Dd 14 Is Really Upset With Me

[ptcruisermom]

Ok this may seem really silly to some of you, but DD14 is and 8th grade football cheerleader. They have a home game tomorrow. I just received a call from the cheer advisor stating she got called out of town, and would i be able to be at both the 7th and 8th grade games. The cheerleaders must have an adult there. I agreed to do this as I am usually home in time for both games. she was very very grateful for this, and it really isn't a big deal jsut keep an eye on the girls. She also stated to tell my daughter if I other team brought cheerleaders and I hadn't made it there yet for the 8th grade to help the 7th grade and go over with them to do the hello cheer. I said ok, but I should be there. So I get off the phone and DD 14 wanted to know what was going on and i told her and that cheer advisor was out of town, she said oh no your not, and I said yes I am, so i told her what cheer advisor told me about the hello cheer, and she said cheer advisor has told them they are not to cheer without an adult there, so I repeated that cheer advisor said to go ahead with the hello cheer if I wasn't there, DD 14 still argued with me and went slamming off to her room. I guess she is upset since I will be temporary cheer advisor tomorrow. Oh well nothing I can do, I will report her to cheer advisor if she doesnt' straighten up. ( a few of the girls have attitude problems at times with the cheer advisor but cheer advisor says she never has any problems with DD) I guess I embarrass her, oh well. Thanks for letting me vent. Probably doesnt' help that she got her period today. Oh yeah she immediately texted one of her friends when i told her.

 

[minkydog]

Oh, this is the first of many embarrassments, I'm sure. My DD is 15; she sings in a childrens choir. I'm the medical advisor, so she is completely mortified that I go on all the tours. I give out all the meds. And I chaperone all the concerts, too, and I'm friends with the director. Oh, the shame! the horror!

I figure if you're not embarrassing your teens, you're not doing it right

 

[mncherokee]

We all embarrass our teens! My DS wanted me to rush through his open house so he wouldn't be seen with me ! Maybe we are all just terribly embarrassing!

 

[dementia412]

My dh has already managed to mortify our ds ans he is only 7. My dh went to his class to ask the teacher about a supply list since we cannot fully trust our kids to bring things home and he hadn't gotten one yet. My dh said our ds rolled his eyes and hid his face in his hands when his dad showed up in class. Poor kid, how terrible!

 

[kellyg403]

I also seem to have the gift of embarrassing my children! I don't try too...just some natural ability I was born with like my mom was. Not too long ago my dd16 and I were at the bank and an older man said to dd, wow..you two look like twins. You would have though he said "whats that thing growing on your face". Dd was mortified. I was a little bit hurt about it since I do take care of myself and I wasn't wearing my bathrobe at the bank. She said I just don't understand. I guess I don't. My mom actually did come to my school in 9th grade wearing her bathrobe. I forgot my lunch one time in High School.

Kelly

 

[RumpleMom]

Be prepared to be embarrassing for a few more years.

Make sure you are well groomed and dressed appropriately, but not over dressed. Contact their teachers when necessary, but don't be a helicopter parent, and you will be doing a good job of parenting.


We told our daughters it just helped to build their character.

As they near going off to college, they don't mind being seen with the parents. When they are in college, they love going on vacation with the family because Mom and Dad are paying.

Once they are in their twenty's Mom and Dad aren't so dumb after all and are consulted on all kinds of things.

They will even walk with you in the mall again.

It is all about kids developing their own self-esteem and not really about you.

 

[TheRatPack]

My son had a trip to a small theme park about 2 hours away from home. Well, my oldest daughter and I dropped him off where the bus was picking them up and then followed the bus there (he thought we'd went home after dropping him off). I called him on his cell phone a few times and asked how the rides were, what he was doing...etc and my dd and I just kept to ourselves and rode rides, ate....etc. He got on the train and as he was riding around the park his friend pointed and said "Hey, isn't that your mom"....you should have seen the look on his face!!!!

He called me on the phone and asked what I was doing.....so I told him we'd decided to make a park day out of it too, and I figured he'd be embarrassed. Funny enough, he was glad I was there and he hung out with us the rest of the day.....part of that could have been he was already low on money LOL but still, I was glad to see he wasn't embarrassed by me By the end of the day we had about 10 kids (his friends) hanging around with us.

Now oldest dd...that's another story. LOL

 

[mncherokee]

My mom actually did come to my school in 9th grade wearing her bathrobe.
Kelly

I've gotta try that one!

