DD doesn't want me doing to Disney!!

[MemoryMakers2669]

OK, I just got back from Disney. 10 days for Christmas, me, DH and our two dd's, 3 and 6. I went three times last year, June, Sep and Dec. We go a lot! I have three trips planned this year, May, Sep and Oct/Nov.

Well, dd6 has Monday off from school, so we planned a few weeks ago to go just for the three day weekend, leaving dd3 with grandma. A DING fare came up that we just couldn't pass up and we used credits to get them...didn't cost us anything extra. We have APs, and are DVC members. So, very inexpensive trip!

Well, this past week a bunch of stuff has come up for this weekend and I am just feeling the need to stay home. DH still wanted to go though and I suggested that he and DD6 still go, without me. He is fine with it, so we told DD about the surprise trip yesterday. She is beyond thrilled that her and her daddy are going alone! They are VERY close and he will do great down there with just the two of them.

Well today, I was able to get the resort switched from SSR to Boardwalk which is HUGE for them...since they are doing MGM and Epcot (twice)!

Now things look OK for me to go and with it being Boardwalk I actually want to go!!! My airfare is still there, haven't canceled that yet.

But DD is having a fit, she says I get to go a lot and she never gets to just go with daddy!

So, would you step back and not go or just not care how your 6 year old felt?

 

[MiniGirl]

My first instinct would be to let my dd have her special time with Daddy. It is so fleeting, and so very important.

Now, that said, the only concern I'd have with my dh taking my dd to WDW would be the bathrooms. I know there are several places with family restrooms, but there are also quite a few places where that option is not available. Are ya'll comfortable allowing your dd to go into the women's room by herself? What would your dd do while dad was in the restroom? Things like that. Certainly isn't a problem that is insurmountable. I would just have a plan of action in place.

 

[Whosemom]

It sounds like you go enough to let them have this one special time. You and the little one can find something special close to home and it will be a weekend everyone remembers for a long time.

 

[Tess'smom]

What would you think about going along for the trip and letting the two of them spend an entire day together? Maybe you could do something for yourself, like a spa day and just meet them for dinner. Then maybe your DD won't feel like she doesnt have special quality time with DH.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

Oh, I never thought about the bathroom issue!!! Oh gosh, not sure how to deal with that one. I know when he and dd went to a Redskins game last month, he had his friends girlfriend take her.

I will ask him how he is going to handle that and see what he says! Wouldn't make me feel I had to go though, they will deal with it and she is an awesome kid for listening and would stand where he told her to and not move. Someone would have to drag her off kicking and screaming to get her to move. Not like dd3, who would go with anyone and wouldn't stay still for all the M&Ms in the world!

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

It sounds like you go enough to let them have this one special time. You and the little one can find something special close to home and it will be a weekend everyone remembers for a long time.

Yeah, I do! DH and the girls only get to go once a year really. DDs did go with me last June, but other than that, they only get the late fall/winter trips. My Sep. trips is just me and friends and May is Girls Week, so again only me.

You are right, they need this time. I planned for my sister to come this weekend and we are doing dinner and a movie and probably scrapbooking. And I am going in just a little over three months!

UGH, I want to go and stay at the Boardwalk!

Oh, and they would be going to MGM alone, and eating at 50s without me if I did go. So, they would get plenty of time without me.

 

[java]

Umm she is 6 and calling the shots? If you want to go- go. I think you could call this a special- no little sister trip for her. I wouldn't take it personal either-she is just flexing some independence muscle.. But if you want to go to the boardwalk then hope on along....

 

[Barb D]

I agree with the PP about going along but letting them have the park time for themselves. You could just go to a different park. I would LOVE to have time by myself to, say, walk around the EPCOT countries at my own pace.

As for the bathroom issue, there are family restrooms in the parks. If there's an emergency and no family restroom nearby, have your DH take her into the men's room, covering her eyes until he gets her into a stall.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

NO, she isn't calling any shots!! She actually thinks I am going and isn't very happy about it, but will get over it if I do decide to go. She can want me to stay home all she wants. It isn't like we had this planned with us all and she decided I wasn't going. All she ever knew was it was just her and daddy and she has her heart set on that.

Me not going is due to other issues and yet another one came up! One of my original issues just got bigger, so I think that will be the end all for me. I am the assistant in the 3-4 year old room at church. The teacher is leaving in just three weeks, due to having a baby and is taking a break until next year. So, I am taking over and really need to be there every week until she leaves and beyond. I wasn't there for two weeks while we were at Disney, came back for one week, missed the next and then was there this last week. Then here I am leaving again! I have to get consistant with being there every week, so decided I just wasn't going to Disney this weekend due to this...and two other reasons (one being Open House for dd3s Pre-school Monday morning, really need to go to that).

Anyway, the teachers little girl broke her leg yesterday!!!!! She just turned two and the mother is giving birth in a few weeks, and now this. So, I will be taking over in class THIS week it seems!

