DD15's boyfriend joining us?

[Merriwind]

Add me to all the no votes--no way! Beyond all the boy issues, I wouldn't take anyone. Three can be a rtough number and with a boyfriend (or girl friend) along, I fear you would end up being the third wheel and left out of a lot. I hope that this trip can be a nice mom-daughter time for you--get every minute of that you can!

Enjoy!

 

[Deb & Bill]

My 13 yr old son's two best friends are both girls. He's known them since he was in Kindergarten and we know the families pretty well, too. One of the girls is moving away at the end of the school year. We planned a trip to WDW in June and he asked if he could bring them. We were planning on getting a two bedroom villa at OKW and give the two girls the second bedroom. They would have their own beds and their own bathroom. He'd get the sleeper sofa and would share our bathroom.

Well, one family said it would be okay. The other thought and thought and decided that she was really too young. We told them that was fine and maybe we could do it again some other time when the kids are older.

If you can't get the boy to sleep in a separate room as the females in the family, I wouldn't do it. Also, I would insist that the kids would stay with the family for going around the parks. That's what my son and his friends would have been required to do.

 

[marcyinPA]

Absolutely NO WAY! And as a parent of two boys, if they were invited at the age of 15 on a trip with their girlfriend, the answer would be NO. Then again, we're known in our "circle" as being the "conservative ones"....

 

[mouseketeer_mom]

I have a slightly different opinion than most posters. Although I think sharing a hotel room makes it just too uncomfortable for everyone, especially you, I don't think just being 15 automatically makes this a "no". Under different circumstances and different sleeping arrangements, as a parent, I would consider it.

My boyfriend came with my family for our annual beach trek the summer I turned 16. And every summer thereafter for the next 5 years. He obviously slept in a different room. (usually with my brother) For me, it was more like having my best friend with me. He truly joined my family on vacation. It wasn't just time for he and I to spend together.

Now, if you do the math, you'll notice that I was 21 when he and I decided it best to go our seperate ways. He was 22 at the time. So, some more ... ummm, grown up things were going on between us later in the relationship. But NEVER on vacation. We both had way too much respect for my parents. Funny, looking back on it, I don't think I ever exchanged more than a quick peck with him with my parents around.

I guess what I'm saying is that, for me, I'd consider my DS or DD, their girlfriend/boyfriend and what kind of vacation we had planned. I know my opinion is different from a lot of others but I don't think it's unreasonable to at least consider it.

 

[Sugardimples]

I'm seeing this from a different angle. What would concern me most is how having her boyfriend along would change the dynamic of the vacation. Instead of this being a special time for the two of you it could easily become a special time for THEM and a stressful time for you. I encourage the two of you to enjoy this time - it won't be long until she is an adult with a life of her own. The memories you make together now are very precious.

 

[Zoemakes5]

When I was 16, I was allowed to take my boyfriend on an extended family trip. The entire family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.) was meeting in Las Vegas. I'm an only grandchild with that side of the family. My parents let my boyfriend come and there were no issues at all.
When I had custody of my cousin for 7 years (from 12-19) she had boy friends come with us on many occasions. She also went with her boyfriend's family on a number of occasions. It worked out great for us.
And, honestly, it was a parenting choice in both situations. It was our choice. Wouldn't work with everybody, but it worked with us. Had I not wanted to have him come, he wouldn't. Honestly, dealing with him was a lot easier to deal with than another girl would have been! They get so dang emotional at that age.
So, I guess what I'm saying is that if YOU feel okay about it, and you would be interested in doing it, go ahead. If you don't want to do it, don't feel it's right for you, then feel empowered to say no, that you just don't feel comfortable. If you feel cajolled or manipulated, you may want to say no to avoid this being a power play.

 

[daisyduck123]

I'm wondering if the OP is even being serious asking a question like that or just trying to . Why would anyone think their 15yo DD needed to bring her boyfriend & have him stay in the SAME room? Good grief!!

 

[DawnMarie]

I agree with everyone esle. No way I would take her boyfriend, I just think it is inappropiate. I think as parents we need to be able to tell our children no without feeling guilty. It is our job to steer them in the right direction whether they like it or not.

 

[I Love Pluto]

Pop's rooms are entirely too small for a non-family member to bunk with you. No way! No!

 

[lil mermaid]

I wouldn't even consider it for a number of reasons...not the least of which is that I find the idea of sharing a hotel room and bathroom with a 15 year old unrelated boy well....icky.

 

[Allison]

I wouldn't even consider it.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

I went with my bestfriend/bf at 14. Let me just say "don't do it!"

 

[disneyjunkie]

No way

 

[BonSchwe]

Thanks to everyone that posted because it just backed up everything I was feeling but was still unsure. Somebody had posted if I was just trying to but in this world of boy/girl sleepovers and more relaxed attitudes of boy/girl interaction I wanted to make sure that I wasn't off base. I was raised by my grandparents and sometimes feel that I'm already "off" a generation in my views. Looks like it's going to be DD15 and myself for a ladies only trip.

 

[Allison]

Thanks to everyone that posted because it just backed up everything I was feeling but was still unsure. Somebody had posted if I was just trying to but in this world of boy/girl sleepovers and more relaxed attitudes of boy/girl interaction I wanted to make sure that I wasn't off base. I was raised by my grandparents and sometimes feel that I'm already "off" a generation in my views. Looks like it's going to be DD15 and myself for a ladies only trip.

You are NOT off base at all.

 

[JERSEYGIRLINSI]

Wouldn't even consider it for a second.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Thanks to everyone that posted because it just backed up everything I was feeling but was still unsure. Somebody had posted if I was just trying to but in this world of boy/girl sleepovers and more relaxed attitudes of boy/girl interaction I wanted to make sure that I wasn't off base. I was raised by my grandparents and sometimes feel that I'm already "off" a generation in my views. Looks like it's going to be DD15 and myself for a ladies only trip.

I did this with my mom for my 13th Bday (we have the same bday) and it's one of my best memories. We did a spa treatment, tea, lots of girl things.

 

[amburger]

No from me as well. It wasn't long ago that I was that age (I'm 19), but I would still say no.

Hope you have a great trip!

 

[camdensmom]

#1 They are 15. There is a good chance the relationship won't last until February.

#2 I would not only be uncomfortable sharing the room, but to me a vacation should not be about constant chaperoning.

#3 Why does anyone need to go? If I read the original post correctly, it will be just your daughter and you otherwise? Sounds perfect.

#4 At 15 your time is very limited with your daughter. I would find a family vacation at that point far too precious to share.

 

[MSSANDRA]

Well my DH's cousin let her daughter (14) go with her BF's family on a trip about a year and a half ago. They now have a beautiful baby girl!!!!!!!!!

I can see no good that could come out of taking him.

Enjoy the mother -daughter trip!!