 

[kellyg403]

Well, in her defense I deserved it. Before we all got out of the car she said "don't forget your lunches". She drove us this day since it was raining as normally we walked. Well, she got as far as the parking lot and saw my lunch with my name on it, parked the car and came running after me. Yes, the bell was getting ready to ring, the front halls were so crowded with arriving kids etc. So its just my plain bad luck she was being nice to me on that day and was wearing her pj's while she was doing it.

Yeah..it was real great to be me that day.

Kelly

 

[CampbellScot]

sounds pretty par for the course unfortunately.

I think your DD should remain respectful towards you, regardless of feeling embarrassed or whathaveyou.

that being said, girls this age are moody moody moody!

don't worry. You are doing a good thing supporting your dd's extra curricular activities. Girls her age NEVER want anyone to know that they actually have a mother!

 

[cheerforchelsea]

I have sat in for the cheerleader sponsor many times....the first time my daughter acted like yours....but the remaining 999 times she was ok with it...

 

[ptcruisermom]

Well the games went off just fine, no problems. My DD did come out last night and said mom please don't say too much just kind of sit there like Advisor does. Girls didn't seem to be too peppy tonight but was very hot and humid and they chose to leave their underliners on. Just had one girl more worried about a boy more then cheering and another that just wasn't very peppy. But overall they did a good job and were respectful. Did corner another mom and had her sit with me,. I know I know about the embarrasment thing, I too was embarressed at times by my mom when i was a teen, more so that I had an older mom and all the others had young mom's

 

[mommy-on-the-move]

I know I know about the embarrasment thing, I too was embarressed at times by my mom when i was a teen, more so that I had an older mom and all the others had young mom's

See, now you just can't win either way on this one- you were embarassed having an older mom, my eldest daughter is embarassed having a younger mom (well, if i'm honest the youngest mom in her school yard, I'm on average 10 or more years younger than most her peers mothers, 20+ years younger than some and 25 years younger than her bestfriends mother) She hates the fact people often assume I'm an older sister, cousin or babysitter (her first day of school they told her to give her sister a kiss bye and mom would pick her up later, we went to the cinema for her birthday with her friends and they assumed MY mother was her mother) her bestfriend gets embarassed her mom is an older mother, we just can't win!

 

[Robmom]

I am also an embarrassing mom. I thought I was the cool one. All my DD's seem to like me, but she hates when I talk to them. I remember one night, she called me to pick her up from dance school and I was in my PJ's. She told me not to pick her up unless I changed. I did unwillingly. How come the teens can walk around at all hours in PJ's but us mom's can't? How is it different?

 

[leebee]

I am the designated chapeone/chauffeur/go-to mom for my DD's performance team and ballet company, and it's a fine line I walk. I try hard to treat DD no differently than I do the other kids, and other parents have told me I do a good job of it. Still, DD bristles sometimes, thinking I am singling her out when I am in reality speaking to her as part of the group, or as I would to any other dancer in the group. Usually she is fine with me being along, and takes a little pride in knowing HER mom is the one that all the other kids rely on for all the little things. They argue over who will ride with me, who gets to stay in my room, and they all know that if there is ever an issue or emergency during a performance, their first reaction is "Find Sarah's mom" (i'm usually in the wings or backstage somewhere) and things will be fixed. Still, it's hard for DD sometimes, and I give her more leeway when we are with the group than I would if it was a family outing or something. I keep reminding myself I am involved as a chaperone and not a parent , and am trying not to overreact. Besides, I figure it's my job as a parent, to give my kid something to consult a shrink about when she is 40 !!

 

[SLK1]

Well, in her defense I deserved it. Before we all got out of the car she said "don't forget your lunches". She drove us this day since it was raining as normally we walked. Well, she got as far as the parking lot and saw my lunch with my name on it, parked the car and came running after me. Yes, the bell was getting ready to ring, the front halls were so crowded with arriving kids etc. So its just my plain bad luck she was being nice to me on that day and was wearing her pj's while she was doing it.

Yeah..it was real great to be me that day.

Kelly

This is a very funny story. Do you think you would have prefered to go without lunch that day, or her show up in the bathrobe??? Hmmmm....

 

[eliza61]

Aaah one of the many joys of parenthood. Some times I tell my teens that's my only enjoyment. Since I'm so busy working to pay for their cell phone, disney trips & clothes I don't have much time for entertainment. Embarassing them every now and then is how I keep my sparkling sense of humor. Next I'm pulling out baby pictures.

As another poster said "this too shall pass"