 

[ilovejack02]

NO, she isn't calling any shots!! She actually thinks I am going and isn't very happy about it, but will get over it if I do decide to go. She can want me to stay home all she wants. It isn't like we had this planned with us all and she decided I wasn't going. All she ever knew was it was just her and daddy and she has her heart set on that.

Me not going is due to other issues and yet another one came up! One of my original issues just got bigger, so I think that will be the end all for me. I am the assistant in the 3-4 year old room at church. The teacher is leaving in just three weeks, due to having a baby and is taking a break until next year. So, I am taking over and really need to be there every week until she leaves and beyond. I wasn't there for two weeks while we were at Disney, came back for one week, missed the next and then was there this last week. Then here I am leaving again! I have to get consistant with being there every week, so decided I just wasn't going to Disney this weekend due to this...and two other reasons (one being Open House for dd3s Pre-school Monday morning, really need to go to that).

Anyway, the teachers little girl broke her leg yesterday!!!!! She just turned two and the mother is giving birth in a few weeks, and now this. So, I will be taking over in class THIS week it seems!

I would just let baby girl go with her daddy by herself, since yall go so often. This really isnt an issue of her calling the shots lol. She wants some special daddy time. As far as the bathroom situation, im sure your DH is a big boy, and i bet he will figure it out. Just tell him to make sure he finds the family friendly bathrooms on the map and hit them when he sees them. They will be fine and what sweet memories they will have. You can DD3 can have some special time together while they are gone.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

Yeah, she has spend the last 24 hours since we told her (originally she wasn't going to find out until Sat. at 4AM when we woke her to get dressed to go to the airport) in absolutely heaven that they were going. They had the whole thing planned out too, it was very cute. Then I got the Boardwalk and thought it wouldn't kill me to miss one more week in Sunday School. I told her I might go with them (she never knew I was going in the first place) and she was so disappointed.

And they will figure out the bathroom thing, they already have. They spent a day alone at Epcot last month and dd told me just a little bit ago that she went into the mens room with him. Not sure if they used the Family ones or not. They will do fine either way.

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

DH just walked in and said...with a look of "do I look like an idiot", that he will just take her in with him. That is what he did before and they walk straight in and to a stall.

 

[Hannathy]

Let them go ! My DD and her Dad got to spend time together alone when she was little because I was taking care of my Mom who was dieing so several trips alone and weekends and even a week occasionally at home while I was in PA with my Mom. And now at 15 her and her Dad are still close and get along really well. I think it is because of these private times that they bonded so well. She will feel so grown up to go with out her Mommy! I bet she will remember this trip all her life.

 

[almburr]

moms take kids into the woman bathroom all the time, Dads can do that to .

 

[meandtheguys2]

What a great memory for a kid. Too many are living without involved dads.

I'm sorry that you can't go along, though, due to your SS class! That poor mom! It is great for her that you are jumping in there!

 

[crzyred]

coming from someone who's not really close to her parents, i think this idea is great. i would have loved for some alone time with either of my parents growing up (we probably wouldn't have the relationship we do now). i agree, that too many kids have a parent that is basically doesn't exsist in their lives (how sad). but what a cool thing for your daughter so be able to say that it was just her and daddy! i can't imagine how special she must feel!

 

[MemoryMakers2669]

My girls are beyond lucky with having the dad they do, he really is awesome. Having done daycare all my life, I see so many dads that don't even change diapers, let alone take their kid to Disney for a trip!

I am officially not going and they are going alone! DH is so cute and has this whole plan...on his own, to get a Photopass and do as many pictures as they can....since they aren't taking a camera with them. DH is the picture/video guy around here, but isn't taking them along, since they don't want to worry about dragging them around all day long. He is just NOT a backpack guy and can't deal with having to remember he has a bag with him, etc. So, probably not a bad idea. They will just do the Photopass thing! I wish they had the ride pictures ready for that!?!

 

[LaraK]

I treasure my memories of Daddy-daughter days.....I think it's great that they're going together. I know my DD and DH have a special relationship as well.

 

[bucky1023]

I think it is great that she wants to spend time with her dad. If you go a lot I think you should let them do it. Or if you do go let them go off on their own during the day and meet up for dinner.

As for the bathroom I have seen dads bring their DD into the men's room a bunch of times. They will be fine and there is always the "family restrooms" they can use.

 

[java]

It sounds like it is going to be a daddy and her trip and it will be a great one for them! (sorry that you are missing out on the boardwalk... ) But it will make some great memories for them. And the bathroom thing will be fine- every child care center has a family bathroom. As for him taking her into a stall- that is great for her ...but think about the guys using the urinals when she walks in. I guess that would depend on your dd if she notices things or not. My dd would say- HEY WHY ARE THEY PEEING STANDING UP? can I try it? but that is her.
I so wish I had these kind of memories with my Dad! A trip just daddy and daughter will be special for years to come.