiosity, has anyone stayed at CBR? It looks very spread out, but beautiful.

We have... twice. Both times we requested and got rooms in the Jamaica section and loved it there.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

My first reaction when I saw the drawing of a naked Joe with an "I love my organ" tatoo was to laugh (not in her sight). But the more I think about it the more worried I am about where she got the idea. I asked her how she knew how to spell the word-I would have thought she'd use "pea" but she didn't respond. She just shuts down and you can't make her talk.

I did tell that if she told me the truth she would NOT be punished.


Sounds like she needs a trip to Disney. If she went in August she would have lots of time to plan the trip and the planning can be half the fun!

In first grade DS got in trouble for telling one of his classmates to ADD that particular piece to one of his drawings. And contrary to all the "expert" advice to always teach your children the proper anatomical names for things we never used the "p" word so I didn't even know DS knew that word. And this was a small private school! Maybe the boys in her class have been drawing and/or saying things like that and she just doesn't realize it isn't the sort of thing one discusses in polite company.

I think Susan really misses working. I know she misses the income. I don't want to push the Disney issue because I really don't know where they are financially. Her DH was able to transfer to the place that bought out his old employer, but she said he is working crazy hours and she is worried he will catch the flu from the boys.